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Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 6:55:43 PM

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Has anyone here who's a dominant, had the experience of having sex, or BDSM sex with another opposite gender dominant?

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 7:08:28 PM

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There's a married D/D couple here. They've been married for many years. Raised a family and so on.

They don't submit to each other, or service bottom. For play, they have other partners.

Some D/D couples share a sub. Some have separate subs.

Some have sex with the other partners, some don't.

Why do you think this is an impossibility?

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 8:22:07 PM

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I know married dominant couples. As has been said, they don't bottom to each other. They find others for BDSM play. Being dominant does not lock one into behaving in certain preconceived ways that others might expect.

Edited to add:

What is BDSM sex? BDSM has nothing to do with sex. I am a submissive who owned and collared by a Dominant. We have sex. We have never had BDSM sex. In fact, our sex would probably be considered pretty vanilla, even for vanilla people. We have one position that works well for both of us and takes into consideration our physical problems. We don't do whips and chains when we have sex. He doesn't tie me up when we have sex.

So what do you think dominants have to do when they have sex together.?

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 8:37:43 PM

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 9:43:45 PM

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No, it is forbidden according to the Great Manual of Domliness.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 9:47:59 PM

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No, it is forbidden according to the Great Manual of Domliness.

I never could follow instructions:)

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 10:21:47 PM

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No, it is forbidden according to the Great Manual of Domliness.

I never could follow instructions:)

That's why you're on double-secret probation.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 10:24:02 PM

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That explains EVERY thing

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/7/2017 11:51:53 PM

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OP, I don't know if you are serious with this question or not. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt, even though I'm not entirely sure your intentions are good.

I'm one half of a D/D couple. Last month, we celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary. I can assure you that we have sex.

As peppermint said, MP (my husband) and I don't really bottom to each other. We've tried it. It sucks because neither of us really have switch qualities. There are D/switch couples out there and switch/switch couples, where at least one partner bottoms to the other one from time to time. That's just not our category. We are the type that get our kinks on with other people.

We don't engage in what most people would think of as 'BDSM' sex with each other. There's no bondage, no S/m, no power/control element, or any other thing that most people think of when it's just us compared to what people think of as 'kink' sex. For the most part, when it's just him and me, our sex life would probably be considered rather vanilla by most people.

I'm kind of wondering why you would think two D-types couldn't have sex or why the questions was only addressed to one side of the slash, rather than have the same question regarding sub/sub couples as well. Usually, such questions only come from those who have no exposure to the variety of types of relationships that one can find in their own local community. Maybe you just don't know enough real people, OP.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/8/2017 12:06:03 AM

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No, it is forbidden according to the Great Manual of Domliness.

Im guilty too.... it was fun playing with a Domme friend of mine until Wwe both got new permanent slaves...

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/8/2017 2:00:58 AM

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Yes... just a gentleman and lady that were hot for each other spending several days together. We had some pretty rough sex, but we didn't try and top each other. Closest thing to BDSM would have been resistance rape play... which I considered more kink than BDSM.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/8/2017 2:59:05 AM

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No, it is forbidden according to the Great Manual of Domliness.

I never could follow instructions:)

It also explains the brief format you put your instructions in contained within your post, Lucy. Some are still going to struggle with that much information though. Go steady

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/8/2017 11:06:06 AM

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Has anyone here who's a dominant, had the experience of having sex, or BDSM sex with another opposite gender dominant?

Well, hey!!!! What about same gender dominants? Are you homophobic, or what?

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/8/2017 11:41:18 AM

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Has anyone here who's a dominant, had the experience of having sex, or BDSM sex with another opposite gender dominant?

BDSM no (somebody is less dominant in that case: they can't both top each other at the same time), vanilla sex, yes.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/9/2017 7:45:38 AM

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since I am a lesbian SWITCH..the simple answer is YES. mutual pleasure is always best. xxx Terri.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/10/2017 11:19:59 AM

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since I am a lesbian SWITCH..the simple answer is YES. mutual pleasure is always best. xxx Terri.

But if you switch there comes a time when one is not dominant, so no, that doesn't satisfy our prurient interests. Good thought though. . . very good thought, in fact. Thank you

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/10/2017 12:44:05 PM

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I am led to believe a twat can have sex with another twat…hence the term twatery. I myself simply like to wreck, and yet I would not touch wreckage with a big stick. You would not understand sock mirth

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/10/2017 3:25:49 PM

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No, it is forbidden according to the Great Manual of Domliness.

I never could follow instructions:)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who's done it wrong all those years

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/11/2017 7:09:21 AM

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I am led to believe a twat can have sex with another twat…hence the term twatery. I myself simply like to wreck, and yet I would not touch wreckage with a big stick. You would not understand sock mirth

That form of twattery involves intercourse between metaphorical rather than literal twats, old boy. For instance, the alleged footage of Jeremy Clarkson going down on the producer of the Amazon Top Gear replacement thing to reassure the guy that he'd behave himself at the end of shoot party is definitely a display of twattery, but so equally, would be sex between Clarkson and Katie Hopkins.

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RE: Can a dominant have sex with another dominant? - 4/11/2017 9:52:05 AM

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Has anyone here who's a dominant, had the experience of having sex, or BDSM sex with another opposite gender dominant?

A piece of advice, which will be applicable for this, and any such further questions you will ever have in your lifetime:

Whenever you get to pondering questions such as: "Are there humans who have experience doing X sexually?", the answer is always: "Yes.".

When it comes to human sexual experiences, the only relevant question is frequency/averages of the behavior, not occurrence.

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