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How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/7/2017 11:52:29 AM   
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Sorry for a long and maybe not even clear post but here goes.

My husband is into being dominated, he likes to be humiliated, has a thing for dressing up in woman clothes and shoes not to be a woman but for the humiliation side of it.
He has done some stupid stuff in the past with findoms, before our relationship; and yes I can be sure of that because I basically took over the finances etc so essentially became a findom but not in the nasty whore who takes all your money for nothing sense.
He is very definitely all talk and being humiliated, dominated is his comfort blanket when things go wrong. It has ruined many a relationship for him because he has put himself in ridiculous situations of blackmail, talking to people over the internet etc etc.

I found out very early on in the relationship about his kinks but chose to stick by him and also because I have more than a few kinks myself.

So basically he begs to be covered in piss or his own cum, left locked up for hours, to be raped, suffocated, kicked etc the trouble is he seems to be all talk.
Typical man once he comes he's done.

What I would like is some tips on how to make him suffer the things he wants but for it to actually be sustainable.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/7/2017 12:03:56 PM   
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This may not be the reply you want to hear. But on the other hand, perhaps it would be perfect for you once you consider it.

Here is a link to an online, free, booklet (about 100 pages) by a lady named Ingrid Bellemare, called Owning & Training the Male Slave. Even if you don't agree with the whole thing, perhaps you can take enough from it to help your situation.

http://wpuploads-2.kink-network.com/files/426/2011/12/1323465488/Owning-and-Training-a-Male-Slave.pdf

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/7/2017 12:15:46 PM   
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Thanks , that's very interesting.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/7/2017 1:18:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: igor2003

This may not be the reply you want to hear. But on the other hand, perhaps it would be perfect for you once you consider it.

Here is a link to an online, free, booklet (about 100 pages) by a lady named Ingrid Bellemare, called Owning & Training the Male Slave. Even if you don't agree with the whole thing, perhaps you can take enough from it to help your situation.

http://wpuploads-2.kink-network.com/files/426/2011/12/1323465488/Owning-and-Training-a-Male-Slave.pdf

Was Ingrid a fraud? I will admit that I read her books. This guy claims she was a "he."

See prinzalbert's profile
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Submitted by prinzalbert in prinzalbert's blog on June 9th, 2010

Madame Ingrid Bellemare, has passed away. One of three current,iconic mistresses of the twenty first century, she authored a book on consensual male slavery.

I mentioned this as I have always wondered if this person...including in some ways even, Elise Sutton, are actual persons. Not just some persons imagination. This pains me to raise this issue and be a skeptic. I have read for years...especially Elise Sutton's work, and have used her ethos as a guidance in my life. The skepticism arises, from the fact that NO ONE has ever seen a photograph of Elise published,on the web. Ingrid Bellemare only published one, thumbnail photo of herself. 'Her' Blog was written by her slave. I suspect he didn't want to continue the ruse and 'killed her off with a 'second stroke'....no one knew there was a first one! And it seems stroke in celebs are the 'in-thing' now day's! The final coup de graw ??? was the stroke of a pen...not of the brain, I suspect.

I guess a lot of things happen in life to challenge what you believe in life. For me perhaps this is one I guess. uConfused uConfused uConfused uConfused
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I found the extreme techniques "she" advocated as pretty strong D/s porn.


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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/7/2017 2:06:41 PM   
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I don't know if "Ingrid" is a "he", "she", "they", or "them", since I never met them. And I'll agree that a lot of what is in the booklet I cited is pretty strong stuff. But as I said, even if she didn't agree with the whole thing, there may be parts of it that she could use. Even what some people would consider "porn" might have tidbits that people can find useful.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/7/2017 6:55:31 PM   
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She died a few years ago. She thought it a bad idea to love a slave.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/8/2017 12:10:14 AM   
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I say this very rarely, but I suspect the post was written by the husband, rather than the wife.


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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/8/2017 4:50:43 AM   
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She died a few years ago. She thought it a bad idea to love a slave.

There's quite a bit about that in the link above, in fact.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/8/2017 4:56:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I say this very rarely, but I suspect the post was written by the husband, rather than the wife.


uh huh . . . .



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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/8/2017 9:54:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I say this very rarely, but I suspect the post was written by the husband, rather than the wife.



Ditto. 10/10 times a "wife" has written to me about her husband-it was always the man contacting me and half of the times, there was no wife...just a raging hard on ;)


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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/8/2017 1:57:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissKatya


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I say this very rarely, but I suspect the post was written by the husband, rather than the wife.



Ditto. 10/10 times a "wife" has written to me about her husband-it was always the man contacting me and half of the times, there was no wife...just a raging hard on ;)



?

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/10/2017 12:18:04 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fantasynightmare

Sorry for a long and maybe not even clear post but here goes.

