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dealing with male sub/slave - 11/3/2016 8:45:06 AM   
MasterCsSlave


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have you females sub/slave ever deal with male sub/slave who wants to serve/pamper you?
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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/3/2016 8:53:09 AM   
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Absolutely, all the time. Strangely even in vanilla websites, I get submissive men offering. But I always tell them, NO. Find a Domme to serve.

I have zero interest in submissive men and I don't want a man to serve me.

I got nearly a heart attack once where somehow, through some miscommunication, I agreed to meet this man for dinner from a vanilla site thinking he was a dominant.

During Dinner, I realise everything was going horrible wrong. The man was a submissive , and wanted me to dom him! He said he felt the energy from my profile and conversing with me that I got to be into dominance.

But I was horrified and anyway, definitely parted ways and told him straight! He got it all wrong! And Gosh never have the communication ever got so crazily wrong, just in the way I phrase things, he thought I was into dominance, and just the way he phrase things, I thought he was into dominance.


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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/3/2016 9:13:23 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCsSlave

have you females sub/slave ever deal with male sub/slave who wants to serve/pamper you?

Yup. Although, in 99% of the cases you take the term "serve & pamper" with a grain of salt, since they give me a list of ways they'd like to serve me.

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/3/2016 5:29:10 PM   
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I am simply looking for sister slave, and I get messages from male slaves asking/begging me to do CBT on them, which I am curious to do, but it post not much benefits or pleasure or fun for my Master C. Heck, I even get messages from male slaves that they are willing to be locked in chastity and serve me, being below/lower than a slave myself, even if it means they will never get sexual pleasure or have orgasm if they are that willing into that position. Again, what can my Master who is straight, get out of having a male slave? Other than Financial Dominance and Humiliation?

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/3/2016 5:42:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCsSlave

I am simply looking for sister slave, and I get messages from male slaves asking/begging me to do CBT on them, which I am curious to do, but it post not much benefits or pleasure or fun for my Master C. Heck, I even get messages from male slaves that they are willing to be locked in chastity and serve me, being below/lower than a slave myself, even if it means they will never get sexual pleasure or have orgasm if they are that willing into that position. Again, what can my Master who is straight, get out of having a male slave? Other than Financial Dominance and Humiliation?


Seems like you answered that yourself in your journal.

5/12/2016 3:35:41 PM [Report Entry]
>>>Seeking Sister Slaves!<<<
Let's be Best Friends in the Lifestyle!
Have Wonderful Girlie Time Together!
Cooking. Cleaning. Cuddling.
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males slave: you can kiss His ass, suck His dick, empty your wallet, and if you are a good boy, you may be rewarded with His cum from my cunt.
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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/4/2016 8:43:45 AM   
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Again, what can my Master who is straight, get out of having a male slave? Other than Financial Dominance and Humiliation?


BDSM doesn't have to include sex. I know several straight male Doms that will play with male subs in manner that doesn't involve sexual contact.

I'll also add, that 99% of what M and I do doesn't involve sex or BDSM. So, there's tons of stuff that comes under the term "service".


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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/4/2016 10:10:46 AM   
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LOL!
isn't it great when they invite what they don't want?

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/4/2016 10:49:49 AM   
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Again, what can my Master who is straight, get out of having a male slave? Other than Financial Dominance and Humiliation?


Same as I get out of my slave girl I supposed... a full time butler/maid/gardener, who does all the stuff I don't want to do, and instead of needing to be payed brings home a paycheck for me to spend.

If you cannot imagine things to use an actual slave for, you're severely lacking in imagination.

Although, I doubt many of the ones who are contacting you would fall under my personal definition of 'actual slave'.

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/4/2016 5:06:57 PM   
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Over the years, I've had a lot of submissive female friends who I hung out with. VERY few of these relationships ever developed into me serving them. However, having said that, I've had a few of those friends who I experimented with (and experimented with me) where we sometimes had very "interesting" relationships that kind of fell into pretty weird bdsm categories. What was important about those is that both of us were completely honest with each other and knew what we were getting into. One of my cherished relationships was with a submissive woman who used to go clubbing with me, where we ended up serving the same woman numerous times (kind of going at it as a couple serving a femdom). Great experiences, and a joy to all of us.

The point of saying all this isn't to brag about some past experience, but to point out that almost nothing productive ever comes out of attempting to cajole someone into performing a role he or she doesn't want to play. Trying to convince a submissive female to be dominant (who definitely isn't) plays into a sense of desperation and quite often will completely destroy any friendship that ever occurred (or could have occurred). To this day, I'm close friends with many women who are either submissives and/or switches. They have been my friends for years because my goal has NEVER been to talk them into fulfilling my personal fantasies. Strangely enough, a few of them actually have (like one who decided to give me a thrill on my birthday once), but that was a gift from a friend, not some conquest achieved through masterful manipulation. And yes, I've even dominated a few submissive women who were close to me because it was something they really wanted, even though they knew going into it that I'm most definitely not a dominant (so it was basically me being a service submissive rather than me pretending to actually be a lifestyle dominant).

There are so many variations and nuances to this lifestyle that all things are generally okay, as long as both partners are seeking exactly that (for whatever reasons). It's the manipulation that leaves the bad taste and generally guts any relationship you might ever hope to have.

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/11/2016 7:33:45 PM   
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I suspect a lot of guys get desperate. There's a feeling for many men that there just aren't any female dominants out there when you start looking. Of course if you pluck up the courage to go to an actual event in the real world or share your kinks with your friends and partners you soon find out different.

I do know that when I was fresh to all this and getting desperate to find someone, but still didn't have the courage to attend an event (for fear of being outed) I considered it might be easier to find a male dominant to submit to. Now, generally speaking I never used to find myself sexually attracted to men but still considered it. I could see another extension where some desperate men would consider approaching subs or switches.

I'll be honest I do have some sympathy for those in that situation, but my advice to them is to go to a munch. A much wider and bigger world opened up for me when I did.

Anyhoo, other than the randoms who contact everyone, that might explain some of the guys who contact people round here.

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/19/2016 3:25:42 PM   
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I had a friend who scened with a male sub - because the male sub couldn't find a female dominant. My friend got nothing out of it sexually, but enjoyed beating another human being. The submissive obviously got a sexual charge from it but never came to completion during a scene. (I'm guessing afterwards when he was alone it was another matter)

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RE: dealing with male sub/slave - 11/19/2016 4:55:36 PM   
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quote:

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have you females sub/slave ever deal with male sub/slave who wants to serve/pamper you?

ALL the time. Even when I'm very clear I'm not interested. I think rejection is their fetish

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