forcedsensuality -> RE: I dont get it. (1/14/2013 12:29:46 PM)
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again and again I see this on here, going back to the profile .. complaining about the profile, it reminds me of women saying "he was so nice in person when I finally met him too, but I didn't like his clothes .. that was the real deal-breaker" I think the more interesting the person, particularly the more open to experimentation-with-others-type person, the more the profile is something in flux and why should all that info be available to all participants ? where is the rule that says this is a slave market, everything revealed for the convenience of all the dominants and lurkers and jerk-offs ? I have a generic part of emails I send, a second tier to the profile, my more real profile, that i send to someone i am interested in, once I've found I can trust them a bit. The people running the profiles through their computer-assisted sorting system might miss out on me based on per-conceptions she brings to reading my profile from her other quite different experiences. I expect doms/dommes are busy, since they have a greater supply of subs. But never forget that they already have an unsymmetrical bargaining position with doms of both sexes much more scarce than subs, and that imbalance can creep into their assessments, give them too many airs and graces too early in the game ... I am always interested in how much effort they put into their replies to my emails and how much power they imagine they already command even as we are negotiating. Sloppy, lazy, two-word answers,.. not probably going to be a very interesting dynamic if they think they are already "always right".
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