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True subs only enter your life once. - 3/22/2014 1:06:35 PM

Buddapan

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Six years ago I was reading through the profiles and found a woman that lived not far from me. I read her profile and it had one photo and absolutely nothing about her as far as her wants and needs. I started to move on to the next profile, but something about her eyes kept me glued to her page. I wrote a nice message and clicked send. It didn't suprise me when I heard nothing from her because I figured I was out of her age range. She was 31 at the time and I was 55. About a month later I got a message from her. The message was one that I really hate because it was one word. "Hi". Normally I never return these types of messages since I had sent her a very informative one, but something about those eyes kept me hanging on. It took me almost a month to learn anything about her and I literally had to drag it out of her. Finally the light came on and I realize that she was probably married. The next email I just came out and ask her, then absolutely nothing for about a month. One day again an email and I knew I was getting somewhere because the sentence was four word long. She was married, one son in college and a husband that traveled the world for work and was home a couple of times a month and for some reason needed to keep up with all the sport shows he had missed while he was away. I was still unsure how to or even if I should continue, but decided not to put pressure on her in anyway. After about three months she decided we should meet. I figured that this type of situation was one that a person only dreams about. She was married and I didn't want a full time relationship.
I'm the type of Dom that doesn't get into roping and beating and she didn't have a clue as to what she was or even looking for. I introduced her to mental domination, and quickly got into her head and started pushing her limits slowly but consistently. I fly aircraft for a living so getting out of town for a week/weekend was simple. This went on for four years and she quickly graduated to the most wonton slut I have ever been involved with in my life. The first time I introduced her to the Paris Theater in Portland. She had heard of Adult Theaters and thought they were where only gay men hung out. Once we entered the theater she was speechless and knew she could never do that. Before the evening was over not only had she been used on gynecologist chair, I took her back to the video booths and she worked the gloryholes like a seasoned pro.
After our visit to Portland this little girl was hooked.
We made trips to Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica and also a Hedonsim cruise.
In May 2011 she was diagnose with stage III breast cancer and passed away Nov of that year.
I will always miss her greatly, a sub like her only happens once in a lifetime if a Dom is extremely lucky..

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 3/22/2014 5:06:52 PM

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I am so sorry for your loss. Though I do not agree with the cheating part of it all.....I still feel for your loss.

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 3/22/2014 5:18:04 PM

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I have one question. How does a 31 year old have a son in college ?? Was she 13 when she had him????

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 3/22/2014 11:03:29 PM

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He was her stepson, her husband had been married before, sorry for the confusion.

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 3/22/2014 11:08:36 PM

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Wow...my condolences, thank you for sharing. xoxox

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 3/23/2014 7:15:37 AM

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Sometimes we do not think of our munchkins having munchkins of their own at an early age, but it happens. My daughter was 15 when she had my grandmunchkin. Hopefully that is not against the TOS to mention that.

Once again op sorry for your loss.

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 4/17/2014 1:52:30 PM

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I disagree with the title of this thread!!!

I'm involved with my third "true sub."
First died in my arms of complications of AIDS (after 7 years of slavery.)
2nd learned that his top-py streak was growing and asked to be released.
3rd might very well be my last one as in "for the rest of my life."

Sorry to hear of your recent loss. Grieving is so very individually oriented that I am here to assure you that it was about 15 years between #1 & #2. Do NOT let anyone EVER say to you "It's time to stop grieving and get on with your life." You will ALWAYS grieve for your "true sub," but do not let that stand in your way of hoping there is another one out there for you. NOT a replacemenet, simply the next "true sub" in your life. There are many definitions of "true sub" and as you grieve and grow (and get older) you will realise that one of the features you'd like in your "next" is an understanding that at one time you had an important person in your life.

Edited for teeny, tiny typo.

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 4/17/2014 2:02:24 PM >

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 4/17/2014 2:04:10 PM

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I saw this and just wanted to put out that I really hate the title of this thread the same as Lance does. Now since I'm poly maybe I see things differently but personally I believe we get many great loves (or in this case I guess subs?) in our life time. I really hate when people say there is only one in a life time because it just basically devalues all those you loved before and any you will love after and there will be an after.

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 4/17/2014 2:08:19 PM

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To the thread title, I say "prove it". You can't - it's just magical thinking.
And while I'm sorry you lost somebody you cared about, just remember, so did her husband when you helped her betray him.

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 5/16/2014 8:05:13 PM

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Honestly, this gentlemen speaks of his partner passing away and people are griping about the title of the post? I thought this forum was "Positive Experiences"?

That the OP feels so much for his deceased partner that he doesn't think there will be another like her is extremely heartfelt and my condolences go out to the OP and his subs family.

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RE: True subs only enter your life once. - 7/9/2014 12:59:45 PM

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Born & raised in the lifestyle (long story) and that while I HOPE the title to this thread is not true.....in all my years, I can say that I HAVE, in fact, only met one true submissive.
He was my property for 6 glorious years-in good and in horrible; he never faltered.

He got a job offer in Japan (tv/radio writer) and I wasn't able to go. He initially declined the job offer. They beefed up their offerings to him and I ordered him to go.
Without me-my father needed me immensely at the time.

It's been....oh...13 years and I've never met such a fundamentally sound and truly altruistic slave in my entire existence.

My beloved britina I called him. He set the bar high, much to the dismay of those that came after him.

But....I just hope that the title to this thread is not true. After MUCH bad luck with "submissives" these days, I AM, for the first time in this lifestyle, finding it daunting. And hard not to be jaded.
Luckily I'm enjoying the fuck out of myself and sucking the marrow out of life so while it's a major part of my make-up, there is so much more good on which I focus and stay positive.

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