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ORIGINAL: tamaka
My advice for you is two- fold:
1. Don't get too impressed by doms who spend large amounts of time on message boards and seem to say all of the right things. I fell for that once and it turned out he wanted me to support him and though he was good at 'Philosophizing' online, his real life was a mess because he could talk the talk but not walk the walk. No offense to anyone here but it is just reality and as an older female sub, i would warn other subs about it.

2. If you don't already practice it, i highly recommend you try yoga. There is so much good that you can learn about taking care of yourself, body, heart, mind and spirit... and these days especially we need to be able to do that for ourselves first, before we open ourselves up to someone else. Just my opinion of what has helped me.