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Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 7:40:46 AM

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About 9 months ago I met a Pro-Domme at a BDSM gathering. Please don't criticize me for paying a woman for Dominatrix, because this is what I want to do. It's my kink. In any case, she was one of the more expensive ones but we "clicked" and I began to see her. I saw her once a week for about 8 months.

She had me make a list of activities that I enjoyed, rating them from 1 - 10. It so happened that the activities that she enjoyed were the activities I least enjoyed. In any case, I love serving and pleasing a dominant woman and all the activities were the ones she enjoyed the most. Eventually she had me give her oral pleasure towards the end of the session.

She has 3 regular customers, who she sees once a year, maybe twice a year. I'm the 4th. I think she has trouble getting any new customers because of her price.

I really enjoy our time together and I thoroughly enjoy giving her oral pleasure.

On our last session she was really upset. She raised her prices and her 3 regular customers refused to see her anymore. Since I was seeing her once a week the tribute wouldn't be so high. However, I told her I'm unable to afford her new rate. So she dismissed me. I asked didn't she enjoy our time together? Didn't she enjoy the oral pleasure she was getting? She angrily told me THAT THIS IS A JOB! Pay the price or don't contact her again.

Can women really view having an orgasm as a job? That having orgasm as work?
Can women really view doing what they want to do as a job? As work?

RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 7:52:27 AM

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 7:54:15 AM

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Dude, you're taking this way too personally. Like she said, it's a job. You're a client. That's it. She could have faked an orgasm for all you know. Either way, it doesn't matter. She decide to raise her rates. So, you have a choice to pay it or not. If you want someone to play with you just because she wants to play with you, then put the effort into finding a partner.

BTW, this is why many pro dommes don't have sex with clients. You're crossing boundaries and making it way too personal.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 8:18:17 AM

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You're paying money for a service. If you can't afford to pay me to train a horse, I wouldn't have done it for free just because I enjoy riding. Of course I didn't have to fake anything to get the job done.

You're forgetting that she doesn't have to fancy you, you giving what you think is amazing oral may not be her idea of amazing oral, jeez, I've only ever had one man make me cum from oral, but they all have thought they were amazing at it. She's doing what she does for a reason, not because she wants a relationship with you. The truth is, you're just not that special.

If you really want to be that special, well then you need to treat a woman like she's really that special to you, and paying someone for a service ... that's not it.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 8:25:12 AM

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So a going out of business pro upset you, by chasing you off as well? Perhaps it would be better if you wondered why the rest didn't rate her high enough for the increase as well?

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 8:54:47 AM

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Yes. Seriously. It's a job. If it wasn't a job, she wouldn't be charging you money for it.

The woman who does my hair really does enjoy doing hair. She's awesome at doing it. The color she mixes for me, is very detailed for me, because it's what I want. At the end of the day though, I'm still just a client.

Put the shoe on the other foot. No matter what you do for a living, would you interact with the majority your clients/customers in the same way if you weren't getting paid?

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 8:55:22 AM

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Yes it is just a job!! I never physically meet my male subs and they are a pain in the ass!

By they way, she wasn't a pro-domme, she was a prostitute. If she was letting you give her oral pleasure she was letting others give her oral pleasure too. For all you know, she was having sex with her other customers. You're not afraid of genital herpes? I guess men's little heads don't think that way.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 10:33:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaleSubTribute

About 9 months ago I met a Pro-Domme at a BDSM gathering. Please don't criticize me for paying a woman for Dominatrix, because this is what I want to do. It's my kink. In any case, she was one of the more expensive ones but we "clicked" and I began to see her. I saw her once a week for about 8 months.

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On our last session she was really upset. She raised her prices and her 3 regular customers refused to see her anymore. Since I was seeing her once a week the tribute wouldn't be so high. However, I told her I'm unable to afford her new rate. So she dismissed me.

This seems to contradict what you wrote in your profile:

The last relationship I had ended about one year ago. I saw her once a week, sometimes twice a week, which averaged every 4th or 5th day. In addition to the training session, she required me to take her out to eat, see a movie, etc. I saw her for about 8 months until she moved.

So which is it? Did she move or did she raise her prices? Or are both scenarios a fabrication?

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 11:38:32 AM

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You had a fantasy that you could "win" her affection as a paying client if only you were pleasing enough. You were wrong. If your "kink" is paying for attention, no big deal. Pay someone else for attention. Just learn your lesson. If you are goimg to pay money, never bullshit yourself that its about anything but money.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 12:05:32 PM

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Do you still love Starbucks or?

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 1:25:45 PM

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I recently discovered my gardener has been doing other peoples gardens too. The heartless cheating fucker.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 1:45:14 PM

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You negotiated the activities and paid her for her service.
It was a job to her.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 2:15:54 PM

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OP, she's not treating you as a human. She's treating you as a financial delivery system. She must be criticised and looked down upon in these forums for not wanting a relationship with you.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 3:02:09 PM

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The OP is a client.

With what I do for a living now, I interact a lot with the public. They aren't friends. I'm not grabbing a beer with them in social settings. If I quit my job today, I would never see most of them again.

It's the same thing.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 5:15:40 PM

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The OP is a client.

With what I do for a living now, I interact a lot with the public. They aren't friends. I'm not grabbing a beer with them in social settings. If I quit my job today, I would never see most of them again.

It's the same thing.

Yep I know that. I just don't see how that is any better than the men who only want a fetish delivery system.

The reality is, compared to men seeking a fetish delivery system, it's treating someone way less humane when you take advantage of their desperation and only will have anything to do with them if they're throwing you 100 dollar bills.

Yet one is acceptable, pro dommes. The other is not. The one that's treating a person way less human gets accepted more over the other.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 5:17:47 PM

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because you are a buyer, not a seller.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 5:23:02 PM

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because you are a buyer, not a seller.

When it comes to a male seeking casual, or as you say it, seeking a fetish delivery system, no one is buying or selling. Unless you think the woman is more worthy than the man which is a common mindset.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 5:29:04 PM

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because you are a buyer, not a seller.

When it comes to a male seeking casual, or as you say it, seeking a fetish delivery system, no one is buying or selling. Unless you think the woman is more worthy than the man which is a common mindset.

The girl is sitting on a gold mine dude. Better get used to it.

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 5:41:19 PM

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because you are a buyer, not a seller.

When it comes to a male seeking casual, or as you say it, seeking a fetish delivery system, no one is buying or selling. Unless you think the woman is more worthy than the man which is a common mindset.

this is your best bet....

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RE: Don't They Enjoy It? - 3/20/2017 8:04:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

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because you are a buyer, not a seller.

When it comes to a male seeking casual, or as you say it, seeking a fetish delivery system, no one is buying or selling. Unless you think the woman is more worthy than the man which is a common mindset.

this is your best bet....

In other words, hypocrisy is only acceptable when its in favour of women.

What also makes this ironic is that it's implied by a feminist.

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