NoirMetal
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins There are lots of things that I think misrepresent what a person sometimes labels their self as. I also think that sometimes what a person states they seek is not a true representation of a whole person, and again this is directed by the porn they watch, or the smut they read. People forget that the fantasies they have micro managed in their heads can not be managed as such in real life. What I am with one person can be very different to what I will be with another. A prime example of that is that my ex would have told anyone that I was a Domme, but that's because I simply didn't trust him enough to give him any submission. In truth I'm a switch, and having had my ex playmate to explore that with, I really don't want to go back to holding myself back. Being inferior may not really mean that you think you are, or that you want to be treated that way, but what I have seen is some people that want to give up all responsibility of adulting. These people label themselves as subs, or slaves, want to relocate, move in, be looked after, and already look as though they have nothing to contribute. That's not to say all people offering this particular little nugget, because all are different, but just an observation of some, and not all men either. As for being broken, you either own that and don't let it control you whole life, or you allow it be your crutch for all the crap you do, thus allowing it to define the person you are. Needles We have at least one fine example of a wounded bird who squawks about here of late. The bird SO unloved by women. Don't let it in the house,it will leave a mess. Unfortunately, many people who come from a back ground of dysfunctional parents with overbearing and abusive personalities seem to want to perpetuate that cycle with subsequent romantic partners-because mommy for real would doubtless cut it off if he tried it with her. I don't want that in the house either-it's not who I am. Well that's what I mean, either you are self aware, and you own your broken self, put your pieces back together, and make yourself whole, or you forever keep throwing crap at people and blaming it on your broken pieces. The problem is that you never know where you stand with these people, for they constantly rearrange those pieces in to something different to suit themselves. You can only blame so much on your past. Eventually you must grow up and take responsibility for what you choose to be. What happened in your past on cuts so much, you choose to cut the rest of the way. Needles I'm older and tired of playing around. I don't do the rotating musical chairs poly game. I'm not going to just swap out some wandering second when I get tired of her bullshit. Tried that long ago, and it was a fucking nightmare. If you are going to take a woman into your life on a serious basis-She needs to be able to add value to it-not diminish it. I have to care about the well being of my sub-there is too much intimacy involved to tie myself to mental illness. If her self esteem is shit, I will live with a cloud 24/7. What he said. Only the porn merchants go hunting for some broken brained emotional mess to 'do things' to cos shes in a sufficiently fucked up place to accept it. Ds is about mastering your mind and body, both of you, to enhance both your lives. We might be flying the plane but we need a copilot to do it right. The 'I want a woman who I can hurt' and the abused women they target are the antithesis of what we do. Which is why I find "masters" who question the desire for emotionally healthy,stable submissive partners to be more than a little sketchy in themselves. Way to be a turd.
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