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FriendlyMuppet -> RE: dealing with male sub/slave (11/4/2016 5:06:57 PM)
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Over the years, I've had a lot of submissive female friends who I hung out with. VERY few of these relationships ever developed into me serving them. However, having said that, I've had a few of those friends who I experimented with (and experimented with me) where we sometimes had very "interesting" relationships that kind of fell into pretty weird bdsm categories. What was important about those is that both of us were completely honest with each other and knew what we were getting into. One of my cherished relationships was with a submissive woman who used to go clubbing with me, where we ended up serving the same woman numerous times (kind of going at it as a couple serving a femdom). Great experiences, and a joy to all of us.
The point of saying all this isn't to brag about some past experience, but to point out that almost nothing productive ever comes out of attempting to cajole someone into performing a role he or she doesn't want to play. Trying to convince a submissive female to be dominant (who definitely isn't) plays into a sense of desperation and quite often will completely destroy any friendship that ever occurred (or could have occurred). To this day, I'm close friends with many women who are either submissives and/or switches. They have been my friends for years because my goal has NEVER been to talk them into fulfilling my personal fantasies. Strangely enough, a few of them actually have (like one who decided to give me a thrill on my birthday once), but that was a gift from a friend, not some conquest achieved through masterful manipulation. And yes, I've even dominated a few submissive women who were close to me because it was something they really wanted, even though they knew going into it that I'm most definitely not a dominant (so it was basically me being a service submissive rather than me pretending to actually be a lifestyle dominant).
There are so many variations and nuances to this lifestyle that all things are generally okay, as long as both partners are seeking exactly that (for whatever reasons). It's the manipulation that leaves the bad taste and generally guts any relationship you might ever hope to have.
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