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Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 5:05:39 AM

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as a Mistress, do You prefer to dominate an already girlyboy man, or mr. macho man? now i realize this question crosses a generalization line, but i only seek Your initial instinctive Opinion. i truly hope a lot of You answer as i would like to see a concensus, one way or the other.
thank You,in advance'
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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 5:59:47 AM

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He doesn't have to be a macho man but, I prefer a man over a girly boy...

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 6:09:56 AM

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He doesn't have to be a mocho man but, I prefer a man over a girly boy...

A funny typo, in spanish. Because... this is a "mocho":

http://www.complementosdistefano.eu/fregona%20roja.jpg

So... a "mocho man" would spend his days... mopping the floor.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 6:47:31 AM

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I like both, but then I am very dual natured. I've had a soft spot in my heart for the girly CD for many years.

I also luuuuuv bringing the big strong macho types to their knees at my feet.

I think you will find, OP, that as a general rule, the uber girly types tend to be most appreciated by those like me who have a "thing" for it.

However, as has been pointed out in another thread, there is nothing wrong with being middle of the road, or a combination of the two.

Forget "what Mistresses want" and spend time getting to know who and what you are, and then spend more time accepting it and loving it. Then you are ready to seek someone who loves you for who you are.

Now, if you just want a play partner, well hell, that is different.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 7:56:49 AM

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I love a pretty man and I love him to be a little prettified. But, I don't, necessarily, want him in a skirt. At least, I don't want him running to get that skirt. I want it to be my idea.

He could wear a kilt, mebbe. It's not obviously kinky. My mind just makes it so. *wavy lines denoting reminescence/flash back, now*:

It was the cutest boy, Paul W, from my middle school who got me turned on to men in kilts. We were both on vacation to the North Carolina mountains. My fam chose to check out the "Highland Games." I was walking around the clan tents (that's *Scottish Clans*, not the other kind!) with my g-mama and saw this cute, kilted lad just staring at me. I thought he liked me, liked me. It took me a few seconds to realize I recognized him and he was staring, because he couldn't believe that someone from his school was seeing him in his breezy get-up. He was blushing and that turned my little 12-year-old..*ahem* "heart" on.

"School girl" uniform, a la "Roger Taylor as Suzie Birchall in 'I Want to Break Free' video," I could do.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 8:17:22 AM

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I first liked the idea of men in stockings and heels from watching Tim Curry as Frank N'Furter, and also enjoying seeing Eddie Izzard do stand up.
The whole manly man looking all sexy like that was always a very nice idea, so feminizing my manly man has become something I've developed a huge liking for, and the fact he couldn't pass himself off as a woman if he wanted to in public makes it even better for me to enjoy in private.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 8:53:29 AM

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 9:01:00 AM

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Yep. Yummy, or what?

My man blames him for me liking it, and he's not wrong...

Mind you, my man does look just as sexy, if not more, dressed like that.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 9:12:07 AM

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I like men to be themselves, pretty much. I am not into girly men generally, but I've met a few that could have changed my mind.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 9:30:48 AM

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Do you mean feminine males or C/Ds?

I like men who are manly but not macho. I like some femininity in a male. I don't have much interest in C/Ds at all.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 10:44:37 AM

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I like my man to be himself, but I do like him to be a MAN. Not super macho, not girlie, but attractive comes in many individual and unique forms. Is it cliche to say that I like a man for his personality? Kind natured, HONEST, sincere and candid. The whole sissy thing kind of turns me off. If I do want him to wear girlie things, I want it him to do it for me, not him.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 3:02:25 PM

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My man is always himself. Even when I've got him dressed up, he's himself. I wouldn't want him any other way. The stockings and heels are just an added bonus.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 3:07:13 PM

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Derailing to say BLEARGH some dude with a dick pic has added me to his favourites. WHYYYY?? Am I not hostile enough?

Derailing over. Thanks.

Oh dear heaven he's a submission-is-a-gift-er. Yes, I reported his photo with several spastic clicks.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 3:22:30 PM

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I just like men who are themselves and aren't trying to be something they're not. But I'm going to say there's something special about an assertive man who's gifting his submission to me. It's just....special.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 3:53:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: michaelann

as a Mistress, do You prefer to dominate an already girlyboy man, or mr. macho man? now i realize this question crosses a generalization line, but i only seek Your initial instinctive Opinion. i truly hope a lot of You answer as i would like to see a concensus, one way or the other.
thank You,in advance'
respectfully,
michaelann.

I prefer a woman. A woman with no dick or testicles.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 6:13:10 PM

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I prefer a woman. A woman with no dick or testicles.

Move to the UK. At least half the women here are like that. ;-)

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 6:21:39 PM

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I prefer males who serve as males. CD/sissy dynamic doesn't do anything for me, especially when do-me guys bring it to the table. In that case it's just a plain turn-off.

If I wanted a female, I'd have one.

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 9:22:21 PM

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Hello Michaelann,

So I am not a mistress, but I am a girlile-boy submissive in service to a wonderful Lady Dominant. I will tell you here, that your post on this topic, "testing the waters" so to speak, is not the first, and has come off about like the ones in the past have done - most will say "No", one or two will say "Yes", and almost none will say "Maybe". Replies are couched in terms of preference and it's all good - no really it is all good.

It is a fact that most Dominant Women out there are looking for guys of the more masculine persuasion. And there is nothing at all wrong with that. People need to seek what they like and prefer so that they will be happy.

It does make the pool of women interested or even open to considering a guy who is intimately in-touch with his feminine side fairly small. And that is okay too.

I say it is okay too because the number of guys out there who have some sort of gender expression or kink going on - who are actually ready to engage with a Dominant Female - is even smaller. See many of my other posts as to why I think that.

What's important to me, and that I would like to point you to, is that there -are- Ladies out there who are open and even enthusiastic about having a "softer male" in their service.

But to catch their attention, IMO, you have to be something pretty special - someone who is sane, confident, competent, engaging, and interesting as a person first...and expressing a gender authenticity or even a kink around gender expression is -one facet- of you the overall well rounded person. Ready to engage with a Dominant Lady on Her terms, with your focus on her and not your kink.

That is not to say that we cannot have desires, but relationships work best when the two people involved are "facing each other" and are "Other Focused" rather than being solely focused on ourselves and an expression or a kink. And that is where many many guys out there fall down - they are still just looking inward rather than looking out and putting their focus on "the other".

Anyhoo...my 2c on the subject. Don't put too much stock in anything you read online, and remember that interacting with actual people in your local kink community is I think the BEST way to meet someone.

Cheers! :)

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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/4/2012 9:34:42 PM

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God, you're a good egg, Otters. Have I said that recently? Well, no matter. it deserves to be re-said. You may well be a 'girly-boy', but you're a girly-boy with titanium bollocks. It takes that, I think, for a man to be as much a girly-boy as you are, and beat all the crap out of the way to get to that place.

I hope you and Mrs Swim are fine, happy and healthy. I'm so proud of you both.

Simon
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RE: Your Opinion please - 3/5/2012 7:29:33 AM

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Hihi Simon! :) Thanks for your kind words! You would have been proud of me yesterday - "one of my most masculine moments"... I was covered head to toe with deck stain, scratched by branches and dirty down to my very core (I mean with actual dirt!) But we now have a freshly stained arbor with trimmed down honeysuckle that looks great and will weather and last longer and the plants will thrive better in the coming summer! :)

When are you coming for a visit? Thunder is in July you know.

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