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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/11/2007 10:15:14 AM   
ElizabethAnne


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Thadius,

As far as your "ramblings"....do you have my email address???  I for one enjoy reading your posts, always thought provoking.

Liz

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/11/2007 2:00:24 PM   
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Afternoon to you too... (and a wonderful day here in San Francisco I will add).



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  Actually most if not all are drawn from religion or some other belief system that is not based in fact but in faith.



"I would suggest that many of the religious laws you speak of are based on the traditions of man, yet still retain the underlying foundations of natural law."

And which one's do you speak of? There is always the underlying foundation of nature, even if Man, makes up a few 'laws' that he 'thinks' should apply.

Further, (which I forgot to reference above) you mention many writers, and historical documents that may include that that of nature. Ok. ... what of the reminder within said texts, laws, or the like? Kinda like the cafeteria, take what "you want" then try to justify it, then turn around and nay say the rest. The Catholic Church (among other demonitions) tend to to do this, as a matter of fact started many wars over the same.

"Hobbes suggests that natural law is the basis (general rule) that is found out by reason that "man is forbidden to do that which is destructive of his life, or takes away the means of preserving the same; and to omit that by which he thinks it may best be preserved." 

Man will always be destructive Man will always create as well. A vicious circle but true. Omit nothing, for doing so, ignores or denies the very thing "you purport" as well.



"In his treatise Leviathan he lays out 9 laws:
There are nine Laws. The first two are expounded in chapter XIV ("of the first and second natural laws; and of contracts"); the others in chapter XV ("of other laws of nature").

"His first Law of nature is that every man ought to endeavour peace, as far as he has hope of obtaining it; and when he cannot obtain it, that he may seek and use all helps and advantages of war. "

Oh. You mean be that preditor, that would otherwise violate an entire host of laws that are made by man.... ~smiles.  Survival would so demand.
  • The second Law of nature is that a man be willing, when others are so too, as far forth, as for peace, and defence of himself he shall think it necessary, to lay down this right to all things; and be contented with so much liberty against other men, as he would allow other men against himself.

Only limited by your own sword per se against others?

"The third Law is that men perform their covenants made. In this law of nature consisteth the fountain and original of justice... when a covenant is made, then to break it is unjust and the definition of injustice is no other than the not performance of covenant. And whatsoever is not unjust is just. "

Overriden time and time again by Survival. I tend not to worry about any laws when it comes to my own survival. This is of course me.

"The fourth Law is that a man which receiveth benefit from another of mere grace, endeavour that he which giveth it, have no reasonable cause to repent him of his good will. Breach of this law is called ingratitude. "

Graditude like respect is optional, and again overriden time and time again (among us preditors that is). To paraphrase, "Time enough for "gratitude" in the grave".
However, from time to time, I express gratitude....when I wish to.

"The fifth Law is complaisance: that every man strive to accommodate himself to the rest. The observers of this law may be called sociable; the contrary, stubborn, insociable, forward, intractable. "

There is a time to be sociable and/or the diplomate, there are other times not to be.

"The sixth Law is that upon caution of the future time, a man ought to pardon the offences past of them that repenting, desire it. "

If it is pleasing to do so...otherwise it is perfectly nature to hold that grudge, yet everything one does, has a consquence of more or less.


"The seventh Law is that in revenges, men look not at the greatness of the evil past, but the greatness of the good to follow. "

Revenge is both used by good and evil, like war.

"The eighth Law is that no man by deed, word, countenance, or gesture, declare hatred or contempt of another. The breach of which law is commonly called contumely. "

Well, many breached this one....again such things are within nature of the human specie and others.

"The ninth Law is that every man acknowledge another for his equal by nature. The breach of this precept is pride. "

People do not have pride?

I dont think this fellow has ever had a knife to his throat, or been in any other type of survival situation. I could of course be mistaken.


"While I understand your point about society trying to use laws to make all beings equal, and the obvious contradiction that it poses.  In the eyes of the law all are equal, at least have the same rights guaranteed them."

In the eyes of the law, the same purports equality but really the law makes accomodations under a certain set of circumstances. e.g. is why you have the many many many court opinions etc.



"Afterall, we are not all the same, hence not equal.  Our place in nature is equal though, as nature will treat each of us equally and it is our unique abilities, genes, and makeup that will decide the outcome of that treatment."

Since when will nature treat us equally? I remember in one of my olde reference books it had a picture a straw embedded into a tree, yet mentioned also picking up a chicken and safetly landing the same miles away. IT being a hurricane.



"Alot of the religious "taboos" are in place for health reasons as well... for example: The not eating of pork in some religions, if you look at when and where those religions were founded it makes perfect sense.  Slaughtering a pig out in the desert, is going to lead to some serious health concerns if not done properly and if it is not eaten quickly.  There are many more examples of this but I think my point is made."

....I wouldnt disagree. But doesnt mean the same is not within nature.

"To your Mormon paradox, the laws of society state that marraige is between one man and one woman; even that is being argued and debated in legislatures and courtrooms across the country....  "

No, in "your" religion and ways, not that of the Mormons, nor the Hindu, nor the Muslins..etc.

"If by religious belief a man wishes to have more than one wife, he is free to do so via his religious practices... the old render unto Ceasar what is Ceasar's....  The state cannot regulate what one does as part of a religious ceremony, save it doesn't involve other crimes (murder, rape, etc...); therefore if a man has more than one wife married to him via religious ceremony he is not violating the law, as he is not asking for anything from the state.  This also gets around the various interstate commerce statutes.  Then again I am just a lay person, so my opinions are just that my opinions."

Yes he is violating the Western Culture's set of laws, and the majority thereof being of a geo-christian belief. For example, it is actually a misdeamnor (if I recall correctly), to marry more than once while married to one other. In other states they have similar criminal laws.

The Mormons, the Hindu, the Muslims, cannot --legally-- have more than one wife, however some do practice the same, even though it is illegal in all 50 states of the United States, and other Western Styled type countries. Noone really just enforces the illegalities. Again, and example of a lifestyle that is inherently illegal but in fact practiced.

"My questions still go unanswered, except with a sweeping little comment.  I am getting used to your attempts to deflect and redirect.  If you wish to pursue this dialogue with me, I expect at least some give and take; if that is to much to ask, c'est la vie.  I will gladly save my ramblings for other avenues."


and that question is  (perhaps do a one liner)? I can certainly of claimed the same about my Mormon comments, yet it took me to specifically address it for you to respond.


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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/11/2007 3:25:23 PM   
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Evening Rapture,

Just to touch on something quickly as I will address the rest in a later post.

The laws that apply to marriage apply to marriages that have sought license.  If they applied to other relationships there would be alot more people guilty of breaking those laws simply because of common law.  So again, if a man takes 3 women in a religious ceremony the courts have nothing to say in the matter unless said people are under the age of majority.

"My" religious beliefs or the texts on which they are based, discuss many instances of a man having more than one wife, as long as he is able to support such.  If I choose to have more than one woman in my house that is servicing me domesticly, sexually, and in all other ways, what law would prevent such?  Perhaps, if I was keeping them against their will, but that is another topic.

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/11/2007 5:19:12 PM   
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"Just to touch on something quickly as I will address the rest in a later post."

"The laws that apply to marriage apply to marriages that have sought license."

