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Would you approach a sub - 10/24/2016 1:44:43 PM

csaul07

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Would you take the initiative to approach a sub whose profile catches your attention?

Or do you always wait for a sub to contact you first.

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RE: Would you approach a sub - 10/24/2016 2:28:49 PM

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Would you take the initiative to approach a sub whose profile catches your attention?

Or do you always wait for a sub to contact you first.

Of course, why wouldn't a Domme approach a sub if there are matching interests and compatibility?

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RE: Would you approach a sub - 10/24/2016 4:38:53 PM

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No. First, I really don't use this site for potential partners. I do fairly well for myself via the local kink community, so using this site for it would almost be like a step (or several steps) backward. If online was my only resource for that, personally, I feel Fet is vastly superior. A person's profile is very often how they see themselves. The Fet stuff gives me everything else. I know what events you go to, I see how much or how little your so-called "friends" post to your wall, what kind of pictures or writings speak to you well enough to hit that "love' button... I can tell much more about a person from their Fet page rather than just what they've written in text.

If this site was my only resource, the only way I'd be approaching would be if said person had an entire paragraph dedicated to their view on poly. If it's not there, I'll assume the person is monogamous, and there are enough people out there who don't want the poly person hitting on them. To some, it's annoying and offensive and I don't want to be that person.

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RE: Would you approach a sub - 10/25/2016 2:50:35 AM

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Oh sure. I'm a pretty friendly person, and I reach out to subs, interesting dominants, and any other whose profile catches my eyes. I don't do it with a specific end goal in mind, really, but when something impresses me, I say so.

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RE: Would you approach a sub - 10/25/2016 6:25:15 AM

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I dated one once. I think she just approached me as a person. I am neither sub or switch and I had no idea she was a domme at that time, nor her me loondom.

Unlikely on these places, but not impossible. You are looking for one who is more than a singular character actor-but you must also be more than a singular character actor.

My hopes simply arent high :( but you have in essence presented yourself, on this one, as a singular piece of a vast jigsaw.

I dont doubt the odd one requires money or an object or some cheaty wo/man requires a titty picture and talk of the naughty to fulfil attention or broken needs.

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RE: Would you approach a sub - 10/30/2016 12:08:32 AM

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Absolutely. I often send the first message. I'm a strong, confident woman and have no issue showing when I want something.

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