UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: plumpytoilet Thanks for your quick replies, but i think that dominance is not only granted by nature, dominance could be acquired, maybe with some special kinds of practice or acts, but making it impossible is not really the right word. hope to find some useful answers. Just so you know, I'm kind of used to be the minority opinion on this particular subject. <grin> I have a question for you. (Several, actually.) If it is such a casual thing that Dominance could be acquired, why don't you just "acquire" your vanilla~ness? You want this woman to get into D/s for you. Why isn't the opposite true? Just be vanilla for her. Just practice having the sex that doesn't make you happy or try those "acts" that you speak of. You want her to change her preferences to suit you. Why aren't you changing for her? I'm willing to bet that when you two got married, she had no idea that you thought you were such a <cough> slave <cough> that you were going to try to change her into the person that she's not. From a certain angle, that really does mean that you don't love your wife for the person she is. Instead, you want to love the idea of what you want to turn her into be. If you really were dealing with a Dominant woman, she'd tell you to f^ck off. She'd have the realization that she gets to be exactly who she is, rather than cow-towing to you. And this. If you want to be her slave. Serve her. Do what she wants. Stop trying to make her do what you want. Clean the house for her. Bring her flowers. Take her out to dinner. Massage her when she has a hard day. Obey her every whim. Get her comfortable with you being her ever present support, and obedient servant. Start asking her: Honey, is there anything else I could do for you to make you happier than you are right now? Once she gets used to you asking that question a bunch (and with you complying without arguing or resentment) she'll telling you what to do on her own more. Once she starts telling you what to do on her own more, then you can go and gently ask her small things you might like her to do: Honey, I would really like it if you'd let me serve you your dinner from my knees tonight, to show you how much I worship you, would that be okay? Ask for things she'll be comfortable with. After you actually start serving her -what she wants, not what makes your dick hard- she might start to take over and start doing more stuff on her own, including some of the stuff that makes your dick hard. If she doesn't, serve her anyways.
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I can be your whore I am the dirt you created I am your sinner And your whore But let me tell you something baby You love me for everything you hate me for
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