missalice
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For christ's sake. I will tell you a story which is quite personal, but I think I need to share it. I know a beautiful young man who is one of the sweetest people I've ever met. He works about 200 hours a week -- literally. He's taken a 36 hour shift with three breaks before. He's very gentle and quiet. He's cuddley as hell. This young man also has a deep inability to say "no." .... Firstly, he can't say no to people he loves... and secondly, as a child, he was abducted and abused by some older "friends" of is who were very sadistic, and anytime he resisted or said no, he had the living carp beaten out of him. ... So, whenever someone tells him to do something, particularly sexual, he locks up, starts trembling and having flashbacks, and will do whatever the person tells him to. ...I consider myself this young man's Protector.... I do not own him, but I do take responsibility for him as if he were my own. I hold his leash, and do not allow any others to grab it -- I carefully explain his situation (without sharing the details) to anyone who approaches him. He has another Dominant, a male, who also serves in this capacity. I have been teaching this young man how to say no to things he doesn't want for the past year or two. He is getting much better at it, but it still helps him for me to be nearby and for me to hold his hand, or his leash, as he sets his limits and boundaries. ....This is an extreme case, but for god's sake. Some people need a Protector. I never formally established this relationship with him, since I didn't know the term for it until recently. On another topic -- this young man also protects me quite frequently. He's the only person I feel safe to cry on.... I'll curl up on him and cry, and he usually reacts by holding me and crying too. But for some reason, he manages to care for me as often as I do for him, despite his more gentle nature...
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