That is not so Thadius. You may have a confidential marriage, which can be performed by a notary within the guildlines set forth in a particular state's law or laws, you can have a marriage as you put it getting the license and being married etc etc etc., and in the non-community property states, you have what is called common law marriage.  Further, you can in some states have what is called Domestic Partners which is not marriage but affords most if not all of the rights of being married to said domestic partners. (again you can only have two people in any of these). However, there is a thing called co-habitation  (more commonly known as Palimony) that stems out of contract which to my understanding you can have numerous persons co-habitating and thus the terms and conditions of how property and debt etc etc can be divided or what have you. However, like any contract you cannot have said terms contradict or be in violation of the penal code. This would create an unforceable contract or term within the same.


"If they applied to other relationships there would be alot more people guilty of breaking those laws simply because of common law.  So again, if a man takes 3 women in a religious ceremony the courts have nothing to say in the matter unless said people are under the age of majority."

Unfortunitly, no state will reconize a marriage, domestic partnership, or even a common law marriage of more than two persons at a time. Co-Habitation to my understanind will.

""My" religious beliefs or the texts on which they are based, discuss many instances of a man having more than one wife, as long as he is able to support such.  If I choose to have more than one woman in my house that is servicing me domesticly, sexually, and in all other ways, what law would prevent such?  Perhaps, if I was keeping them against their will, but that is another topic."

No, the law would not allow you to be -married- to more than on person at a time, no matter what your religious belief are. Eg. the Mormon example along with the Hindu and Muslim are clear.

However, no matter how illegal muliptial wives is, which it is, some practice the same even though they may be sanctioned by the law. Further, the same being illegal as I previously stated has not nor will ever negate the practice, ethos, or what have you from said way of life-the way is just illegal under Western Style of societies laws and thusly provides a consquence for the practice thereof. Some just risk the consequence(s) that society at large as codified as laws, the same, not being negated just because of their respective illegality.

You can have as many women in your house as you like, but you can only be -legally- married to one of them no matter what State you are in, in the United States. However, the above as I statted, applies there is no negation of the underlying ethos, it, being married to multipal women, is merely illegal according to socieites laws.

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/11/2007 9:10:42 PM   
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Rapture,

I guess my point was not very clear.  I was not referring to having the state recognize anything.  I was not talking about getting a license or having anything notarized.  I am speaking strictly of the religious ceremony, if a person takes those vows to another person or persons in a ceremony because of religious beliefs, how can a state if not involved say anything to the contrary.  The covenant that is made (supposedly) during a religious ceremony between partners is only binding between them and their god.  A marriage license these days is hardly worth the paper it is written on anyways, the only benefit from doing such as I have discussed in other threads would be the possible tax and financial benefits from saving on medical insurance. 

I completely agree that it is illegal to have more than one wife in the eyes of the law, or to try and have a state sanction such.  To compare that act of bigamy to the other issues though seems like comparing apples to oranges; although I will say that breaking the law is breaking the law.  That would be the only legitimate comparison in that they are both illegal.  By the way are you saying that having more than one wife is a cornerstone of the Mormon faith?  Or was it a practice started to help bring the populations up in certain communities (which became an excuse to continue such)?  There is a slippery slope here, if the legal definitions of marriage are changed to reflect preferences, where does it stop?  Age? Non-human? Family?  It is also not an arguement that I am not prepared or willing to get into.

I do not see where your point of because certain members of religions or cultures may or may not break the law in their marraige practices is on issue or even relevant to being Gorean.  I could use the same logic and sound out in left field too... Here let me try it.  The fundamentalists that blow up abortion clinics are Christian (so they claim), and therefore show that it is possible to live as a Christian and kill innocent people.... In other parts of the world there are people blowing up schools and hospitals in the name of Allah, are we to believe they are following what Islam teaches and that the blowing up of such places is part of the Islamic faith?  I think not.  While there are extremes to each and every culture, the bent views that they hold are not that of the core beliefs.  If you change the bits and pieces you like and dislike, is it the same philosophy? Or is it just a splinter off of the block of wood?

I asked you a few posts ago, if everything is exceptable, and if all examples are valid, then what is the point of being one thing or the other? Why should anybody strive to be anything or to improve, afterall everything has value in what you claim, therefore it is all worth exactly the same.... nothing.  That is part of the problems with society, there is no recognition of good and bad, right and wrong, beauty and ugliness.  Being afraid to cast judgement or pat somebody on the back because one might offend those that lost or failed, is forcing a scary downward spiral.  If you want to be part and parcel to the greying of black and white, so be it.  I will not try to skirt the law, or improve my ability to do so.  I will not work on my skills at living outside of the law, as you suggest takes talent, and not all of us are as skilled or talented as you.  I will however work on getting laws I disagree with changed, via grassroots efforts, voting, and even the occasional canvassing of congresional doorsteps and email boxes. 

I am glad that you survived your ordeal in Nov., but to act as if you are the only person that has faced such things is a bit egocentric and at the very least naive.  If that is the only incident that has happened to like that, then I would call you lucky.  Half of the guys I hung out with while growing up are in the cemetary, and the other half should be.  That's enough rambling.

The fact that you would not respect the ownership of somebody elses property speaks volumes.  Be it a car or a slave, if it doesn't belong to you keep your hands off, unless given permission.  It's not a hard rule to grasp, but you seem to think that it applies only because of manmade law.  In nature, a den, a cave, a hunting ground, or even mates are marked as such with scent and other means; most times others of that species will respect those markings, sometimes they are ignored because of true need (food, water, life).  When those marking are ignored, usually letting the other beast know that it is spoken for does the trick, if not, there may be a fight.  You seem to only want to focus on the fight part of it.  Most animals will avoid the fight because of the risk of injury or death and the ammount of energy that will be wasted even if they win.  Let's touch on the pack mentality for a moment as well (since you brought it up awhile ago), have you seen what becomes of an outcast wolf?  IF it is strong enough to survive long enough on it's own, and IF it is able to prosper it MAY actually be able to find a new territory and a mate. However, that is in the rare instance, most of the time they wind up dead. Be it from starvation or being killed off by another animal or pack.  If one chooses to live out on the fringe of the fringe, they can expect to be called upon it eventually.

To the matter of nature treating everything the same... You used a hurricane as an example, is the wind not the same for everything that is hit by it?  Is not the rain exactly the same?  Nature does not change because one is a blade of grass or an oak, the effect it has varies depending on the makeup, genes, and position of what it is applied to.  A 150mph wind hitting a willow and a piece of straw will certainly have different outcomes, but it is still a 150mph wind.  Nature therefore applies itself equally, the results are just not the same.

That's it for me for tonight,
Thadius

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/12/2007 8:25:45 AM   
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Thadius,

"I guess my point was not very clear.  I was not referring to having the state recognize anything.  I was not talking about getting a license or having anything notarized.  I am speaking strictly of the religious ceremony, if a person takes those vows to another person or persons in a ceremony because of religious beliefs, how can a state if not involved say anything to the contrary.  The covenant that is made (supposedly) during a religious ceremony between partners is only binding between them and their god.  A marriage license these days is hardly worth the paper it is written on anyways, the only benefit from doing such as I have discussed in other threads would be the possible tax and financial benefits from saving on medical insurance. "

To the most part this thread between you and I has been illegal vs legal vs within or not within a particular ethos. The thread basically, without going through 9 pages of posts, has been it is illegal in the eyes of the society and thus not within a particular way of life or ethos. I said that was incorrect in saying just because something is illegal does not negate said practice just because in the eyes of society said practice is illegal in the eyes of society.

Parties as you state can have an internal arrangement that could be in fact illegal in the eyes of society or should I say societies laws. This would however denote to my position in that a particular ethos though being illegal in the eyes of society (the law) can be practiced and is practiced.

"I completely agree that it is illegal to have more than one wife in the eyes of the law, or to try and have a state sanction such. "

Yes.


