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GotSteel -> RE: god and bsdm (8/23/2012 5:32:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
It really doesn't matter to me if the op takes my advice or not and I'm certainly not concerned about your thoughts. But thanks for the response.
You shouldn't care about my opinion, why would you? But I hope you'd care about the damage the concept you're pushing does to the lives of a very significant number of women:
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ORIGINAL: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/sexual-difficulties-female-difficulty-female-orgasmic-disorder
Four Origins of Female Orgasmic Disorder:
Cultural Influences
Negative childhood learning can play a major role.
Example: We may learn from our parents, religion, school, and culture that sex is sinful, that genitals are dirty, and/or that masturbation is bad. Sex education in schools rarely discuss or encompass the joys of sex or how to have a healthy and satisfying sex life.
*This creates negative feelings about sex that inhibit a woman's sexual response. Inadequate sex education can lead to pain, embarrassment, fear of pregnancy, and fear of being caught, which may increase tension and reduce pleasure.
Q: Do you have a positive attitude about sex? Do you enjoy sexual pleasure and believe you deserve it? Are you comfortable with your body?
A: If you answered "no" to any of these questions, it is possible that negative childhood learning could be one of the causes relating to your current orgasm difficulties.
Sexual Double Standard.
Example: "Women are encouraged to be sexually cautious to avoid acquiring a reputation of being loose, but part of stereotypical masculine sexual success is 'scoring'" (Crooks & Baur, 1999:447). Women are also not allowed to be sexually assertive because it is not considered feminine.
*This inhibits women because they feel they are not allowed to be sexual, and therefore they may not take the necessary steps needed to become orgasmic with their partners, such as verbally expressing how they want to be touched.
A Narrow Definition of Sexuality
Example: In our society, sex is narrowly viewed as only penile-vaginal intercourse.
*This contributes to inadequate stimulation for women and men, leading to a less enjoyable sexual response, or for some women, none at all.
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
It's based on the study of old testament Judaic history. My beliefs are based on the history and the culture of the times when the Old Testament was written and why so that it can be based on context and what it means for us today.
From someone who simply believed what they were told I'd have to accept reasons like the Bible, tradition or my preacher said so as explanations for your beliefs. But since you've been figuring out your own way I expect there to be some reasoning behind the positions you choose to accept and those you choose to reject.
As an example you can quickly explain to me why your continuous premarital sex isn't a sin with your own thoughts. But when it comes to why doing the very same thing is a sin for the OP you've spent several posts refusing to explain your own thought process on the matter with cop outs such as "read the Bible".
I'm left wondering, where's the beef? Why is this "figuring" you claim to have been doing entirely absent?
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