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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

Because, as a general rule, certain things have a generalized meaning.
A submissive doesn't want to dominate.
A dominant doesn't usually want to submit.
A switch is able (and likely) to do both - that's why they are called switches.

If you want to put a different meaning to generalized phrases, that would confuse the fuck out of most other people in the scene.

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ORIGINAL: AurumArgent

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

Because, as a general rule, certain things have a generalized meaning.
A submissive doesn't want to dominate.
A dominant doesn't usually want to submit.
A switch is able (and likely) to do both - that's why they are called switches.

If you want to put a different meaning to generalized phrases, that would confuse the fuck out of most other people in the scene.

Really? This is certainly news to me.

Because I've never met two people who agreed on exactly just what those three labels mean.

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ORIGINAL: evesgrden

FR~

Chains, I don't see you as a switch. You like being topped in the bedroom. That's your choice. I would consider you a switch if sometimes you were in charge of the relationship and sometimes you weren't. Or I see switches as having vanilla dynamics, an egalitarian relationship but they love kinky play and explore both sides of it.

Your submissive knows how you like sex and play, and provides that for you. If you wanted it done differently, could you just say what you want and expect compliance? If your submissive wanted it done differently would there be a need to ask for permission?

Dominants say "we're going to do X this time"
Submissives say "Can we please do X this time?"
Whatever it is that X represents is immaterial.

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I like it when you overpower me. I feel your strength. I feel how much you want me. You're claiming me. You know I can't help but resist. It's in my nature. But I damned well want you. I won't make this easy for you, but your determination, your power, your drive to have me make me feel better than anything in the world. This damned strong guy wants me, will have me, and that's intoxicating. I'm out of control, but that's the best part, knowing I'm vulnerable to you. Fear and excitement rolled into one.

You tie me up and torture me. Damned I feel like the strongest guy in the world, yet completely helpless to you. Enduring hell. I can see in your eyes you love seeing me this vulnerable, and yet you get off knowing that I won't stop resisting. I won't stop fighting. And I can handle this. Then you whisper in my ear “Take it for me” and I stop resisting. I stand there, chained, completely helpless, seeing that stun gun close in to my flesh, scared shitless I look into your eyes and kiss you. I want to endure it for you. As my mind clears as you let me go, I feel right, knowing I was strong enough. That I could endure that. Its who I am. I'm meant to go through hell, no matter how much I hate it at the time.

The next day I walk in the door after work, and I see you. Damn you look so good. I grab you and slam you into a wall. You're mine, and I'm going to have you. You fight me back. That strength to fight just makes me want you more. I press harder. I want you to feel my need. I need you. You're mine.

I cuff you to the wall, hands above your head facing me, and hear you growl as I grab the baton. One hard, heavy belt across your stomach and I see you lurch forward and fight the restraints. My mind tears between compassion for you, and sheer amazement. That groan pierces me and I hear what you can take. Another blow, just close to it, enough to make you jerk again, and yet the look of anger in your eyes makes me excited… if I let those cuffs go, I'd feel the full force of this warrior. No, I control him. Lets see what he can take. Punches to your chest see you almost break, but you slowly stand. Always fighting back. A knife to your skin, hearing the groan pierce me, the compassion tear at me, the rush knowing I'm in pure unadulterated control. Damn… how fucking awesome are you? That anger, that strength there even when I am making you shout and groan with each blow and wound. A kiss to your gagged mouth and a thumb grinding into your bruise. Yeah, you feel me. You're mine. And I love every inch of you.

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ORIGINAL: AurumArgent

But whether or not you dismiss someone on the basis of the label of "switch" before even bothering to find out just what they mean by that is strictly a function of how many people are available who identify as "sub."

If you have plenty of other options, why take the risk?

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ORIGINAL: FightingChains

I'm not whining. I'm stating that you have shown prejudice, and you have. I don't want a relationship with you or any other.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75
If you want to attract submissive online, you need to put dominant in your label then. Because no submissive is gonna bother to browse switches, they will be more focus on finding dominants.

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I would expect switches to be browsed by other switches.
But if your goal is to specifically aim to get submissives to contact you, then you should definitely have a pure dominant profile. Because the way they filter their search, they are going to choose "dominant" as a filter, obviously!