DaddySatyr
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Joined: 8/29/2011 From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: painchic Have you had any experience with using the Silent Treatment to manage your submissive if she has overstepped the mark? I wouldn't say that I use "the silent treatment". I will say that, at times, there are issues that arise that are so emotion-laden that it is in my best interests to "take a pause". In fact, I grew up in Irish and Italian (and German) households, raised by immigrant grandparents. The Irish and the Italians - in my experience - tend to be a bit more boisterous, in almost all settings, than other families with which I was familiar. So raising my voice has never been an act of anger. It's an act of "joie de vivre". As I said, there are times, when an issue is so emotional on either side that I just walk away and take a few minutes or hours or (in extreme cases), days. It's not like I made a snap decision to end my marriage (and you'd better believe there were some deep issues, there) and I am sure if you asked my ex-wife if I gave her "the silent treatment", she would say that I did. I can assure you, I was just trying to keep things in perspective and desperately trying to hold a relationship together. Lest I forget to mention the smallest of "silent treatments": I've had times, where someone has said something to me that just caused me to stop and stare and try to gauge intent by reading their face. One of my partners once told me: "I didn't know if you were going to kiss me or kill me, for those few seconds". To me (and this JUST MY OPINION) unless it is something that a partner enjoys, what I would term "the silent treatment" is actually an inability of the dominant to face issues, head-on. It's passive-aggressive to the Nth degree. Michael
< Message edited by DaddySatyr -- 1/30/2017 10:18:42 PM >
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