TNDommeK
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ORIGINAL: Gunshow I was genuinely worried about being scammed -- i.e. send $100 and never hear from her again. A fetish item seemed more reasonable and less scammy, and I was thinking $25-50 value. The role play and honorifics and capitalization and such were demanded by her and I was happy to oblige. It was genuine, in that I was "switched on", particularly as I am learning her demands and expectations. But when a fetish item suddenly becomes a $100 gift card, and then this becomes a part of my test of submission, with only photo levels of verification, this became a series of red flags for a likely scam. Note, I am not declaring this person to be a scammer. But I started thinking about how unfortunate it would be to throw away a potential pairing because of a lack of communication. If I assume she's not a scammer, it's unfortunate that her protocol was to behave much like a scammer (after a friendlier warm-up). Meanwhile I'm working on being able to trust her, probing if this is just a short-term money play, and she storms away from the table. In fairness, I was not initially up front about my video chat requirement. This was because our email discussion spanned several days, while in the meantime someone else tried to run a tribute-with-no-verification scam, so I updated my protocol. She can legitimately complain about that -- that my requirements only became clear once we firmed up the tribute details. see thats what I was thinking. the amount you named would have been fair and doable. Im a fin domme and think $100 before you know someone is steep. dont get me wrong, I wont turn it down if you send it, but to be fair that was a bit much. and the way she reacted told me everything. you did right by declining. ill tell you like I tell others, research! Look for posts, journals, contributions to sites, references, verification pics/videos, etc. Its easy to spot grab and dash fin ducks. edited to add...I didnt read the entire thread, just a section of two of your post. Thats my bad. I just went back and re read everything..Resident Sadist's post was spot on and is another great way to look at it. If you truly HAD been already roleplaying, invested time with etc..then she is right to ask for that. My answer above was because I thought you had just initially met.
< Message edited by TNDommeK -- 11/2/2016 2:05:30 PM >
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