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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Improving Communications. (11/17/2004 1:17:04 PM)
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I, for one, cannot constantly be on. And yet, I am always on, in a certain sense, since I am who I am. I am on when I do Pro Sessions. I am on when I am out on a F2F, getting to know a possible client, or meeting with a potential live-in slave. When I am off, it does not mean I am suddenly this weak or needy female.
I kinda, sorta hate the word "scene" because it means to Me something that is planned and then acted out. I do that in a Pro session, and I do it less formally when I "play". In a 24/7 D/s world, the dynamic is always there, or it should be.
However, I do allow, and feel it is necessary, to be able to relax and act in a vanilla manner on both sides. Going out to movie or to dinner, having vanilla friends and family over, etc. necessitate a more vanilla presentation. This does not mean that a slave should take advantage or be disrespectful. There are always ways to discreetly handle these situations. Having a code word is a good idea. Asking permission to fall out of character always works for Me. But the "falling out" simply means that I am ready and willing to listen and discuss something that may be important to the slave. And a minimum of weekly discussions happen anyway, more formally, when reviewing journal entries.
On the other side of the coin, if I have had a hard day, and want a massage or foot bath while watching a movie, am I "scening"? If I want My hair brushed, or My legs shaved, am I "scening"? Yes, that is part of the personal service I expect. Will I have a conversation during the activity? Very possibly. I am pretty casual in many areas, and I don't expect constant rituals and groveling. I would rather know the dishes are done.
So "falling out of character", and having permission to do so, does not mean, for Me anyway, carte blanche to be disrepectful or yell or become abusive. But then, I wouldn't accept that type of behavior in a vanilla situation either.
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