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Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 6/17/2015 4:27:56 AM

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[ Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? ]

So of all of the switches out there, I just wanted to ask which side do you tend to learn more towards when it comes to relationships or scenes. Which side do you feel most comfortable on or desire?

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 6/17/2015 4:57:54 AM

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Dominant in relationships. I'm more into erotic Domination, but I do expect to have the final say in partnership matters.

Scene, more the Top, but. . . I prefer interactive spontaneity within a D/s context, irrespective of who is taking on which T/b role, and playfulness is important to me.

BDSM is sexual for me. With non-BDSM sexuality, Topping or bottoming becomes irrelevant there. I'm not a control freak, but I am decisive and unambiguous about expressing myself, and keeping lines of communication open. I know what I like and what I don't like; I know what I want in a partner and I know what I don't want, and what I don't want is a partner who isn't a passionate lover and a multifaceted human being.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 6/18/2015 6:09:22 AM

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I tend to be flexible depending on the position of the person I'm with. In my first two relationships for example, I was the dominant partner. But in my second from last and current, I was a submissive and slave respectively. With someone else who I know quite well, we're both switches so it depends far more on our mood at the time.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 6/21/2015 10:58:10 AM

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I lean toward the right a bit.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 6/21/2015 12:52:45 PM

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Depends on the individual. With my Master, I lean near completely towards my submissive side. With my Jarl - who does not own me nor does he have permission to use me sexually, but to whom I have sworn fealty to -, we are both switches so we tend to flex and change depending on what dynamic each of us prefers at the time.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 7/8/2015 6:40:36 AM

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I am a Dom who also switches. I have never been a full bottom as eventually my top just says screw it and takes over. Since I've never found someone who can keep it suppressed

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 7/8/2015 6:55:23 AM

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I am a dominant in my relationships. In scening, I switch. In sex, I switch.

I do what I enjoy. Always. I have a dominant playmate right now (in addition to my Pet), and he said last night, "I don't know if I should treat you as a bottom or submissive, or..."

I laughed. That was my answer.

The longer version would be, treat me as you want, and I will stop you if you go too far. I am an adult, and capable of that. Because I only play with people I trust will heed "No."

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 10/11/2015 10:28:50 PM

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I definitely lean more towards my sub side. For me, the only time my Dom side comes out is if my significant other or whoever I'm with is in sub space or identifies as a sub. While I do love both sides, my sub side will always be my first love.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 10/12/2015 8:10:01 PM

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Hmmm, going to sound true switch wishy washy here. New to the site, first time post to the forum. Hi everybody.

I used to consider myself a switch and in certain realms I am, but also ever evolving. Am heavily into Shibari and fully a top. Impact play and violet wand would lead to sadomasochist. Last year was being considered to be a sub as the chemistry was great, demographics and life prevented that. When I play in the dungeon, it is for two primary reasons. One is to play with rope and second is to scene with one of my Domme friends to feed my Masochistic needs. After my masochistic needs are filled, I can become quite the sadist. I will Top at the dungeon if it is with someone I have played with prior. Currently have a relationship with a lady. For the most part, it has evolved to a Daddy/babygirl thing. We switch that up sometimes to Mommy/boy. Then she is a rope bunny. We recently double Topped in a scene and it was so good that we will go down that road again. Chemistry out the ying yang we have. I prefer to be spontaneous. My biggest fetish is instigating, which I believe is like a PhD in bratting. Stirring the pot is what I do best. Never to do damage, but outrageous I can be. I go in the direction of those I have some calling/chemistry with. Usually it is with "real deal" people if I bottom. Dabblers don't do it for me, although I have stepped up so another can learn. With rope, I will throw it on anybody. That is multi level. I have a rope group that I run out of my house and will interact however needed. With my girl it is "no holds barred". Then I have a photographic/stage exhibition side too. Something may change next week and my direction will change. lol. Like I started with, I am a wishy washy switch.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 11/12/2015 7:33:09 PM

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I am a dominant who tops and bottoms. When I bottom, it is usually in a kinked up, sensual, topping from the bottom type of way. Massage me, use the ice and hot wax spa treatment that I love and do the pounding on my glutes and thighs too. Oh and give me the satin eye mask and the noise blocking headphones. Yeah, I am a switch, but I am not submissive at all.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 12/21/2015 3:08:30 PM

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Only genuine reality, plate of muffins; so vast, it has its own gravity well.

Why do you ask someone like I? non entity.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 12/22/2015 10:14:07 AM

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Most genuine and honest souls I feel would answer they are somewhere, foreverever in-between...not fixed, nor locked, wandering-meandering, exploring, evolving, seeking muffin.

The ones that states they are one extremity or the other worry me, greatly, and the hullaballoo they propagate, to all that will listen and embellish their talk and profiles of dangerous derangements.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 1/8/2016 7:05:12 AM

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I lean toward dominance most days in every day life because basically I just love getting my way! Other days I love to give that up and totally be unselfish. It's a good exercise when you are a ME person by nature. I was never happy trying to be one way or the other all the time. It was not authentic for me. It's a balancing act because for me receiving feels just as good as giving! At least for awhile.
I prefer submission in the bedroom. Totally into the caveman/Tarzan/chief/take it type thing. I had to let that be known first though, so I think I had to show dominance first to get what I needed.
For years, I thought someone should just know. Lol. If they didn't he wasn't the one. Silly really. Definitely was a very poor communicator.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 3/9/2016 5:42:13 PM

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Depends on the day, my mood, and who I am playing with.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 3/22/2016 3:23:45 PM

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I love both sides!!! It gives me total control and being a sub at the same time!!! what a wonderful world to be in!

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 3/23/2016 4:08:18 AM

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DEAR W.D you must be a very very old man , but have fun while and if you can.

always amused by your OLD remarks. xx

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 3/27/2016 4:54:05 PM

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(Which one will get me more pussy?)

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 4/26/2016 8:56:00 PM

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Great question. I've had only one kink partner. We did scenes for 4-5 years. We switched. I was Dom far more often, and I definitely enjoyed the feeling of power and control. However, I learned so much more about myself as sub. It was an incredibly enlightening experience. I definitely preferred it and would "lean" towards it in the future. There is so much more I want to know about myself.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 6/24/2016 10:55:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes

I am a dominant in my relationships. In scening, I switch. In sex, I switch.

I do what I enjoy. Always. I have a dominant playmate right now (in addition to my Pet),
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I am submissive to my Mistress. Whatever she wants, she gets. We have been together long enough to understand our moods and to instinctively read one another's cues.

In the past, I had no mental blocks with taking on the role of a service Top, or in taking the lead in various capacities if necessary.

In day-to-day life, I have often been the one in authority. Ultimately, though, I value teamwork as a collaborative effort, and can set my ego aside, giving credit where credit is due.

I am a good motivator, I have been told, as well as self-motivated to aspire to excellence whenever possible. This versatility has been the key to my success, I believe. My Lady would have me no other way because I strive to be Her everything so she will never need to look to another man to fulfill her no matter what.

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RE: Which Side Do You Lean More Towards? - 7/21/2016 4:28:03 AM

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