Evanesce
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Joined: 9/14/2005 Status: offline
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OK, so here's the deal. I recently joined a Dominants' group. In the application process, they send you a questionnaire which asks a lot of personal questions, the answers to some of which I said were, basically, none of their business, but I did let them know I was a switch. They approved my membership. Maybe I should note here that at the time I joined a month ago, the group was about a week old. Now, this is supposedly a real time group, with meetings and such, but no meetings have ever been held yet. None that have been announced to the membership, that is. Today, the group "leader" puts a post out to the group. In that post, he says a few things about members voicing concerns about switches, and mentioning a prior "agreement" between the group and switches (this was news to me, because I was never informed of any such "agreement"). He then further informed all switches that if we call someone else "Sir," we need to have said "Sir's" written permission to join the group and, if switches being in the group become an "issue" then they'll be bumped out and sent to the submissives' group. Am I wrong in thinking this is belittling and dismissive of switches? Because, to me, this screams loud and clear that we will never be considered peers of the "real" dominants, regardless of how we identify ourselves. I basically told the guy to kiss my ass, and that I don't need daddy's signature on a permission slip in order to join discussion groups. We don't play those games. I also gave him the Kaptin's email address and told him to feel free to write Him and whine about my bad behavior. He enjoys getting emails from frustrated dominants who can't make me do what they want me to do. Is my thinking just skewed wrong? How would you feel on being told you had to have someone else's written permission to join a group?
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Denise Give a slave what he truly needs, and he will do what you want. "There's never a hero in a battle of ego." - Big & Rich
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