Greta75
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ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 my D used to call me at work on the work phone in he morning to see how I was doing, I asked him not to after this letter came out and he didn't get mad or anything, he thought the letter was a good idea. I think most reasonable people will respect the company policy that you are working for and understand about it. You communicated it by showing your D the letter. You did proper communication to prepare him for why you may not be able to pick up his call. Usually if all proper communication is done properly, there shouldn't be problems. The interesting is, my Good EQ guy is self-employed, but very disciplined when he is working. Seriously, I could masturbate infront of him, and he couldn't be distracted. There are times I am hanging out with him, and he'd tell me, he got some work to finish, go entertain myself. And he'd be totally focus. Very very disciplined and focus when he is at work. So I know when he goes into busy stretch, he is focus, he may not even respond to me, like for a few days. He is very consistent. I know his patterns and habits, very comfortable with it. I admire his discipline too, as I think generally self-employed people do need serious discipline to get work done. My Not so great EQ guy, is sometimes focus, and sometimes not. But he is an employee in an MNC. Alot of boring meetings, where he spends his time texting me everything that is going on. And then on other days, he drops off, and then claim he is busy. But end of the day, he has had busy stretch where he was texting me to bitch about things in while the meetings were going on. So I guess it depends on his focus, and it's volatile. When you are used to hearing from him so frequently in a long stretch while he is at work, let's say 2 weeks, then he drops off for a week. No reason given. It naturally brings up anxiety. Especially when he doesn't want to explain himself and just say, because work been busy. I just feel he is a bad communicator. And I have now accepted this is his style and his habit. And not bothered anymore. I have alot of questions for OP, but she obviously have resolved her issue with her dominant, that's why she is no longer here.
< Message edited by Greta75 -- 10/7/2016 10:59:03 PM >
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