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Very new, very curious! - 1/24/2012 7:37:26 PM

cattycrz

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I am VERY new to this lifestyle, and very curious about all the possibilities!I'm a 33 year old happily married woman, and we have been in the swinger lifestyle since day one of our relationship. By personality, I'm VERY domme, and even a bit sadistic. I've always been strong willed, stubborn, and want to be in control. But with my husband, I find it hard to be sexually dominant. I've always talked about wanting my very own "bitch boy", to use as I see fit, and though my hubby can be very submissive, I can't do that to him either!
Recently, we met a man who we had an incredible 3 some with. I've found out that he considers himself D, and he plans to "show" me this the next time we are together.
I've also met a willing male sub. online. He too. plans to visit soon.
So, the question is, is it really possible for me to switch? I've gotten mixed answers when I've asked each man, including my hubby. Thanks in advance for your insight on this!

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RE: Very new, very curious! - 1/24/2012 8:13:04 PM

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You could be submissive to someone if he inspires that in you.

As far as bottoming, meaning receiving sensations instead of giving them, anyone can try it. However there's no guarantee you'll enjoy it. Or that what this dom plans to do to you is something you would like. I suggest you google bdsm checklist and go through it. See if the idea of having any of those things done to you appeals. If so, then tell this guy that these are the things you want to try.

You also need a way to stop it if you decide you don't like it at all. Are you sure that if he has you restrained and you tell him to stop, that he will listen?

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RE: Very new, very curious! - 1/25/2012 9:20:38 AM

cattycrz

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You also need a way to stop it if you decide you don't like it at all. Are you sure that if he has you restrained and you tell him to stop, that he will listen?

Thank you for your insight! My husband would be present while this is all going on, so I'm not too worried about things getting out of control, and there is going to be a lot of communication between all 3 of us BEFORE anything happens. My hubby has some specific things he does NOT want to see happen, and he's made that clear to the other man.

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