MadamAsianDom -> RE: Mistresses... How would you like to be approached when a new sub is making first contact? (3/25/2013 9:34:42 PM)
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Be polite. Good manners go a long way. If the approach is online, proofread what your message before hitting the key to send it. Correct any grammar or spelling errors. Again, if the approach is online, ensure you have taken the time to read her profile, start to finish, prior to drafting your message. Ensure your message will read as being addressed to her, not a message that reads like a form letter that you've sent to 20 people already. This is best accomplished by referring to things within her profile, and ensuring that if you ask her questions, you're not asking something that is already plainly stated on her profile. For example, if you ask her where she lives (i.e. city) and that is already on her profile, she is going to know that you didn't read her profile, and instead (if you show on her list of people who have viewed her profile) just looked at her pictures. Also for online, take the time to mention what it is you feel you can offer to a Dominant that you serve, what the advantage would be to her, if she were to take the time to get to know you. If your note reads as "me, me, me, me, it's all about my kinks and what I want you to do to me", you're unlikely to be successful. In a play party situation, assuming you mean approaching a Dominant you wish to scene with, if you know someone who already knows her, have that person introduce you to her. Again, be polite, remember that it's real life, not a fantasy or a porn. Do not treat her as if her sole purpose on earth is to cater to you and your kinky desires. I think the above suggestions should all be obvious, and you would, I hope, already be aware of them. But they are some of the things that people fail to do, time after time, so I figured it doesn't hurt to say it.
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