To compare that act of bigamy to the other issues though seems like comparing apples to oranges; although I will say that breaking the law is breaking the law.  "

Not at all. It is a practice as you seemingly noted in your first paragraph would otherwise be illegal but practiced nonetheless by and between the internal makeup of individuals or a small (relatively speaking) of people. E.g. Those Mormons, Hindu, and Muslims who do in fact practice bigamy here in the U.S. but risk ramifications/consequences of society but nonetheless keep practicing it since it is their particular ethos and way of life.

"That would be the only legitimate comparison in that they are both illegal.  By the way are you saying that having more than one wife is a cornerstone of the Mormon faith?"

It is an aspect of it, not the entire cornerstone.

"Or was it a practice started to help bring the populations up in certain communities (which became an excuse to continue such)?  There is a slippery slope here, if the legal definitions of marriage are changed to reflect preferences, where does it stop?  Age? Non-human? Family?  It is also not an arguement that I am not prepared or willing to get into."

....I suppose we can infer a lot of reasons for bigamy and against. I do not think any of us could really hit the nail on the head without really purely speculating as to why or why not but the practice surely exists and even today, is a part of their respective lives, is illegal, and the illegality does not negate the practice or way of life so practiced.

"I do not see where your point of because certain members of religions or cultures may or may not break the law in their marraige practices is on issue or even relevant to being Gorean."

As some practices within the Gorean scheme of things are in fact illegal in the eyes of society is as with the ways of the Mormons, et al., the same being illegal did not nor will ever actually negate the way of life or its respective practice. Just as in the Gorean ethos.


"I could use the same logic and sound out in left field too... Here let me try it.  The fundamentalists that blow up abortion clinics are Christian (so they claim), and therefore show that it is possible to live as a Christian and kill innocent people.... In other parts of the world there are people blowing up schools and hospitals in the name of Allah, are we to believe they are following what Islam teaches and that the blowing up of such places is part of the Islamic faith?  I think not.  While there are extremes to each and every culture, the bent views that they hold are not that of the core beliefs.  If you change the bits and pieces you like and dislike, is it the same philosophy? Or is it just a splinter off of the block of wood?"

Thadius, you may or may not like something, I may or not like something, some other persons way of life may be totally adverse to you and to me, but what it boils down is that the world isnt all peaches and creme nor politically correct as society would otherwise preach. Further, there are no Utopias, and if you or I do not like something we will do one of a few things; 1) ignore it, 2) complain about it but do nothing, or 3) do something about it.

As with the traditions of the Mormons, et al. someone long ago told them either stop doing what they are doing else we are not going to allow Utah to become a state. They had a choice, they chose to become a state, and stopped at least officially the practice of bigamy. This however did not prevent others from continuing to practice.

So in your hypothetical if you do not like a particular practice of someone you face them up. However, this would require to violate their respective sensibilities, and would also require to take a stand.

I am not saying I agree with the bombing of clinics and such I am saying within a particular ethos a practice is and can be illegal but the same illegaty does not negate that particular ethos.


"I asked you a few posts ago, if everything is exceptable, and if all examples are valid, then what is the point of being one thing or the other?"

Could you be more specific? Your question is compounded and vague. In attempt to answer, not everything is relevant, not everything will be accepted by everyone else, but this does not again negate a particular way of life or ethos as it was _truly_ meant and intended to be.

"Why should anybody strive to be anything or to improve, afterall everything has value in what you claim, therefore it is all worth exactly the same.... nothing.  That is part of the problems with society, there is no recognition of good and bad, right and wrong, beauty and ugliness."

Good does Evil; Evil does Good to perserve itself. Talk to the supervisors and mayors office about that (inside joke if you dont get it I will explain). Who ever is left standing per se I suppose won the day (that would of course cause one being more of a preditor per se than the other).


"Being afraid to cast judgement or pat somebody on the back because one might offend those that lost or failed, is forcing a scary downward spiral."

You should know by now I am not afraid to cast judgment even in the light of being moderated. Yet many are afraid is why to the most part not many participate in these various forums. However, when you do participate you open the door to someone judging you. I have never really banned anyone for having a different opinion than I, I would address that judgment or opinion and that person.

"If you want to be part and parcel to the greying of black and white, so be it.  I will not try to skirt the law, or improve my ability to do so."

I like using the law, the same is a tool, not unlike a hammer or sword. If you know the elements of something you can really have more freedom to do or not to do.

"I will not work on my skills at living outside of the law, as you suggest takes talent, and not all of us are as skilled or talented as you.  I will however work on getting laws I disagree with changed, via grassroots efforts, voting, and even the occasional canvassing of congresional doorsteps and email boxes."

That certainly is one method. Another method is challenging said law or laws. For example the sodomy law in Texas was recently challenged and declared unconsitutional. In recent history if you note my journal more and more case law is being developed as to the 1st Amendment and these chat venues (which freedom of speech even when 'moderated' applies).

"I am glad that you survived your ordeal in Nov., but to act as if you are the only person that has faced such things is a bit egocentric and at the very least naive."

October.

"If that is the only incident that has happened to like that, then I would call you lucky.  Half of the guys I hung out with while growing up are in the cemetary, and the other half should be.  That's enough rambling."

Well, I will take luck, or with some others who have told me with tons more experience in emergency situations, that I had exceptional situational awareness.-yet that was their respective judgment. Admittedly, I was on the phone at the time of the attack, and was a tad distracted but nonetheless moved when I needed to move else I wouldnt be here.

"The fact that you would not respect the ownership of somebody elses property speaks volumes.  Be it a car or a slave, if it doesn't belong to you keep your hands off, unless given permission.  It's not a hard rule to grasp, but you seem to think that it applies only because of manmade law.  In nature, a den, a cave, a hunting ground, or even mates are marked as such with scent and other means; most times others of that species will respect those markings, sometimes they are ignored because of true need (food, water, life)."

....

"When those marking are ignored, usually letting the other beast know that it is spoken for does the trick, if not, there may be a fight.  You seem to only want to focus on the fight part of it."

A fight could occur...then again you mentioned you would handle things yourself if that occured with yours (if I recall correctly).

"Most animals will avoid the fight because of the risk of injury or death and the ammount of energy that will be wasted even if they win.  Let's touch on the pack mentality for a moment as well (since you brought it up awhile ago), have you seen what becomes of an outcast wolf?  IF it is strong enough to survive long enough on it's own, and IF it is able to prosper it MAY actually be able to find a new territory and a mate. However, that is in the rare instance, most of the time they wind up dead. Be it from starvation or being killed off by another animal or pack.  If one chooses to live out on the fringe of the fringe, they can expect to be called upon it eventually."

Most not all.... kinda like what you said if I recall correctly, you would take things upon yourself to deal with the person whom would take without your permission. However, this would be a skirt so to speak with the law, for you would be violating the law if you did this.

"To the matter of nature treating everything the same... You used a hurricane as an example, is the wind not the same for everything that is hit by it?  Is not the rain exactly the same?  Nature does not change because one is a blade of grass or an oak, the effect it has varies depending on the makeup, genes, and position of what it is applied to.  A 150mph wind hitting a willow and a piece of straw will certainly have different outcomes, but it is still a 150mph wind.  Nature therefore applies itself equally, the results are just not the same."

Was that the straw or the chicken?

Rapture

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/12/2007 9:36:14 AM   
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Morning Rapture,

This is becoming like a ritual eh?

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  So by your response I will assume that any and all behavior that man can conceive of is part and parcel of the ethos of being Gorean.  Why bother then?  What difference is there?



Because somebody that is a part of X does something, does not mean that those actions are part of the beliefs or ethos of X.  It has nothing to do with wether or not I like it. 

