LadyPact
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ORIGINAL: respectmen This is a conversation I was having with a random woman who approached me on a dating site. Her: haha no way, I'm more special than you. Her: nope, I'm more special haha Her: But I'm more special. Trimmed but I don't really think I need the whole thing. Unless she was trying to be playful in a D/s sense, the bit about "I'm special/more special than you" would be weird to me, too. If you 'met' (and I hate that term for somebody that you haven't been anything past electronic exchanges) on a kink dating site and either of you were into the whole worshiping/Dominant higher value deal as one of your kinks, I could have seen it as a type of flirting. Maybe not great flirting but flirting, nonetheless. Some people dig that role play on either side of the slash. Honestly, some submissives do get into it. Not a gender thing, either because there's plenty of M/f out there where the 'privilege of worshiping my cock (oral)' is common enough. Yes, I know you're a bottom, rather than an s-type, but, ya know. all types to make a world and all of that. However, since I haven't seen anybody else mention it, I'll put my two cents in. Frankly, if we're at the level of you're spending time in my house that revolves around play, you're not my classification of "guest,"and that means you're going to contribute around here. Dating me doesn't look the same as most of you folks who are dating single. Most of you single folks, when you have somebody over for dinner/stay the night, you're doing roughly the same amount of household upkeep because it's still the bed you regularly sleep in, bathroom that you clean, etc, etc. On my end, it doesn't look like that. There's a whole bottom floor of this house (basement) that wouldn't have to be cleaned that much if I/we weren't playing in it. Frankly, it's mini dungeon down there, plus a bedroom, and a full bath. Not in use, I'd only have to spruce it up now and again. Completely different story when that part of the house is being used for play, sex, bath, and what have you. No offense to anyone but this isn't the equivalent of a free kinky B&B where a person comes and gets there kink on for the weekend, and then I get to clean it up. quote:
ORIGINAL: respectmen I was thinking about ditching this woman before that particular conversation due to her appearing to be prudish and stand offish of anything sexual from things she said. At one point, a few days ago, I was mentioning that I was feeling hot (as in heat) and laying in bed. This was through kik messenger. Anyway, as people open the screen of their phone and not the actual message, they can see part of the message but not the whole message. When she saw part of the message, it was appearing to be a dirty message. She mentioned this to me and expressed that it made her angry at first until she saw the whole message. Before this incident and after this incident, she ranted about guys being disrespectful to women because they say sexual stuff. Men get crucified on these forums for expecting easy sex and/or not approaching it in a respectful and well mannered way. When men have these attitudes, they are deemed as being "self entitled", when women have these attitudes, the man is wrong for complaining about it! Truthfully, you'd probably ditch me, too. I can't say where you were with this woman as far as the sexy fun talk thing but personally, if we don't have the familiarity level to have that kind of exchange, I'd rather not. Huge difference to me when it's somebody I'm seeing than random dude from the net is horny. The latter? I'm not going to lie to you. I really just don't care. If I don't have some kind of connection to the person, I'm pretty apathetic to their state of arousal. Darn near every woman on this site is going to tell you that they get stuff that isn't appropriate. One of the really nice fringe benefits that I've had in leaving my profile here set to Alaska is that I don't come up in as many people's random searches that I don't know from Adam that think I have any interest in listening to their kinks or sexual urges. To me, that's a positive. On a completely unrelated note, you really must have better time management skills than I do. I couldn't imagine having three intimate people in my life and still pursue more. Maybe it's the age difference but I just don't have the time I would need for that kind of thing.
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