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ORIGINAL: catize

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Personally I don't believe in the 24/7 other than the relationship is 24/7. The things that were mentioned grocery shopping, working outside the home, cleaning, cooking well jesus everyone does that and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH D/s. Even if you were not in a D/s relationship you'd still have to cook, clean (well some people don't clean), get groceries, work a job or have some sort of income.

By "don't believe" do you mean it's what you believe is for you, or that you don't believe anybody does it? I mean, "24/7" isn't really about doing kinky things 24/7 - obviously that's unrealistic for the reasons you mention, plus I think you'd burn out if that was all you did every day - it's about the authority dynamic being there 24/7.

Exactly!
People are married 24/7, not just the few hours a day they spend together. I am a nurse 24/7, my degree is R.N. whether I am working or not.

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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

having been in the slammer on a number of occasions I can tell you it is in all honesty AS BORING AS TOE JAM PICKING.

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ORIGINAL: graceadieu

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ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

Personally I don't believe in the 24/7 other than the relationship is 24/7. The things that were mentioned grocery shopping, working outside the home, cleaning, cooking well jesus everyone does that and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH D/s. Even if you were not in a D/s relationship you'd still have to cook, clean (well some people don't clean), get groceries, work a job or have some sort of income.

By "don't believe" do you mean it's what you believe is for you, or that you don't believe anybody does it? I mean, "24/7" isn't really about doing kinky things 24/7 - obviously that's unrealistic for the reasons you mention, plus I think you'd burn out if that was all you did every day - it's about the authority dynamic being there 24/7.

Exactly!
People are married 24/7, not just the few hours a day they spend together. I am a nurse 24/7, my degree is R.N. whether I am working or not.

Yep I said I do not believe in 24/7 other than the relationship---kinky sex does not happen 24/7 and even though you are an RN 24/7 you are not literally nursing 24/7 although I am sure you can fall into that role in a nanosecond if needed. Just a side note---in my relationship there is no 'authority dynamic.' There doesn't need to be and there never will be. He does make final decisions but he does not demand I do things if he asks me to do something I normally do it---if I had a vanilla partner and he asked me for something more than likely I would. If he asks me to do something outrageous (which I doubt he would I am just saying) I would not. My partner does not need to micromanage me or leave me lists or assign me tasks---I just do what I need to do---on my resume it says self starter able to work without supervision. Shrugs---I am an adult---I don't need an authority dynamic. In the bedroom, that's different I like being 'told' what to do. And we can't be in that room 24/7.

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While it is true that I would have had to do those things anyway. I would not necessarily do them the same as I did when I was living with my Mistress 24/7. If I am living alone, I don't have to worry about what she wants for dinner, I could cook what ever I wanted or not cook at all. I don't have to worry about coming straight home from work, I could make plans on the spur of the moment and run with it. I wouldn't have to worry about leaving something to the next day to clean. I wouldn't have to discuss my job decisions with anyone, I would just make them on my own. If I went to the grocery store, I wouldn't have to take her preferences into account, I could buy what ever struck my fancy. Now I didn't trot off to Krogers on the end of a leash, but you better believe I kept her wants in the front of my mind when I was there. Evcn on the days she stayed home.

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Don't you thnk "kinky" is an attitude and outlook that accents but does not dominate and control the 24/7 relationship? Is it not a subconcious desire to spice a couple's life up in little ways mostly accented by private and sometimes public kink sessions but not a slave running around 24/7 in slave garb and collar?

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I haven't seen it either ><

Everyone should not only SEE Pulp Fiction, but also own Pulp Fiction.

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ORIGINAL: YouNeedToSpank

no, come on, except for the cage, this is the average marriage experience for a woman. she is expected to do everything for him, and she absolutely is legally property -- it is only very recently that all 50 states made it illegal to rape one's wife. The origin of "Mrs" is "Mr's," as in "belonging to Mr."

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ORIGINAL: MrsT301

It's an exciting idea but I don't think it would work for me and my husband. There is too much other stuff to do. Yes I find opportunities to "serve" by doing things like paying bills and going to the store and giving him back massages etc, but I don't feel really submissive doing those things as they have to be done anyway.
I'm sure there are some who take it a lot further but day to day things still have to be done.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
He is always the leader in this house, whether we are behaving in a vanilla manner or kinky manner.

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ORIGINAL: MrsT301
A lot of this is a matter of perspective. One person may see their relationship as 24/7 D/s and to another it is just a traditional marriage with a strong head of household. Which is fine however someone chooses to view their relationship.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
Is that "kinky D/s" or "head of household"?? I don't know. Does it matter? I have a woman who's willing to wear/do whatever I want to please me.

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It's a good thing no matter how you look at it