Anyways, I suppose we will have to agree to disagree. 

The example I gave of myself, may or may not involve breaking of the law, just that it is a possibility.  I still haven't learned what you believe is an inherent belief in the Gorean ethos that is illegal.  The ownership of slaves has nothing to do with being Gorean, at least in my opinion.  A man can be Gorean and have no desire to own a girl, or a man can own 20 and not be Gorean... it is a wash, therefore not inherent.  If one defines themselves by that which he owns, who really owns whom?

A straw and a chicken feel the same 150mph wind, it is their makeup that decides what that wind will do.

Time to eat,
Thadius

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/12/2007 3:30:11 PM   
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Tal and greetings all....

Just a quick comment.

The current state of practice in the US is to recognize the legal nature of marriages that are legal in the country they are performed in if the people involved are citizens of other countries. Thus a citizen of Saudia Arabia with multiple wives is considered legally married to all of them if he visits the US. This came up where I used to live because of all the Arab students at the university there, some of whom brought their wives with them. Most of the students who were married only had one wife and did not plan on more until they returned, so that wasn't a problem. However, a few who were older did come with all their wives and children and that caused a fuss for a short while.

Be well all....

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/13/2007 5:08:41 AM   
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So as long as the marriage is between two people and not more than that everyone is fine. No state reconizes at least legally multipal (more than two) person marriage, no matter what country one gets married in. Further, lately there has been the (if i recall the title correcty), the Defense of Marriage Act, which basically leaves such matters to the states.

Noone can quote any state law that allows for more than two within marriage.

Rapture

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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

Tal and greetings all....

Just a quick comment.

The current state of practice in the US is to recognize the legal nature of marriages that are legal in the country they are performed in if the people involved are citizens of other countries. Thus a citizen of Saudia Arabia with multiple wives is considered legally married to all of them if he visits the US. This came up where I used to live because of all the Arab students at the university there, some of whom brought their wives with them. Most of the students who were married only had one wife and did not plan on more until they returned, so that wasn't a problem. However, a few who were older did come with all their wives and children and that caused a fuss for a short while.

Be well all....

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/13/2007 5:21:05 AM   
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  So by your response I will assume that any and all behavior that man can conceive of is part and parcel of the ethos of being Gorean.  Why bother then?  What difference is there?


"Because somebody that is a part of X does something, does not mean that those actions are part of the beliefs or ethos of X.  It has nothing to do with wether or not I like it."

....perfectly natural for the male, as in your case, to seek who messed with their respective property.

"Anyways, I suppose we will have to agree to disagree."

If you like..

"The example I gave of myself, may or may not involve breaking of the law, just that it is a possibility."

So is the possibility as you say, take matters in your own hands, as with in your example of others who do the same within their own belief in their own respective jusification. The only difference is we are speaking about your backyard and not theirs.

"I still haven't learned what you believe is an inherent belief in the Gorean ethos that is illegal.  The ownership of slaves has nothing to do with being Gorean, at least in my opinion."

Actually owning slaves is inherently illegal in society at large. As with the 'freedom' to do so.

"A man can be Gorean and have no desire to own a girl, or a man can own 20 and not be Gorean... it is a wash, therefore not inherent.  If one defines themselves by that which he owns, who really owns whom?"

I would not necessarily disagree with this but we are not talking about ownership of a slave or not.

"A straw and a chicken feel the same 150mph wind, it is their makeup that decides what that wind will do."

Actually, that is not true, since the chicken would  have to been caught in different current so speak and be landed safetly while the straw remained in the fastest of currents and therefore penitrating the tree. I dont know of many foul that would survive moving 150mph. If you will note, that you mentioned the wind speed, not I.

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Time to do the run...

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/13/2007 7:23:51 AM   
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NIMBY (not in my backyard) has nothing to do with it.  It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them.

Ah but we are talking about things that were done by men in the novels.  Again you tiptoe around the issue.  While in the literal sense of the word Gorean it would refer to anybody of Gor, so in that way anything done by such a person would be Gorean.  The definition of what Gorean means to folks practicing the phillosophy is what and where you seem to apply the literal.  If there is no difference then between the 2 why do you bother?  Is it just a convienent label?  Or is it to help further your quest in getting laid?  Hmmm, perhaps I am just not privy to the second or third knowledge on such things...

In the example of a hurricane, I wonder if you believe that nature is picking and choosing each item it will blow against.  It is the same wind and the same rain, somethings are just better suited to handle those, or even just in a better position to handle them.  The wind and water will have various effects on that which they come in contact, not because the wind or water are varying but because the various things they hit are different.  In this nature is not playing favorites, it is just being nature.  If you wish to believe otherwise, that of course is your right.

I cannot own a slave legally, and with the legal definition of slavery here in the western world, I am limited.  I cannot sell a human being, I cannot buy a human being, slavery as we accept it is far removed from the legal definiition; it is consentual.  In that it is consentual, a slave retains their legal rights, while they may choose to not exercise them, they are still there.

Your skill at doublespeak is amazing, and I can understand why your profession of choice would be in the fields of lawyers.  "That is the beauty of arguing, if you are good enough at it you are never wrong (even when the facts do not support you)" from a commercial I recently heard for a documentary. 

Since your postion is that good is evil and evil is good, also that everything is okay because somebody else is doing it. It would seem that your judgements (and the ones you think belong to others) are based on your emotional state at the time.  If there is no black and white areas, how can you find the edges of the grey?  It sounds like a very fuzzy image to me.  You are at least true to yourself, which is more than some folks have going for them.  My time can be better spent though.

Have a good day,
Thadius

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/13/2007 4:36:06 PM   
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"It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them."

Exactly, even within the ethos but illegal.

"Ah but we are talking about things that were done by men in the novels."

Ah but we are not.

"Again you tiptoe around the issue."

Nope. -"It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them." ~~Exactly, even within the ethos but illegal."


"While in the literal sense of the word Gorean it would refer to anybody of Gor, so in that way anything done by such a person would be Gorean."



"The definition of what Gorean means to folks practicing the phillosophy is what and where you seem to apply the literal.  If there is no difference then between the 2 why do you bother?  Is it just a convienent label?  Or is it to help further your quest in getting laid?  Hmmm, perhaps I am just not privy to the second or third knowledge on such things..."

Now now..no personal attacks Thadius.

Interesting enough in your various posts you have yet to really nail down what you are comparing my comments to. Perhaps some specificity on your part is in order?

Many do go by labels, however Gor is a label, as with Gorean to describe . . .  As with Koroba a label for a fictional city, as with San Francisco a label to describe place...

"In the example of a hurricane, I wonder if you believe that nature is picking and choosing each item it will blow against.  It is the same wind and the same rain, somethings are just better suited to handle those, or even just in a better position to handle them.  The wind and water will have various effects on that which they come in contact, not because the wind or water are varying but because the various things they hit are different.  In this nature is not playing favorites, it is just being nature.  If you wish to believe otherwise, that of course is your right."

Perhaps your luck as you described before?

"To the matter of nature treating everything the same... You used a hurricane as an example, is the wind not the same for everything that is hit by it?  Is not the rain exactly the same?  Nature does not change because one is a blade of grass or an oak, the effect it has varies depending on the makeup, genes, and position of what it is applied to.  A 150mph wind hitting a willow and a piece of straw will certainly have different outcomes, but it is still a 150mph wind.  Nature therefore applies itself equally, the results are just not the same. "

No winds vary, rain varies in such storms. But then again I'm not meterologist but to my lay knowledge they, the wind, rain, etc. differ. Of course I could do some additional research but I doubt even that would convince.

