One theory ( and one that I like) about how to define the slave mindset is the SODS principle.
The SODS principle;
Submission- A slave has a deep and fundamental craving to please. It is hardwired into her. It is who she is, without being all that she is.
Obedience- A slave feels the absolute need to obey in her soul. she does not want to lead, and only does so when she must.
Direction- she needs guidance, direction, goals, rules, and clear specific intent.
Structure- Discipline is structure. Structure is formed from the rules, rituals and protocols that that define the extent of the Three Powers. The Three Powers are control of her Body, Behavior, and Attitude.
As far as theories go, I've seen worse.
Really, anything that I have to say on the subject is strictly anecdotal in nature and I can only say that I do identify as a slave to Himself and that those these which you list as a 'need' are desires/wants (or simply non-existent) in the relationship that Himself and I share. Our own structure is fairly alien to what you have listed as a favored theory for your way of life.
For us, it's not so much that he controls 'me' but that he has control over his own life, allows me to share it as long as I do so in the way he instructs - his instructions are rarely about anything other than making his life easier and/or more entertaining and things of that nature and those things I'm happy to do as long as it keeps me in his circle. So far, so good.
I hope you find as much peace and happiness in 'your' way as Himself and I have found in doing things 'our' (read: His) way.
"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."
He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."