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yourmichgoddess -> in need of some advice (7/5/2006 11:59:56 PM)
my name is mistress amanda and i own a slave boy named lee who has been a hand full since i started training him, i need some severe ideas to punish him to remind him that he is my property i need to hear him scream in pain

MstrssPassion -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 4:56:19 AM)
1) most often women will pick time-out, ignoring or complete dismissal for unruly men 2) you say he has been a hand full since the start... could it be that you are just rewarding bad behavior & your very actions is what is promoting his misbehaving? 3) you want to punish him because you are frustrated... you want hear him scream in pain (due to your frustration) This is the WRONG time for you to be punishing him. You need to get a handle on what is going on right now & be in control of your own emotions when handling him... if you punish in a reactionary mode it could be considered abusive. (kind of like why a parent should spank a child when they are angry)

MistressDREAD -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 4:57:44 AM)
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mnottertail -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 9:45:14 AM)
A vicegrip on the nuts is usually enough to entice them to correct their behavior.

yourMissTress -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 10:09:39 AM)
I would go a little farther once I have his nuts in the vicegrip, but that's just me. Seriously, if he's a pain slut then beating the hell out of him isn't going to stop his bad behavior. Why is he a handful? Do you want him to be? What is the goal of his training? If he's frustrating to you why do you still have him?

MHOO314 -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 10:41:10 AM)
Hello Tress, welcome back! My recommendation? Banishment! If he won't learn, he isn't worth My effort. pfffttttt

yourMissTress -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 11:17:13 AM)
Thank you MH, but I've been here all along. I simply took a break from posting for a while.

RavenMuse -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 11:21:36 AM)
A slave who has "Been a handfull" since the very start, so much so that you are all out of ideas and looking for more suggestions to give him his pain fix.... erm, who's in charge of that relationship dear? Doesn't look like it is you. Frankly a slave who needs the threat of punishment to make them serve rather than doing so because they want to make me happy.... ain't worth my time. my girl doesn't need reminding that she IS mine and hasn't done from the day she submitted to me. It doesn't take the threat of punishment to train a slave, simply their desire to serve you and your ability to work with that, shape it, control it.

RavenMuse -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 11:22:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress Thank you MH, but I've been here all along. I simply took a break from posting for a while. The butterfly board can stay on a break, but glad to see You posting again [:)]

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 12:15:44 PM)
It sounds like you are in a power struggle rather than a power exchange. In your profile you state that you own a slave...but he doesn't sound very slavish to Me. I try to make sure that the mindset is properly in place before I take someone on...hence, I have mostly washouts. Smile What is his mindset? What did you agree to in this M/s relationship when you began? We really don't have enough information, other than that he is "a handful". That could mean many things to different people. By the way, My questions are posed as food for thought for yourself, and need not be answered on this thread. If you care about this boy, I would suggest sitting down with him and and beginning the conversation with "what part of I am in charge did you miss?" Then have a good talk and reinforce the basic tenets of your relationship. If he is serious about service, then you need to get control of your own self and be the Dominant. As already said, if he is a painslut, you are just giving him what he wants. If he is not a pain slut, then you are just taking out your own frustrations on his body and that is not going to help either of you. You sound like you are really frustrated and ready to mete out severe punishment just to prove you are the Dominant. It shouldn't work that way. JMO, of course. I do punishments to fit the crime. Is he being sassy? Gag him. Is he an attention whore? Remove him from your presence. Some time facing a corner on his knees will often do the trick. You get the drift. If he continues to be "a handful", only you can decide if it is worth it. It wouldn't be for Me. Best of luck, and welcome to the boards.

WhiteRadiance -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 3:18:23 PM)
What exactly has he done that makes you want to punish him harshly?

yourMissTress -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 3:29:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse The butterfly board can stay on a break, but glad to see You posting again [:)] You obviously haven't seen the pictures my dear, there was no wimpy butterfly board used...it was a 6 inch thick block of wood. Oh, and we are planning to do it again, this time we are using more nails and I'm going to drive them down so that the heads are flat to his balls.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 4:16:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse The butterfly board can stay on a break, but glad to see You posting again [:)] You obviously haven't seen the pictures my dear, there was no wimpy butterfly board used...it was a 6 inch thick block of wood. Oh, and we are planning to do it again, this time we are using more nails and I'm going to drive them down so that the heads are flat to his balls. Where are the pictures? Do you have them online so we can see them? I am sure RavenMuse will control himself, and not click to look! BTW, I have missed your posts also. I have seen you lurking about, but it is good to hear from you now and then! Smile

RavenMuse -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 4:19:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yourMissTress You obviously haven't seen the pictures my dear, there was no wimpy butterfly board used...it was a 6 inch thick block of wood. Oh, and we are planning to do it again, this time we are using more nails and I'm going to drive them down so that the heads are flat to his balls. Damn it Tress you just made me wince so hard my voice raised a whole octave! Sheeesh Not that it was EXACTLY the reaction you expected.... stop trying to look innocent! [:D]

yourMissTress -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 4:21:12 PM)
Anyone that wants to see the pictures can email My girl, mousetrapp, here on CM. Send her an email with your email address and she will send you an invitation to view the pictures. The email address that you send her cannot be your CM email account.

MstrTiger -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 5:27:49 PM)
I realise this is probably going to seam like a silly question for someone who knows about these things, though I don’t know about these things. How would you go about getting the nails back out if they were hammered right down to the point that they held the slaves balls tightly to the wood? Would you use wood thinner than the nails are long so you can nock them out from the other side? though wouldn’t the slaves body get in the way? I am confused, perhaps you were only joking about it and I missed that, which is something I often do apparently though I thought I would ask anyway. I agree with mistresspassion with regards to the opening question.

WetHotGoddess -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 5:31:03 PM)
*What the fuck do your PICTURES have to do with the OP??* And why is a male dom on the ask a mistress forum? Can I go on ask a slave or ask a master and someone give a fuck about my opinion or is this reserved for you "special" LONG TIME gods/goddesses of CM? this forum sucks, ladies. lame lame lame. this girl needs help and you give us links to pics! LOL

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 5:38:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WetHotGoddess *What the fuck do your PICTURES have to do with the OP??* And why is a male dom on the ask a mistress forum? Can I go on ask a slave or ask a master and someone give a fuck about my opinion or is this reserved for you "special" LONG TIME gods/goddesses of CM? this forum sucks, ladies. lame lame lame. this girl needs help and you give us links to pics! LOL And your advice to the OP?

mnottertail -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 5:38:23 PM)
Sorry Friends, So....you any good at suckin ' cock? Lame......Lame...Lame..... Of course we revolve around you, but can you fart on demand girlie, cause they got pictures and you ain't even got a clue...... I await your measured and wholesome response with glee.. The best place for you to find a helping hand now, will be at the end of your own arm, Ronne

DiurnalVampire -> RE: in need of some advice (7/6/2006 5:47:17 PM)
blinks Well, I was going to post something relavent... then I got sidetracked. Relavent bit: If someone is a handful from the beginning and has you to your wits end, he isnt worth it. A slave is there for YOUR pleasure and to make YOUR life easier. If he is so difficult, he has failed in that brilliantly, and therefore really sint worth your time. However, the one thing no one has asked... at least I dont remmeber seeing it... Why is he so worth keeping around for you? Obviosuly, there is a reason beyond his usefulness as a slave that you want to keep him and train him. Why's he so special? Why are there male doms here.... becasue they want to be? Sounds like a good enough reason. Honestly, if yuo need advice, to assume one gender gives better advise than another is kinda dumb.. I take it where I can get it. DV

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