"I cannot own a slave legally, and with the legal definition of slavery here in the western world, I am limited.  I cannot sell a human being, I cannot buy a human being, slavery as we accept it is far removed from the legal definiition; it is consentual.  In that it is consentual, a slave retains their legal rights, while they may choose to not exercise them, they are still there."

Do they? Legal rights can be signed away.. most of them anyhow. Then of course, you are back at the Mormon examples, though having legal rights as you say, those would never come into play. Why? That is their true ethos and being to be and to stay, notwithstanding society would otherwise say or want. Therefore, both exist, in your way of thought, and that of mine. One though, is more pure than the other.

"Your skill at doublespeak is amazing, and I can understand why your profession of choice would be in the fields of lawyers.  "That is the beauty of arguing, if you are good enough at it you are never wrong (even when the facts do not support you)" from a commercial I recently heard for a documentary. "

You speak of double speak but yet to make a clear comparision to the "gorean ethos" to my comments. I await.

Since your postion is that good is evil and evil is good, also that everything is okay because somebody else is doing it. It would seem that your judgements (and the ones you think belong to others) are based on your emotional state at the time.  If there is no black and white areas, how can you find the edges of the grey?  It sounds like a very fuzzy image to me.  You are at least true to yourself, which is more than some folks have going for them.  My time can be better spent though."

I said Good does Evil, Evil does good to perserve itself. I did not say good is evil and evil is good.

As stated, you have stated conclusions without the underlying ethos to which you would otherwise disagree with me with.

I'm all ears.

Rapture

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/13/2007 8:59:12 PM   
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Evening Rapture,

quote:

  "It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them."

Exactly, even within the ethos but illegal.

"Ah but we are talking about things that were done by men in the novels."

Ah but we are not.

"Again you tiptoe around the issue."

Nope. -"It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them." ~~Exactly, even within the ethos but illegal."



Actually allowing my emotions to override my moral convictions would not be acting within the ethos.. Allowing another to take control of my actions is acting against that which I believe.  Your claim that because it is in the novels it is part of the philosophy is faulty.  Which code endorses breaking the law?  This is the fourth or fifth time now that I will ask which of the tenets of the philosophy is illegal? 

quote:

Now now..no personal attacks Thadius.

Interesting enough in your various posts you have yet to really nail down what you are comparing my comments to. Perhaps some specificity on your part is in order?

Many do go by labels, however Gor is a label, as with Gorean to describe . . .  As with Koroba a label for a fictional city, as with San Francisco a label to describe place...


Hmmm, I thought I had been rather specific.  Let me try harder then.  You have said:

quote:

You can decide that surely, you can advise her accordingly, she can even follow the same as best she can. However, when faced with someone who cares not about the ramifications of society or any from you, she would be doing of a couple of things. 1) she would be giving it up because she really wants to; 2) she would be giving it up willingly so that she is not hurt; 3) she would fight and more than likely loose and give it up; or 3) run as fast as she can, but if caught, see #1, #2 or #3.

Further, what you impose per se is not binding on anyone else anyhow, there is not rule, ethos, or otherwise that someone is required to follow your restrictions. Zero. They may respect them, but that respect is optional (and no their is no breach of Honor so dont go there because noone has agreed to follow your restrictions and thus nothing to breach).

quote:

Do not miscontrue...  Actually a person could do as the they wanted to do to your girl or anyone's elses. However, would society be upset at those actions? Would you and perhaps her be upset at those actions?    Yes.  Nonetheless, somecone COULD do it, and would be within the gorean ethos yet the same COULD also be illegal as to what society would otherwise dictate. You certainly cannot be around all the time.

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Even, theives were 110% Gor, as with slaves being thieves themselves both being both slave and gor.

...

and locks are to attempt to limit those who usually think outside the box.

Rapture

Just a few quick tid bits, since you asked.  While these are not the end all and be all, they definitely touch on such things... Then again, codes and laws are just societies way of fighting nature according to one of your earlier posts, I didn't take the time to find it, but I can if need be (and it hasn't been censored).  I just remember you saying something along the lines of you can take whatever you wish regardless of the laws, and that 911 was a crutch. 
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“Surely you know, Bran Loort,” said Thurnus, “it is the duty of a slave girl to be fully and completely pleasing to men. Were she not so she would be subject to severe punishment, including even torture and death, should it be the master’s wish.”
“We took her without your permission,” said Bran Loort.
“In this,” said Thurnus, “you have committed a breach of code.”
“It does not matter to me,” said Bran Loort.
“Neither a plow, nor a bosk, nor a girl may one man take from another, saving with the owner’s saying of it,” quoted Thurnus.
“I do not care,” said Bran Loort.
“What is it, Bran Loort, that separates men from sleen and larls?” asked Thurnus.
“I do not know,” said Bran Loort.
“It is the codes,” said Thurnus.
“The codes are meaningless noises, taught to boys,” said Bran Loort.
“The codes are the wall,” said Thurnus.
“I do not understand,” said Bran Loort.
“It is the codes which separate men from sleen and larls,” said Thurnus. “They are the difference. They are the wall.”
Slave Girl of Gor Book 11 Page 226


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I sensed that the codes were to be invoked. What Bran Loort and his fellows had done exceeded the normal rights of custom, the leniencies and tacit permissions of a peasant community; commonly the codes are invisible; they exist not to control human life, but to make it possible. The rapes of Verr Tail and Radish, interestingly, had not counted as code breaches, though in neither case had explicit permission for their conquest been granted by Thurnus; such permission, in such cases, was implicit in the customs of the community; it did not constitute a “taking from” but a brief use of, an “enjoyment of,” without the intent to do injury to the honor of the master; “taking from,” in the sense of the code is not, strictly, theft, though theft would be “taking from.” “Taking from,” in the sense of the codes, implies the feature of being done against the presumed will of the master, of infringing his rights, more significantly, of offending his honor. In what Bran Loort had done, insult had been intended. The Gorean peasant, like Goreans in general, has a fierce sense of honor. Bran Loort had known exactly what he had been doing.
Slave Girl of Gor  Page 228



I will wrap this up because it is getting late and I want to make sure my point is made.

Perhaps, it is a flaw in me that I expect more of a man that calls himself Gorean, than one that does not.  You claim that any man can do anything he wishes and that would be well within the ethos.  If this is true, then why call yourself Gorean? As that would hold true for every man walking on the Earth.  If any act that a man can conceivably commit would fall under the Gorean philosophy, what difference is there between a Gorean and non-Gorean? Absolutely none. 

To the issue involved in the original post, it would seem that if a man was a guest in another man's house there are certain codes and rules that are implied, whether spoken or invisible.  Too, that a man that is a guest in another man's house should honor those, or he would be directly insulting the honor of his host.  The taking of another man's property without his permission (implied or spoken) would be considered theft. 

We as Goreans do our best to live our lives as freely as possible, enjoying all of the gifts that nature has bestowed upon us.  It is when we begin to believe we are above nature and the codes, that issues arise.  Surely, there are many interpretations of what the books contain.  Some agree that there are certain virtues that make up the philosophy, while others think that the books are more about the M/s dynamic.  While there may or may not ever be a consensus as to what is contained in the 26 volumes, it is clear that there is more than just a "Fuck the world and do as you like" message contained in them.

Just as a side note... I remember reading an estimation of the slaves in one of the books and cannot remember which it was in... but it was along the lines of 1 out of every 40-50.  Seems hardly likely that most lives were focused on the owning of a slave.

Good night,
Thadius

P.S. Rapture.  My personal opinions may sometimes affect a paragraph or so when addressed to you, but they are far from attacks.  As I am sure you have noticed, I am not shy about speaking my mind on any issue.

