dcnovice
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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick FR While we are not an M/s dynamic, I don't think I could do what we do if they did not love me. I need to know I m loved if I am going to make myself as vulnerable (physically, emotionally, and mentally) as I do. I have also a rather long history of being a fucktoy without there being any emotional connection, and I found it demoralizing, dehumanizing, and very bad for my self-esteem, it very nearly destroyed me. So yeah, I need to know I am loved, that I m precious to them, that I matter and that they care deeply for me, that they will do their best to indulge my dark places and yet protect me. That they will still want me even after I do some of the shit I do. Now, that being said, I can understand, I think, where tamaka and Ishtar's slave are coming from, the idea of serving somebody who does not care for me, someone who does not value me other than for how I can serve/please them is terribly appealing to me, but that sort of objectified dynamic is not something I can do again. I am not strong enough, and am far to insecure to do so. I really appreciate your honesty. Thanks! ETA: Last Sunday, I hugely misunderstimated how much (unrealistic) hunger for connection I'd brought to a casual play date, and discovering that made for a very rough week.
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