UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl
Google one sided love, and you won't find anything positive about it.
https://www.rootreport.com/one-sided-love-quotes/
Okay, lets examine your link:
I’m not sure what scares me more, that you will never start loving me, or that I will never stop loving you.
This quote implies that the person doing the loving has needs that aren't being met by the relationship, and that because of the love, they keep hoping that they eventually will get met in the relationship, but is afraid that will never happen.
This doesn't apply to our slave, because all her needs -all the things she was looking for from the relationship- are being met. She doesn't feel unfulfilled, and isn't waiting for something to change to finally find fulfillment in the relationship.
In fact, she's sorta scared that if were would fall in love with her, that would change certain aspects of our relationship in such a way that it would leave her needs not fully being met (she specifically worries that us falling in love with her will start making her go 'soft' on her, lower our expectations, make us more lenient, and thu snot push her as hard anymore towards self-improvement anymore).
People will hold your hand though the darkness but then let go when they find the light.
This quote deals with somebody being with you when they are struggling with issues that causes them to need somebody to be there for them, but then once they have fixed those issues and are fine again, dumping you because they no longer need you.
This doesn't apply to our relationship, because none of the parties involved got into it to 'fix' issues they were having by relying on somebody else's support to get through them. We got into it because it enhances our -already happy- lives.
I love dreaming, because in my dreams, you’re actually mine.
This quote deals with somebody wanting something from somebody else, but not getting it, because the other person has no desire to be there for the person in love.
This doesn't apply to our relationship, because we are all in it because we have desires/needs that get met by the other people in the relationship, and we all want to be there for each other to meet the other's needs and desires.
It’s so hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember.
This deals with a relationship which is over, where one person wishes it wasn't, while the other person no longer cares.
It doesn't apply to our relationship because it's not over. In addition to that, this exact same situation could occur in a relationship where both parties are initially in love with each other, but then one party falls out of love and moves on. Both being in love at the beginning does not prevent this situation from occurring, and actually in a sense makes it more likely, because if love is the reason to be together, then as soon as one party stops loving the other one, the person still in love is going to feel this way, because the person who is now out of love has no reason to stay. If there's reasons other than love to be in the relationship, it's less likely to end because of somebody falling out of love, because there's other reasons to stay together.
I tried to hate you but the only thing I hated is how much I loved you.
Same as above, aside from the fact that apparently the person who fell out of love ended up badly hurting the person still in love in a way that might be justification to cause hate.
At some point, you have to realize that he doesn’t care, and you could be missing out on someone who actually does.
This deals with a relationship where the person not in love doesn't care about the person in love, and is -presumably- using them for their own intentions without giving any thought or consideration about giving anything back to the person in love.
This doesn't apply to us, because while we're not in love with our slave, we very much do care about that, and it's important to us that her needs are fulfilled (and taken into account) as much as our own in the relationship.
Love is not needed to care about somebody. Nor is it needed to ensure that meeting everybody's needs is a goal of the relationship.
Loving someone who doesn’t love you in return… is like trying to fly with a broken wing.
Again, this assumes a relationship in which the person not in love doesn't care about meeting the needs of the person who is in love. It assumes that the person in love is not getting support in life to meet their goals, fulfill their needs, and live out their dreams in life, while they're constantly expected to fulfill these roles towards the person who's not in love.
This doesn't apply, because meeting our slave's needs, helping her to fulfill her goals and dreams is very much a focus of our relationship. It just doesn't require love.
He’s the one I love, but he keeps ignoring me.
Assumes the person not in love doesn't care about the person in love.
Doesn't apply, because we don't ignore her, and do care about her.
You don’t understand that the thought of you being with someone else hurts.
Assumes that the person not in love chose somebody else over/instead of the person in love.
Doesn't apply, because our slave is valued for who and what she is to us. She's not replaceable by somebody else, because nobody else is her. If we find another person who would add value to our relationship, that person might get added, but doing so wouldn't replace the value she has to us (poly makes this a lot easier).
Why do I feel so far away from you even though you are sitting right next to me?
Assumes the person not in love is not available for support, care, assistance, guidance, etc to the person in love.
Doesn't apply, see above.
I could keep going here, but I hope I've made my point. I read the entire list, and I didn't see a single quote listed that applies to our relationship.
If you see a specific one you are not sure about on how it doesn't apply, feel free to list it, and I'll explain about that specific one how it isn't applicable.
The problem with all of them basically is that they all assume a one-sided relationship where the person in love somehow isn't getting their needs met by being in the relationship. Considering that our relationship is based on a mutual meeting of needs, that base assumption is incorrect for us, and thus all conclusions drawn from it are also incorrect.
< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 11/20/2016 2:07:15 PM >
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I can be your whore
I am the dirt you created
I am your sinner
And your whore
But let me tell you something baby
You love me for everything you hate me for
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