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RE: Owning A Slave - 5/10/2017 4:37:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

I have met a slave in Clevelan, Ohio. He was ready to submit, be collared, and sign a contract. The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true. I have never heard this before.

You are as much a fraud as he is missy because you do not want any slave!

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RE: Owning A Slave - 5/10/2017 5:25:13 AM

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Says the sock puppet who changes his nick often but uses same profile info.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 5/11/2017 10:25:13 AM

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Who are you calling a sock puppet and were is it because I may sign it up for a Punch and Judy show at that limey place called Blackpool?

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RE: Owning A Slave - 5/11/2017 1:33:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate
The day all this was to happen he claims that it has to be approved by Mistresses there because I am from another state is that true.

You're gullible and an idiot. You're not intelligent enough to determine what a farce this is and then come here for advice? Very, very sad.

You need to stop playing with the computer and go out into the world. I'm guessing you crowned yourself a dominant female without gaining any knowledge or experience prior to interacting with this charlatan. Classic HNG submissive male behavior. Learn from it. Otherwise, I have a few bridges to sell you...

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/1/2017 8:44:54 AM

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@OP Like many people online, he is full of shit. I'd block his sorry ass and move on.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/5/2017 5:23:12 AM

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please unblock me

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/6/2017 2:17:17 AM

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Some people are very afraid of contracts and want others, like a mentor, looking over them first and...checking you out by asking friends of friends your reputation in your area among fellow kinksters. Also, I can't fault you for asking about things you're unfamiliar with, gathering more information, before making whatever decision you're going to make concerning this issue.

I'm confident that you will eventually get to the bottom of this and find out why he's delaying/balking/retreating. Possibly he's just a wanker, but...some new people are scared that what they THINK they need isn't what's in their best interest for the long term. It's been my experience that newbies to real time BDSM are not only afraid of predators, but of being trapped by promises made, fear of being blacklisted, or by fear that they cannot renegotiate if issues come up that you hadn't discussed/prepared for in advance.

Myself...I'd let him visit but give him no more scening time. He gets to enjoy your company and get to know you more as a human being, face to face, if you think he's worth the effort to take this down a notch until he's ready to commit to being yours. I'd have a hard time dealing with a mentor who would not contact me and talk things out. Good luck. :)

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/6/2017 5:44:40 PM

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Sounds like "boy speak" for he is hiding something to Me.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/7/2017 10:23:23 AM

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Can't do everything online; some things have to be done in person to prove the validity and authenticity of all parties involved. The whole situation doesn't sound optimal.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/17/2017 11:15:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: Whitechocololate

This is a slave I spent alot of time with and finally decided it was time. He was on his way to come get me when He claims a mistress from there has to approve it because I am a outsider.

So if you spent a lot of time together and there was no mention of his current mistress prior to this? He is either lying or you did not know him very well. Either way him springing he had a current mistress while seeing you would be instant grounds for ending the relationship. Because he either lied or hid the fact he had a mistress from you for a long time.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/18/2017 6:47:44 PM

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if you make it clear that the *probationary slave* must earn his collar-this shit never happens.

This is one reason so many Dommes require tributes. It weeds.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/18/2017 9:27:21 PM

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is that true. I have never heard this before.

How would I know, I don't make his rules.

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/20/2017 10:21:52 PM

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Hello Whitechocololate. Cut you're losses and move on. Don't waste any more time on him. He's a timewaster, wank fodder seeker and emotionally sadistic. He enjoys the chase. He does not care for you. It's a game to him and you are regarded as a thing to be used for that purpose. He knew he had got you and therefore has no more need of you. The life you were planning to have with him, for him, he had no intention of fulfilling those plans - for him, the chase is the tasty game. He takes pride in reeling a person in and convincing them to accept him / make plans with him etc. That's his game - it is indeed a cruel one that has cost you time, energy , hope and wasted emotion. He has done it before.

I really really empathise with you and I'd advise next time use wiser discernment do better screening before giving you're time / energy / hope to a person. Just cos they agree to what you say does not mean they are real. I have learnt that there are many fakes and pretenders and fantasists on the bdsm scene and many are quite dangerous and destructive in different ways. It's also very important that you listen to you're instincts.

Whitechocololate, I wish you a speedy and full recovery from the trauma of being deceived and wasted hope etc. Stay strong and special as you are. :)

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RE: Owning A Slave - 6/20/2017 11:06:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: PantyhosedDomina
Whitechocololate, I wish you a speedy and full recovery from the trauma of being deceived and wasted hope etc. Stay strong and special as you are. :)

Ummm... she knew him for 2 months, and played with him on weekends.
It doesn't sound like she was putting her heart and soul on the line.

I'm going to assume that he paid his own way to see her, so I don't think she lost any money.
As for time-- doesn't she like dominating people? And how many people out there have dated someone for a while before realizing it wasn't going to work?
It's not an exact science and it's best to look at the disappointments as experiences you can learn from, not something that needs to be excised from your memory.

I suppose that if she only played with him because she was seeking a long term commitment that he promised her, that's one thing... but after 2 months of weekends only?
Is that even long enough to uncover the things that will truly annoy you about someone/learn how to deal with these things?

If he's deceiving her, well... that's not such an admirable trait, but it's probably better not to be cynical about these things.
I agree with seekingOwnertoo-- communicate more and find out what his deal is-- it's the only thing that makes sense.

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