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Taboo - 4/19/2015 12:22:04 AM

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Taboo and deviance are terms whose definitions vary depending on the individual asked. What falls at the more extreme end of the spectrum for some may reside in the middle, or perhaps the tame end for others.

If I had the wherewithal to have a roundtable discussion with those in the 'kink' lifestyle, questions I would pose:

Have you ever participated in something that, from a personal standpoint, you never imagined would, precisely because you viewed it as taboo or too deviant? If so, what led to the change in mindset? Afterwards, how did you feel? Did the act, in your eyes, move away from the higher side of the spectrum? Or did it turn out to be as debaucherous as you'd assumed?

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Have you ever participated in something that, from a personal standpoint, you never imagined would, precisely because you viewed it as taboo or too deviant?

Yes, lots of things.

If so, what led to the change in mindset?

The entire journey. I didn't just jump in at the deep end, I saw things that intrigued me and met groups of people in the know about those things. I became more and more inquisitive .

Afterwards, how did you feel? Did the act, in your eyes, move away from the higher side of the spectrum? Or did it turn out to be as debaucherous as you'd assumed?

Everything I have practised has been something that became a desire somewhere along this adventurous journey. I can't think of a single thing that I regretted trying. There are people on CS who would see me as one filthy sick pup. Personally I don't see myself as anything other than an explorer who, as long as its fun, as long as its consensual and nobody is going to get permanently hurt, isn't held back by moral guilt.

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RE: Taboo - 4/19/2015 3:04:14 AM

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Right off the bat, I can't say that I have participated in anything which I consider to be taboo or which violated my moral compass.
Wait, I just thought of something.

Okay, not something I felt I couldn't live with or felt coerced into doing against my will.

I didn't enjoy having a threesome. I actually hated it, and since I was young at the time, I didn't realize that this would be a Hard Limit for me. You live, and you learn.

In fact, the worst thing to me where I felt I was being unethical and compromising my self-image (in that it didn't make me feel good about myself as a person), was when I ended up falling in love with a married man. Once, and only once, and it will never happen again. Nothing substantial materialized out of it (I couldn't allow that); I didn't commit any adulterous acts, but it was spiritual adultery nonetheless. Even if marriage wasn't a factor, I'm not a poacher and have a low opinion of those who are.

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RE: Taboo - 4/19/2015 8:07:41 AM

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There are people on CS who would see me as one filthy sick pup.

Would you really want it any other way?

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RE: Taboo - 4/19/2015 12:03:57 PM

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Yes...and the shame is still with me and damaging.

Looking inward in retrospect I have found I am at least two people and maybe more. Not as in Sybil but as one in firm control of desires and emotions and another with no control or an ability to say no. Both governed by the strength of my libido at any one time.

What I have done would not be taboo to many, but we are all victims of our upbringing and some of the things I have done are certainly against those mores.

The one without control scares me and no matter how i try to keep it inside it always at some point comes out and takes over.

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RE: Taboo - 4/19/2015 7:51:50 PM

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There are many things I have an intellectual interest in that I have no intentions of actually trying myself.

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RE: Taboo - 4/20/2015 1:16:21 AM

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There are people on CS who would see me as one filthy sick pup.

Would you really want it any other way?

Nah, there are as many disproving prudes in this lifestyle as out of it and anyway, this place has a calming influence on me!

I'll be honest and say, when I first started using this site I thought it was incredibly fluffy in the S/M department but it was the only site that had any half decent discussions.

Much as I enjoy being amongst other 'sick pups' like yourself and RS, its like being on a continuous trip and continuous trips are exhausting. I guess you could say that CS has the ability to harness my imagination and bring me back down to earth.

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RE: Taboo - 1/21/2017 10:10:50 PM

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The preparation of a submissive to cross the line has its challenges

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RE: Taboo - 1/22/2017 9:26:21 AM

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Have you ever participated in something that, from a personal standpoint, you never imagined would, precisely because you viewed it as taboo or too deviant? If so, what led to the change in mindset? Afterwards, how did you feel? Did the act, in your eyes, move away from the higher side of the spectrum? Or did it turn out to be as debaucherous as you'd assumed?

Hell yeah, most of the shit I am into would be frowned upon by many of my vanilla and chocolate friends. Actually, they would probably be frowned upon by people on this site and any of the other alternative sites I am on as well. I am a very open minded man. Have enough bad shit happen to you in life and smoke a lil reefer and you too will say fuck it. I don't regret much in life. We only live once and I am thankful that I have had the opportunity to try things that other people dream of.

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RE: Taboo - 1/22/2017 2:22:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MariaB

Have you ever participated in something that, from a personal standpoint, you never imagined would, precisely because you viewed it as taboo or too deviant?

Yes, lots of things.

If so, what led to the change in mindset?

