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In response to a couple of the posters here, I'm a little off (not to mention a bit toppy head space wise) because I do know a number of CnC folks. I'm not real comfy with the OP's description of "hearing about it many years ago," because I didn't see a lot of people describing their dynamics that way until roughly 2010-2011 time frame. (It was almost like a new fad at the time.) Before that? More M/s or even O/p. CnC, to me, didn't become the 'in vogue' kind of deal that it is now until just a few years back, so I'm not really hanging with the 'many years ago thing'. I guess I'm just at the age now that five doesn't equal "many". (Sorry, guys. I really am endorphin flooded loopy at the moment, so if I'm not making sense, I apologize.) I've got comments on other threads regarding CnC. Personally, I see CnC folks in two camps. Those who do the view as I described above. Yes, that one time blanket consent means it covers everything from the time the s-type enters the dynamic and all it entails until such time as either of the parties wants to end the dynamic. At such time, consent has been withdrawn. The parties either go their separate ways or some renegotiate the dynamic but the CnC is game over. I'm pretty much in this camp because anybody has the human right to say they are finished. Then, there is the other camp. That camp says that one time consent is for life, no matter what. Get that consent the one time, and even if one of the parties wants to withdraw that consent, as long as one of the parties still wants the dynamic to persist, the dynamic is still valid. Doesn't matter what the person who wants the dynamic has to do to drag the person who wants to leave back into their lives. Even the most extreme stuff. I'm not against most people's kinks but I mean the stuff that I just can't see as kink, any more. I will say one thing in the second camp's defense. When it comes to people that I know (meaning real life "know," not the crap you see fantasists type up on internet boards because they think it's so hot to have or be a captive forever) there's no imbalance in talking with either side of the slash. The s-types are just as on board as the M's. They *want* their Masters to drag them back, kicking and screaming, if necessary. They *want* the security that their "Daddy" to retrieve them from wherever they have removed themselves to, because they say, it makes them feel secure. My hang up with this? It's because none of the people who proclaim this have really wanted to leave yet. I don't mean the hothead situations where leaving sounds good at the time, but it's not really what the person wants to do. I mean the sound decisions where a person absolutely wants out and wanting to leave that dynamic is a final decision. I've had a couple of very difficult face to face discussions on the matter. Even as outspoken as I can be at times, they weren't conversations that I wanted to have, and thankfully, those conversations hasn't come to fruition. If they did, I'll be siding with the person who wants to leave.
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