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/14/2007 8:28:28 AM   
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And a good morning to you Thadius...
I do realize this post is getting quite long but to keep the context...the same is quoted.

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Evening Rapture,
"It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them."
Rapture~~Exactly, even within the ethos but illegal.
"Ah but we are talking about things that were done by men in the novels."
Ah but we are not.
"Again you tiptoe around the issue."
Rapture~~ Nope. -
"It would be my personal choice to act outside of the laws that I know are in place.  Just as with others they choose to act upon impulse or whatever motivation, letting emotion overtake them."
Rapture ~~Exactly, even within the ethos but illegal."
"Actually allowing my emotions to override my moral convictions would not be acting within the ethos.."


Your moral convictions are not anyone elses but yours to either uphold or to falter from. Like Honor, said moral convictions are personal in nature, noone takes it nor gives it but yourself. Do you not recall within the Ethos, what was sought was beyond codes (to paraphrase)?

Your as with others moral convictions per se start and stop or are limited by only by someone elses "sword".  This is also your and their respective choice to limit "you".


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Allowing another to take control of my actions is acting against that which I believe. 


Do you not recall I believe in book 11 vengence of a slave and that of a Man ? His right over her for what she did to him (Clitus (sp))? A choice yes, but perfectly within his right as a Man to do so...by his own hand and his choice to do it.

Further, what one believes in, is most commonly overriden by your survival or the survival of someone else in which you would otherwise wish to assist to survive. This is a natural state.

quote:


Your claim that because it is in the novels it is part of the philosophy is faulty.  Which code endorses breaking the law?  This is the fourth or fifth time now that I will ask which of the tenets of the philosophy is illegal? 


Actually all through the books Tarl and others broke laws of the various cities to promote their end goal, to survive, and to gain. Because they simply could do so. I am sure by doing so they surely were not respecting as you would believe respect should be afforded. Simply again, you could not respect in the way you purport and survive, not even here. Someone will get their respective toes stepped on.

A part of any type of logical agrument is a one party opening the door, the other party refuting, then the burden of "proof" shifts from the first party to the second to show that the first party is incorrect. Then there is a rebuttle of the second. This is how it kinda sorta works in the real world yet seldom on these forums.
Instead Thadius, perhaps you should show us all where your requirements as you have purported are within the Ethos. Simply, I do not think you can...

quote:

Now now..no personal attacks Thadius.

Interesting enough in your various posts you have yet to really nail down what you are comparing my comments to. Perhaps some specificity on your part is in order?


The evidence that I have is that you have said I am incorrect in your various responses. Then again, I am still waiting for you to prove what you say is correct.

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Rapture ~~~Many do go by labels, however Gor is a label, as with Gorean to describe . . .  As with Koroba a label for a fictional city, as with San Francisco a label to describe place...

Hmmm, I thought I had been rather specific.  Let me try harder then.  You have said:

Rapture~~~You can decide that surely, you can advise her accordingly, she can even follow the same as best she can. However, when faced with someone who cares not about the ramifications of society or any from you, she would be doing of a couple of things. 1) she would be giving it up because she really wants to; 2) she would be giving it up willingly so that she is not hurt; 3) she would fight and more than likely loose and give it up; or 3) run as fast as she can, but if caught, see #1, #2 or #3.

Further, what you impose per se is not binding on anyone else anyhow, there is not rule, ethos, or otherwise that someone is required to follow your restrictions. Zero. They may respect them, but that respect is optional (and no their is no breach of Honor so dont go there because noone has agreed to follow your restrictions and thus nothing to breach).

Do not miscontrue...  Actually a person could do as the they wanted to do to your girl or anyone's elses. However, would society be upset at those actions? Would you and perhaps her be upset at those actions?    Yes.  Nonetheless, somecone COULD do it, and would be within the gorean ethos yet the same COULD also be illegal as to what society would otherwise dictate. You certainly cannot be around all the time.
Even, theives were 110% Gor, as with slaves being thieves themselves both being both slave and gor.
...
and locks are to attempt to limit those who usually think outside the box.
Rapture


....

quote:


Just a few quick tid bits, since you asked.  While these are not the end all and be all, they definitely touch on such things... Then again, codes and laws are just societies way of fighting nature according to one of your earlier posts, I didn't take the time to find it, but I can if need be (and it hasn't been censored).  I just remember you saying something along the lines of you can take whatever you wish regardless of the laws, and that 911 was a crutch. 


....

quote:

“Surely you know, Bran Loort,” said Thurnus, “it is the duty of a slave girl to be fully and completely pleasing to men. Were she not so she would be subject to severe punishment, including even torture and death, should it be the master’s wish.”
“We took her without your permission,” said Bran Loort.
“In this,” said Thurnus, “you have committed a breach of code.”
“It does not matter to me,” said Bran Loort.
“Neither a plow, nor a bosk, nor a girl may one man take from another, saving with the owner’s saying of it,” quoted Thurnus.
“I do not care,” said Bran Loort.
“What is it, Bran Loort, that separates men from sleen and larls?” asked Thurnus.
“I do not know,” said Bran Loort.
“It is the codes,” said Thurnus.
“The codes are meaningless noises, taught to boys,” said Bran Loort.
“The codes are the wall,” said Thurnus.
“I do not understand,” said Bran Loort.
“It is the codes which separate men from sleen and larls,” said Thurnus. “They are the difference. They are the wall.”
Slave Girl of Gor Book 11 Page 226


I sensed that the codes were to be invoked. What Bran Loort and his fellows had done exceeded the normal rights of custom, the leniencies and tacit permissions of a peasant community; commonly the codes are invisible; they exist not to control human life, but to make it possible. The rapes of Verr Tail and Radish, interestingly, had not counted as code breaches, though in neither case had explicit permission for their conquest been granted by Thurnus; such permission, in such cases, was implicit in the customs of the community; it did not constitute a “taking from” but a brief use of, an “enjoyment of,” without the intent to do injury to the honor of the master; “taking from,” in the sense of the code is not, strictly, theft, though theft would be “taking from.” “Taking from,” in the sense of the codes, implies the feature of being done against the presumed will of the master, of infringing his rights, more significantly, of offending his honor. In what Bran Loort had done, insult had been intended. The Gorean peasant, like Goreans in general, has a fierce sense of honor. Bran Loort had known exactly what he had been doing.
Slave Girl of Gor  Page 228



~~smiles. Surely disrespected him...

quote:

I will wrap this up because it is getting late and I want to make sure my point is made.

Perhaps, it is a flaw in me that I expect more of a man that calls himself Gorean, than one that does not.


...interesting if you look at history the Romans were not merely defeated by the Barbarians, the Romans thinking themselves higher and most grand defeated themselves and fell pray to nature-their own greed and egos.

quote:

You claim that any man can do anything he wishes and that would be well within the ethos.  If this is true, then why call yourself Gorean? As that would hold true for every man walking on the Earth.  If any act that a man can conceivably commit would fall under the Gorean philosophy, what difference is there between a Gorean and non-Gorean? Absolutely none. 


Do I call myself Gorean? Not one thing tells you this in my profile, in my words here, nor in my conduct. To call yourself something is one thing, TO BE something is much much much more profound and distinctly different. To be called something someone may or may not be it, but if that person or persons ARE IT is again distinctly different.

quote:

To the issue involved in the original post, it would seem that if a man was a guest in another man's house there are certain codes and rules that are implied, whether spoken or invisible.  Too, that a man that is a guest in another man's house should honor those, or he would be directly insulting the honor of his host.  The taking of another man's property without his permission (implied or spoken) would be considered theft. 