The entire journey. I didn't just jump in at the deep end, I saw things that intrigued me and met groups of people in the know about those things. I became more and more inquisitive .

Afterwards, how did you feel? Did the act, in your eyes, move away from the higher side of the spectrum? Or did it turn out to be as debaucherous as you'd assumed?

Everything I have practised has been something that became a desire somewhere along this adventurous journey. I can't think of a single thing that I regretted trying. There are people on CS who would see me as one filthy sick pup. Personally I don't see myself as anything other than an explorer who, as long as its fun, as long as its consensual and nobody is going to get permanently hurt, isn't held back by moral guilt.

I like this.
Adding only one can be moral without guilt and feel guilt without morals. Just depends on where personally the needle to that compass lays.

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RE: Taboo - 1/26/2017 10:01:40 AM

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Taboo - may simply be putting a blindfold around someones else eyes, tying them to the bed and running of with their purse and spending it on cake, Antarctic tuna and two dozen hookers from outer space. That is taboo

There is of course the other kind: an errant lot, of mad basket cases who require locking up....anyone with a halfwit can counter some like me and my minds with some people are designed this way.

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RE: Taboo - 1/26/2017 10:10:23 AM

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And we see omnidumb has resurrected another almost 2 year old necro thread.

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RE: Taboo - 1/26/2017 12:12:54 PM

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The "taboo" in question is necrophilia? Cool.
(I used to be a necrophiliac, but some rotten cunt split on me...)

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RE: Taboo - 1/26/2017 10:59:01 PM

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Have you ever participated in something that, from a personal standpoint, you never imagined would, precisely because you viewed it as taboo or too deviant?

Oh yes, several times.

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If so, what led to the change in mindset?

What can i say I am a depraved little slut with an adventurous streak.

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Afterwards, how did you feel?

Anywhere from bored to horrified at myself, depending on which time we are talking about.

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Did the act, in your eyes, move away from the higher side of the spectrum?

Some did

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Or did it turn out to be as debaucherous as you'd assumed?

Some did.

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RE: Taboo - 1/27/2017 3:56:27 PM

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The first time I stripped naked in a crowd at the order of my dom was definitely something I had never imagined I would do. It was tough.
The same dom dictated that I be naked in the house and with likeminded company. After a while it was no big deal. In fact, it was normal.

My take from this is that anything can be made "new normal" if you practice it enough. This is one reason why I think humiliation play must get very tough after a while, because the players would have to escalate the level of humiliation to get the same emotion.

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RE: Taboo - 1/27/2017 9:30:05 PM

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My take from this is that anything can be made "new normal" if you practice it enough.

Which, to be completely honest, is why a cult can be successful.

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RE: Taboo - 1/27/2017 9:34:56 PM

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The first time I stripped naked in a crowd at the order of my dom was definitely something I had never imagined I would do. It was tough.
The same dom dictated that I be naked in the house and with likeminded company. After a while it was no big deal. In fact, it was normal.

My take from this is that anything can be made "new normal" if you practice it enough. This is one reason why I think humiliation play must get very tough after a while, because the players would have to escalate the level of humiliation to get the same emotion.

Next comes being beaten in front of the crowd.

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RE: Taboo - 1/28/2017 1:07:30 PM

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The "taboo" in question is necrophilia? Cool.
(I used to be a necrophiliac, but some rotten cunt split on me...)

This made me chuckle, and repulsed at the same time

As for taboo. I enjoyed the drink, back when I used to spend small fortunes trying to get drunk, and failing.

On the sex side of things; I've done things that I thought I wouldn't do, spoke of things with someone that I never thought would voice, that he agreed to online, or over the phone, only to find out that he was too chicken to follow through in real time.

I know that what I'm willing to do is person dependent, and what one person can have of me, others can't. I'm not really willing to share all my sexy freak with just anyone, so I guess it's not going to be considered major taboo by the person I share with. After all, if I thought they were that 'nilla I wouldn't be going there. Even my soft serve has to come from Mr Whippy in a life raft with nuts and red juice all over it ffs

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RE: Taboo - 3/7/2017 6:17:45 AM

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Have I?
Yes, when 17 I was seduced by my almost 60yr old Aunt, the wife of my mothers brother. Now at the time, I was excited, willing, loved it.
I at first thought I was seducing her as she guided me along...of course she did, I was 17 stupid and never touched a woman before.
Does it bother me, somewhat, but well I love cookies so I cant keep my hand out of the cookie jar.

Next- would I do that again, now that I'm older, I honestly don't know but I suppose I would. Of all the taboo things I have done and I'm am now 83
I think I would probably do them all l again, I think its my nature to allow my penis to make decisions for me.

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RE: Taboo - 3/7/2017 10:26:48 AM

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Taboo......I never though that wanting to be dressed or bound, head to toe, in full rubber would have sent so many Dommes running the other way. Who knew?

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