LadyConstanze
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The 7 years are the average but no guarantee, that's what the cops and help group have told me, I'm in the 4th or 5th year now, changing numbers, work, etc. has slowed him down (along with the cops now ignoring his calls and being aware that in the US the prepaid mobiles can't really be traced like here). There were times when I thought I would go crazy and was afraid to get up, phone ringing make me jump and shiver, the support group helped a lot. Especially when always being asked "What did you do to him? People don't do this without a reason!" That's just so much BS, they are unhinged, they might think they have a reason, it's just a normal person can't understand the way they think, they don't even realize that what they do is wrong, in their minds they are the wronged party. If you can, join a support group, a lot of things are explained and they also explained that changing everything you do and cutting off friends because you are afraid is part of the desired result for the stalker, they are making you lonely (aka punishing you). For years it was the "drop everything and go into hiding" approach, there are now theories that say unless you can really completely go into hiding (which is almost impossible with the internet and if such a person knows your real name and/or place of work), the fact that you drop social contacts encourages them and is a success that lets them continue. I'm still baffled how effed up somebody has to be, but hey, on the bright side, unless somebody would give me a full frontal lobotomy, I wouldn't even consider something remotely like that, so I guess I still have most of my marbles (surprising as it is).
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