Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: Cuteness2472 Hi I have a question for a Dom, I am new and have had my Dom for two months we both have other lives it makes complicated but is what is. Anyhow we finally met up last week and since then he hasn't pursued me the way he did, he still talks to me but not as much. He says busy but we both have made time for our little acts and vice versa, dirty talks videos. Etc.before now he's just I don't know a bit different . I have told him he has appologized. Told him how I felt. It's hard to hook up. Didn't know this in beginning didn't think it would be so difficult on his part. I get kinda pissed when i see him on here and hes not im me or emailing me, i dont care hes looking around at stuff on here cause i do too. he has me on here journaling and everything. But there's no going back. Any advice as a Dom. Yep, nothing like real life to burst the fantasy based bubble. I've been through it several times. Seems like you have a great rapport; lotsa complimenting D/s chemistry etc. And "poof", it (r/l) occurs to you that the other isn't actually someone you'd otherwise ask up for a dance at some club in the vanilla world. Or say "yes" to being asked.... Lesson for me was that if I find someone online (not that I proactively look anymore for the same reasons), then I push for a r/l meet asap. Saves an awful lot of typing and general personal investment. Online, it's all about the D/s fantasies and buggar-all about whether you actually like each other in the everyday. R/l fixes that up in seconds - which is likely what happened to you. All you've got left is to stop chasing after him for answers. The ol' female faithful of playing hard to get strategy. Personally, I think that ship's already sailed but you can still salvage some dignity by giving him the full cold shoulder. And welcome to CM anyway. :) Focus.
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