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HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Do a majority of Mistresses use chastity (3/2/2013 5:08:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: fallsdeep404
I am a male submissive but I am not into the whole chastity thing. I'm probably not considered a "true" submissive, because I believe the sub has needs that should be met too... My version of BDSM is a two-way street, about dual pleasures, not just the dom's. I don't need a carrot on a stick to do things for a woman. The fact that I would do things without conditioning or coercion is even more challenging I think.
True, I masturbate frequently for pleasure and relaxation. I enjoy receiving and giving pleasure too great to be in chastity. BDSM play is mostly sexual for me, it's not stand alone as some purists practice it. I once knew a sub female who was into knife play and submission, but she claimed it was not about sex. For me it is. I apologize if the tone of this question sounds angry. I just feel that there are no set rules of BDSM, and that people are able to incorporate or exclude different elements into their play.
Are there dominant women out there who don't like chastity, and don't use it on their subs? Or am I just kidding myself? Thank you in advance for your responses!
First off, watch out for people who use terms like "true" sub. Most of them are HNGs of either sex.
Second, male chastity is primarily a male fetish, as in the men into it WAY outnumber the women into it. For evidence of this, check out the membership of any of the many male chastity groups on FL. You'll go for pages sometimes without seeing a link to a woman's profile.
Third, most people will tell you that ANY intimate relationship, whether it be dom/sub, top/bottom, male dom, female dom or vanilla, that does not take care of the needs of BOTH (or all in the case of poly relationships) people involved, will not last long. There's a reason why most of the "doms" who say in their profile, "It's ALL about me," are here looking year, after year, after year.
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