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DaddySatyr -> RE: Can't stop crying... (10/6/2016 10:45:17 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Alecta
To a degree. Some child-raising experts dispute that, but that's neither here nor there.
I asked because you have the same objections towards using other, non-beating methods of punishment, pretty much whenever the subject comes up, so I'm trying to understand what you would consider an acceptable punishment in general for correcting flaws and bad behaviours, not as punishment for yourself.
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Calling impact play "punishment" is part of the thrill for most subs who're into that sort of thing. They have the whole "I've been bad and need to be punished" thing going, see; but there's also a lot of people who just follow a guidebook, doing the funishment thing while not really getting it and missing the fun and fantasy aspect of a fake punishment dynamic thinking it's a hard and set rule.
And actually, a significant enough number of s-sides have a desire for "being held accountable by someone else (so they don't have to account for themselves)" going that it is a thing; so much so that, discounting the sadists, a lot of Doms end up doing the punishment thing because they think that's what the sub wants and that's how D/s is supposed to go. Indeed, there is a fairly obnoxious segment of s-sides who consider those who do not enjoy willy-nilly beating on them and punishing every little imagined and deliberate flaw to be "fake Doms", so you can't blame it all on the D-types.
I could not agree with a great portion of this more. You see, because I am not a sadist, there's a portion of submissive ladies who consider me to be a "fake" dominant.
There's a lid for every pot and all of that, but the long and short of it is: there's a reason different pots are different sizes.
I grew up with a step-dad (well ... sort of. as it turns out, I didn't live with them, for very long, really; just in spurts)
For me, the word "step dad" has become synonymous with "abuse". I'm not sure exactly how or why it happened, but I decided that I just couldn't equate any kind of violence to a loving, caring relationship (with the exception of light slaps on my children's hands, when they were very young to teach them the word: "No").
No matter how ideal the lady. if she's a masochist, we're not going very far, together. This has led me to develop some interesting punishments, over the years and I've always tried to make the "punishment fit the crime."
Michael
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