Only limited by each's others "sword".

"You cannot punish me!" she cried. "You are not my masters! Any free person can punish an errant slave girl," I said. "Surely you do not think that her behavior fails to be subject to supervision and correction as soon as she is out of her Master's sight?"
Magician of Gor p.225

"`What do you think should be her punishment ?' asked Callimachus of me.`If she is guilty,' I said, `whatever you wish, as she is a slave.' This was in full accord with Gorean law. Indeed, anything, for whatever reason, or without a reason, may be done to a slave."       Guardsman of Gor p.115

Of course the above would otherwise be disrespectful of your wishes.....but within the ethos that is more commonly known as Gor or Gorean. As with the Bran Loot quote, she was used perfectly within his right and within the Ethos, yet taken issue with her owner (as you have said you might do yourself); this being the owners right to seek compensation per se.

“Any free man may discipline an insolent or errant slave,' I said, `even one who is the least bit displeasing, even one he might merely feel like disciplining. If she is killed, or injured, he need only pay compensation to her master, and that only if the master can be located within a specific amount of time and requests such compensation.
In virtue of such customs and statutes the perfect discipline under which Gorean slaves are kept is maintained and guaranteed even when they are not within the direct purview of their masters or their appointed agents.”--pg. 235 Players of Gor

So, again, your wishes need not be followed by any Man here if he so chooses not to follow them. To follow them, your wishes in regards to your property, is his choice. Each choice we make however has possible ramifications or as I have said consqueneces. These consquences may or may not invoke the consquences of society at large. Yet, perfectly within his right to do if he so choses to do them.


quote:

We as Goreans do our best to live our lives as freely as possible, enjoying all of the gifts that nature has bestowed upon us.  It is when we begin to believe we are above nature and the codes, that issues arise.  Surely, there are many interpretations of what the books contain.  Some agree that there are certain virtues that make up the philosophy, while others think that the books are more about the M/s dynamic.  While there may or may not ever be a consensus as to what is contained in the 26 volumes, it is clear that there is more than just a "Fuck the world and do as you like" message contained in them.


I dunno, in the many real life emergency situations I have been in, with people who didnt give a rats ass about codes, laws, or what have you, I was not worried about being sued, or about I was invading their sensabilities; I surely did wish to go home each night. If you did worry about being sued or what have you, you wouldnt be going home or you or someone else in your charge wouldnt be....

I do not know your experience in such matters but I do know mine.


quote:

Just as a side note... I remember reading an estimation of the slaves in one of the books and cannot remember which it was in... but it was along the lines of 1 out of every 40-50.  Seems hardly likely that most lives were focused on the owning of a slave.


This is a different issue.


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Good night,
Thadius

P.S. Rapture.  My personal opinions may sometimes affect a paragraph or so when addressed to you, but they are far from attacks.  As I am sure you have noticed, I am not shy about speaking my mind on any issue.


As with mine...nor am I shy....especially to ponder and/or ask or purport the tough questions and/or answers.

Rapture

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/14/2007 2:27:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

Tal and greetings all....

Just a quick comment.

The current state of practice in the US is to recognize the legal nature of marriages that are legal in the country they are performed in if the people involved are citizens of other countries. Thus a citizen of Saudia Arabia with multiple wives is considered legally married to all of them if he visits the US. This came up where I used to live because of all the Arab students at the university there, some of whom brought their wives with them. Most of the students who were married only had one wife and did not plan on more until they returned, so that wasn't a problem. However, a few who were older did come with all their wives and children and that caused a fuss for a short while.

Be well all....

Malkinius



makes note saudi and utah, poly marriage

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/15/2007 7:01:57 AM   
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Morning Rapture,

I didn't realize that part of discussing things here was to ask a question, get a reply of nope, then the burden came back to the person that asked the question to prove a nope either wrong or right.... Interesting logic. During which time, it becomes increasingly difficult to hold the discussion with having to wait (sometimes 2 or 3 hours on top of the time for the response) for the censors to approve what the other party is saying (that is another topic though).

The laws of each city could and often times did vary widely.  The one thing that was constant were the codes (and the priest kings).  Each caste having different codes.  The higher castes codes were discussed and highlighted in the books, while the lower (majority) caste codes did not get the same in depth explanations...  While debating what and where is within the codes, can be entertaining, we cannot say what is or is not in them in their entirety.  Which leads us to this: since there is no caste system here in western society, it leaves that grey area that some wish to exploit.  Picking and choosing this and that from the various codes to tailor fit themselves in, while disregarding the rest... because afterall they are not this or that, if it doesn't suit them in a given situation. 

You keep bringing up survival, saying that survival is a reason to do anything.  Which is well within your rights.  I have found that once somebody puts a price on a personal code or belief and it is paid, the next time the price isn't as high.  I am not saying that one should not attempt to survive, just that sometimes the cost of doing so is so great that one ceases to be that which they were.  When faced with the choice between death or absolute slavery, which would you choose? 

I guess there is but one answer to your questions then, and I will base it on your position.  Since slavery is illegal, there are no slaves, therefore all men and women are free.  Which in turn would mean that a girl that I am involved with, being free, is not subject to you or anybody else for punishment or discipline, save the legal authorities.  Which would make the entire arguement moot.

Have a great morning,
Thadius

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/15/2007 10:30:50 PM   
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Good Evening Thadius:

I find your responses interesting. I will attempt to be as accurate from memory without going back into 9 pages of posts.

You mentioned that you _may_ take matters into your own hands if someone say disciplined or otherwise used your girl without your consent. You also have stated or at least implied that an emotional response would be a controlling factor upon you from another person (eg the person who would otherwise not adhere to your wishes in regards to your girl). Also, you have stated or at least implied that within the animal kingdom, which by the way even the human specie is a part of, usually does things either out of fear or reframes from doing things out of fear of being otherwise taken out. You implied or at least tried to with the Bran Loot quotations to say that code or a code defines us and separates us from other specie. Even the Bran Loot quotations indicate, even if you disagree, that the girl serves or did in fact serve another beyond that of the wishes or implied wishes of the owner. I further provided quotations to indicate, which backs not only the quotations you provided as to the girl serving even against the owners wishes, because her slavery does not stop at the door. Further, you indicated and/or implied the taking of the girl without the owners permission comes down to thievery, etc.

Perhaps the girl shouldnt of been in certain situations in the first place nor exposed to the protential of having to give herself to another person without your consent. Perhaps a shorter leach is in order. He, as, even your own quotations indicate owes no duty to you or anyone else to have your property while you are not around. You may not like this, I even may not like this, but perhaps again a shorter leash is in order.

Now I am not against having a tad of discipline even in the worst case scenerio type situations. More times than not having this discipline pays off in the long run. It would seem with your responses expressed and implied that you are in a self made paradox between having a natural inclination to protect what is yours, and that of the adhereing to a purported self-made code to which you try to follow.

On the other hand, if noone really fears what you can do to them (taking your example) do you really have any actual control or any actual or real power to actually follow through to even your purported code or even to any of your natural inclinations? Maybe. However, when you are deciding about these moral paradoxes, the perverbal game is a-foot, and over before you can start any follow through.

Also, you would be required, to invade and make exception to your purported code or codes, and/or invade your own sensabilities to take issue with a third person who would otherwise be more natural and closer to nature than say you would be.

"How many Psychologists does it take to Shrink a Bear?  None. All of them would be dead.".

My further response follows:


"I didn't realize that part of discussing things here was to ask a question, get a reply of nope, then the burden came back to the person that asked the question to prove a nope either wrong or right.... Interesting logic."

