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Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/9/2017 9:57:00 AM   
SweetPuppy123


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Hello,

I know it might sound weird and all, but I swear I need your help; so yea basically I was talking to a man over the phone I didn't actually know him however he started insulting me telling me that I was a "slut", "whore", "twat" ect you know the usual lol and I tried to calm him down and tell him that I did nothing wrong and then, unfortunately I flipped I went cray on his ass I started insulting him but the weird thing is I think he was enjoying it me insulting him, telling me explicit things that he wanted to do to me and he was jerking off I could easily tell.

But my question is why did he like it when I insulted him and why did he keep on insulting me, I don't know if he's a dom or a sub, that whole experience has left me completely baffled.

Thx for your help guys xo

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/9/2017 10:09:54 AM   
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Why did you stay on the phone?

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/9/2017 10:15:33 AM   
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'cause I love having the last word, and you can be rude to me for so long before I go full ballistic on you lol ;) but as a matter of fact I ended the call when I understood he was getting off

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/9/2017 4:45:47 PM   
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He got exactly what he wanted out of the conversation.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/9/2017 5:57:16 PM   
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I agree with the others. He wanted to jerk off and you gave him all he needed to do it. He didn't have to fall back on fantasies.

If you enjoyed doing it even knowing he used you, then that's okay. Your choice.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/10/2017 7:15:12 AM   
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If I'm being completely honest I think that in a weird way I liked it.

So what you guys are trying to tell me is that he wanted me to insult him but why does he jerk off on girls insulting him I don't understand.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/10/2017 9:21:18 AM   
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He may have just gotten off on your reaction.
How you reacted might have mattered less than the fact that you reacted.

Or he may not have been a dom at all and/or might have had a humiliation fetish.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/11/2017 3:16:48 PM   
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quote:

But my question is why did he like it when I insulted him and why did he keep on insulting me


Cmail me your number and we can talk about it.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/17/2017 8:16:15 PM   
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My question would be, did he start insulting you *and* then tell you that were a "slut", "whore" and a "twat" . . . or did he call you a "slut", "whore" and a "twat" and you were insulted by that? In my house, "slut", "whore" and a "twat" are the language of flirtation and foreplay. At times, they are even a compliment. If my slave wasn't a slut, we wouldn't be compatible.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/19/2017 5:00:19 PM   
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That whole situation is so un gentleman like. A true Master would comfort you if you had any ills, would give you sound advice if you seeked it, would guide you if you asked for direction.
I think you found a very naive inexpreienced wanttobe, stay clear, I so wish there was a iron clad way to verify one's genuineness

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/20/2017 2:01:31 AM   
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It's called humiliation play, or degradation. Some people get off on it. Some men even pay pro Dommes to degrade them.


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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/21/2017 6:36:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetPuppy123

Hello,

I know it might sound weird and all, but I swear I need your help; so yea basically I was talking to a man over the phone I didn't actually know him however he started insulting me telling me that I was a "slut", "whore", "twat" ect you know the usual lol and I tried to calm him down and tell him that I did nothing wrong and then, unfortunately I flipped I went cray on his ass I started insulting him but the weird thing is I think he was enjoying it me insulting him, telling me explicit things that he wanted to do to me and he was jerking off I could easily tell.

But my question is why did he like it when I insulted him and why did he keep on insulting me, I don't know if he's a dom or a sub, that whole experience has left me completely baffled.

Thx for your help guys xo

he's a switch.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/22/2017 7:25:13 AM   
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It doesn't matter why. Next time just hang up. He's not compatible with you.

But maybe he's just a troll. Getting off on knowing he can upset you.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/24/2017 2:27:38 AM   
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There are so many different "kinks" that people have. Insulting you and you insulting him back was what he needed to get his jollies sexually.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 3/24/2017 7:39:03 PM   
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but why does he jerk off on girls insulting him I don't understand

Same reason I get off on having my tits whipped. We're sick fucks.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 4/3/2017 2:25:21 PM   
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It's possible that by your reaction, insulting him back, he realised he'd upset you and made you loose control and that made him feel powerful - perfectly compatible with being a Dom I think.

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RE: Please I need help to understand a dom - 4/5/2017 8:57:40 PM   
longwayhome


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Depends what he was getting off on - your loss of control (possibly Dom) or you getting angry and insulting him (possibly sub).

I suppose the other big question is how you felt about it (apart from feeling baffled about his Dom/sub status).

You understood eventually that he was getting off on it, but did you enjoy "getting crazy on his ass" and did you feel turned on by that, or just upset or used. Was it what happened that make you feel uneasy or just the fact that you didn't expect it.

You may well feel that he was just a jerk who pushed your buttons and then used you to give the monkey a good spanking. However even if you do think that, or were surprised by your response, you may have discovered something new that does it for you and that could be very liberating.

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