My husband is into being dominated, he likes to be humiliated, has a thing for dressing up in woman clothes and shoes not to be a woman but for the humiliation side of it.
He has done some stupid stuff in the past with findoms, before our relationship; and yes I can be sure of that because I basically took over the finances etc so essentially became a findom but not in the nasty whore who takes all your money for nothing sense.
He is very definitely all talk and being humiliated, dominated is his comfort blanket when things go wrong. It has ruined many a relationship for him because he has put himself in ridiculous situations of blackmail, talking to people over the internet etc etc.

I found out very early on in the relationship about his kinks but chose to stick by him and also because I have more than a few kinks myself.

So basically he begs to be covered in piss or his own cum, left locked up for hours, to be raped, suffocated, kicked etc the trouble is he seems to be all talk.
Typical man once he comes he's done.

What I would like is some tips on how to make him suffer the things he wants but for it to actually be sustainable.




Deny him orgasm until you're satisfied.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/17/2017 3:13:58 PM   
fantasynightmare


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Definitely the wife lol.
Genuinely looking for advice here but I guess it's hard to tell with so many men looking for wanking material.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/17/2017 3:24:13 PM   
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Put him in diapers for a day. If he refuses,you can remind him he's a bit on the light side the next time he goes on. Costs under twenty bucks a pack. Get big ones.

Then he can be "covered in piss" and not ruin the flooring.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/17/2017 4:36:00 PM   
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Put him in diapers for a day. If he refuses,you can remind him he's a bit on the light side the next time he goes on. Costs under twenty bucks a pack. Get big ones.

Then he can be "covered in piss" and not ruin the flooring.

Or just mess with his head-and leave him a note to pick some up.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/17/2017 6:21:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissKatya


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I say this very rarely, but I suspect the post was written by the husband, rather than the wife.



Ditto. 10/10 times a "wife" has written to me about her husband-it was always the man contacting me and half of the times, there was no wife...just a raging hard on ;)



?



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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/18/2017 3:19:28 AM   
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Here's another book option: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Love-Through-Female-Domination-ebook/dp/B01LXP2TK1

I've heard the same claims about Elise and Ingrid as I've heard about the author of this book. That said, if it's something you want to do, who cares who wrote it, just take inspiration.

Me, I'm less over-the-top, so I wouldn't have suggestions for you.

Good luck.

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/19/2017 10:09:10 AM   
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he likes to be humiliated, has a thing for dressing up in woman clothes and shoes not to be a woman but for the humiliation side of it.


I don't often criticize other people's kinks, but I have to say that I really don't understand why any woman would enjoy 'humiliating' a man trough feminization.

If feminine clothing, footwear, mannerisms, grooming rituals, and overall appearance is 'humiliating', then doesn't that imply that they are somehow inferior* to their male counterparts?
And if they're so inferior that it's debasing for a man to be associated with them, then isn't the woman who is 'humiliating' the man by enforcing them on her also indirectly debasing herself by putting forth the notion that she herself of a lessor gender than the man she's 'humiliating'?

I mean, I get why going out in public in drag could be humiliating to a man, considering that most of them can't pull off drag stylishly, and look downright awful and silly in it. But that's a matter of it being humiliating that they're wearing silly, outlandish clothing which makes them stand out.
Putting them in a ridiculous clown suit would achieve the same effect. (Or at least it ought to).

But this feminization humiliation fetish goes much further than that, it encompasses things like a man wearing drag in the privacy of their own home, or wearing female undergarments in public while nobody can see or is aware.

How exactly is 'being a woman' or 'acting or dressing as a woman' humiliating, unless one accepts that being a woman is somehow a degrading, debasing thing to be?

I find it insulting that my gender is considered to be something which could be debasing. Especially when it's said to be so by man, who in the same breath claims he 'worships' women for their superiority.




* Considering the recent discussion on this subject, here I clearly mean 'of lesser value', as is denoted by the preposition 'to'.



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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/19/2017 10:47:05 AM   
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I mean, I get why going out in public in drag could be humiliating to a man, considering that most of them can't pull off drag stylishly, and look downright awful and silly in it. But that's a matter of it being humiliating that they're wearing silly, outlandish clothing which makes them stand out.


Is it possible that they have not yet mustard the courage to go out in public, so they are depending on girl friend, prodomme, whatever, to feel some of the thrill?

I sympathize with your pov that wearing female clothing should not lead to a scenario of humiliation and inferiority (same use) but given the long life of the meme in our paternalistic history I can understand why that "forced cross dressing" fetish would provide an intensity that would not be found from some other mode of dress. Your anger is noted and justified but I cannot imagine an alternative that would provide the equal humiliation . . . . except maybe diapers (I am not equating the status of female dress with the status of infant dress in reality, but except in fantasy, and I am aware of the problem I just stumbled on)

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RE: How to truly dominate a loved one. Tips welcome. - 4/19/2017 10:56:43 AM   
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You mean even the men that think they are a women aren't proud of being a woman? They feel inferior in public as a woman? Or as a man coming out as a woman? Or as a man being forced to dress as a woman? I'm confused now.

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