Actually, if you go back into the string of posts that I have posted within this thread, hmm, as a matter of fact a lot of them, the puzzle is put together.

During which time, it becomes increasingly difficult to hold the discussion with having to wait (sometimes 2 or 3 hours on top of the time for the response) for the censors to approve what the other party is saying (that is another topic though)."

This is of no fault of mine.


"The laws of each city could and often times did vary widely.  The one thing that was constant were the codes (and the priest kings). "

Not even then. You do remember the Priest Kings themselves even with their great wisdom and intelligence fell prey to their surpressed emotional states. Not so disimilar how the Roman Empire fell, not only because of the barbarians (who just took advantage really), but because of the same emotional states for power, greed, etc. etc. etc. Yet, very in line of nature. Oddly enough, even Tarl needed to get an attitude adjustment (which he did).

"Each caste having different codes.  The higher castes codes were discussed and highlighted in the books, while the lower (majority) caste codes did not get the same in depth explanations...  While debating what and where is within the codes, can be entertaining, we cannot say what is or is not in them in their entirety.  Which leads us to this: since there is no caste system here in western society, it leaves that grey area that some wish to exploit.  Picking and choosing this and that from the various codes to tailor fit themselves in, while disregarding the rest... because afterall they are not this or that, if it doesn't suit them in a given situation. "

To paraphrase, "For what I seek is beyond codes....", "It came to me in the darkness .. . . .".


"You keep bringing up survival, saying that survival is a reason to do anything.  Which is well within your rights. "

Sun Tzu.

"I have found that once somebody puts a price on a personal code or belief and it is paid, the next time the price isn't as high."

Everything has a cost, a consequence, ...  Do you sit by to do no harm when your girl is yelling in terror because of a third person, or do you invade a few sensibilities? (Maybe screaming in utter pleasure if the case may be...)

You are faced with a decision now, even if within someone elses right, you either depart from your code " " and go save your girl, OR save yourself (if a situation invovled you.).

Do you do or would you do a "dishonorable" act or an act that would otherwise violate your own personal ethics, morals, morality, codes, laws per se to survive the night or have your girl survive?

If the answer is Yes, your entire agruments that you have purported here are moot and you just may save both your skins.
If you answer is No, " I " get the girl anyhow.


"I am not saying that one should not attempt to survive, just that sometimes the cost of doing so is so great that one ceases to be that which they were.  When faced with the choice between death or absolute slavery, which would you choose? "

That's simple. I take as many of them with me.... (assuming that is the only options of course).

"I guess there is but one answer to your questions then, and I will base it on your position.  Since slavery is illegal, there are no slaves, therefore all men and women are free."

To the contrary I have said even an ethos being illegal or should I say the practice of a particular ethos does not negate it within said ethos.  Do quote me where i said there were no slaves?

"Which in turn would mean that a girl that I am involved with, being free, is not subject to you or anybody else for punishment or discipline, save the legal authorities.  Which would make the entire arguement moot."

Unfortunitly, you have misquoted me, once again. My position has always been as stated, "The illegality of a practice of an ethos or part thereof does not negate that particular ethos from it." This is what I have said all through this thread and many others.  Further, I have always maintained in from day one many many years ago that a girl is subject, keep her on a short leash, else someone may get some ideas that you (I) would not like.

If you would like to quote me as to where you purport, gladly do so, but I doubt that you can.

Rapture

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/16/2007 12:36:22 AM   
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Hi Thadius,

  I was not going to respond to the Mormon poligamy example, but I changed my mind...*perogative of a woman*..hehe

Mormons started practicing poligamy, at a time when it was open season on Mormons and a great deal of men, were killed, leaving behind widows and fatherless children, starving and what not.
when this crisis was over, they stopped, I know this, because I am infact Mormon.
There is an off shoot religion from the Church of LatterDay Saints, that still practice poligamy, but they are not what the original church declares as members.

I wish you well,
Maah

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/16/2007 8:04:12 AM   
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Then of course there remains the Hindu, the Muslims, both of which have been doing their thing for eons before the Mormons.

Rapture

quote:

ORIGINAL: Maahsatti

Hi Thadius,

I was not going to respond to the Mormon poligamy example, but I changed my mind...*perogative of a woman*..hehe

Mormons started practicing poligamy, at a time when it was open season on Mormons and a great deal of men, were killed, leaving behind widows and fatherless children, starving and what not.
when this crisis was over, they stopped, I know this, because I am infact Mormon.
There is an off shoot religion from the Church of LatterDay Saints, that still practice poligamy, but they are not what the original church declares as members.

I wish you well,
Maah

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RE: Sharing Slaves - 3/17/2007 3:18:25 AM   
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Tal!

I am going to admit that when I saw the thread stray off topic I skipped
some posts, so do not expect this to be about kajartiers, pudding
pools, or many wives.....I will cover my thoughts on that last
in another post!

I had my first slave girl at the age of 18 or 19. She was a year younger
than myself. My situation at university was such that I had to
live on campus and there was no place to keep her. So I moved her in
with 2 of my buddies that lived short train ride away from school.
I had no car. She was instructed to obey they as she would me in all
things and to take care of all things domestic. She was also instructed
that should they desire to use her sexually she was to show them as good
an entertainment in the furs as she did me. This was of course in the
days before aids. I know that she was used sexually because I discused
it with the other men in the house.
They each made use of her on occasion. It did not bother me because they
were my very good comrades and I know they would
take as good care of my property as I did. They took very good care of
her and even prevented her death on one occasion.

Does this mean that I would share any girl of mine with any man under
any circumstances......No. I would offer a girl of mine
to serve a good comrade in any way (with the restriction of latex
between them.....damn fatal STDs!) if he were a visitor in my domain. I
might also offer a girl of mine to another man for sexual service if I
felt it would further her training or help her understand
her situation and place better. I see nothing wrong with this. Just as I
saw nothing wrong with taking another female in front of
a girl in the past to teach her the important lesson that she has no
say over my sexuality.

In the recent past I have loaned a girl of mine to a buddy for clerical
work when he found himself in need and did not have a girl of
his own to help. Before that I loaned one out for some house cleaning
and party prep. Is that sharing a kajira. I think so.

When I was a young man my father taught me never to loan out your car
because you never know if the person you loan it to will
bring it back in the same condition as when they got it, and if they do
not it will ruin a friendship. To this day I have not loaned a
car, but since we live on earth and not Gor it is much easier to assure
that a loaned kajira will be returned in good condition than
a loaned car! Even so I value my property, be it my 5 ton sloop, my car
or my kajira and any loan of property is weighed against
the possibility of the wear and tear on the property being a problem.


On the flip side would I accept the loan of a girl were I a
visitor.......it depends. Does my host have only one girl, or does he
have someone that will warm his bed even if I accept the offer? Is he
offering because he is eager to show off how pleasing
she may be? In the past I have accepted some offers and declined others.

A man I know offered his girl to me one night for purposes
of giving me the best massage I would ever have....so he said....yep she
was good. She commented while rubbing my back that she
should finish the procedure with me on my back and her astride me as
that is how her master had taught her to massage a man. Give him a good
rub down and then make sure he also has a good sexual release. I
declined the last part. The next day he made the
offer of sex explicit. This told me that he was not doing it to just be
polite, especially since I had no shortage of options of females to
make sexual use of on that weekend retreat. Had I not had plans for
another girl, I would have at that point accepted his offer of
her sexual service.

Well those are some of my thoughts on the matter......It comes down
to....Yes I would offer a girl under some conditions and I would
accept the offer of a girl under some conditions.

CaptainBlack

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