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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/3/2017 2:07:52 PM

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Poor women think men owe them a life long devotion of a relationship when sexual fun comes into play. Talk about being self entitled lol. If we want sex, we have to put up with the nagging pain in the ass for the rest of our life.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but pretty sure the poster is male wanting a life long devotion relationship from a woman. So perhaps your comment is directed to the male of the species? In which case, the massive nagging pain-in-the-arse would be male.

Women whinge about men not wanting a relationship and they also bloody whinge when a man does want a relationship. Men just can't win. It's getting closer to the point that men aren't expected to have a sexuality at all.

Umm ........... you are aware that there is a difference between a relationship and having sex - or do you consider them the same thing?
This might explain some of your difficulties in the woman department. For instance, I had an intense and loving relationship with a dom, who had ED, so we never actually had intercourse. It was, however, an intensely sexual relationship. He was one of the most sexual men I have ever met.

If you continue to have trouble with women, perhaps you need to look at the common denominator in all these interactions.

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/3/2017 2:15:20 PM

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Umm ........... you are aware that there is a difference between a relationship and having sex - or do you consider them the same thing?

I don't know that he's experienced either so I wonder if he can even begin to make the comparison.

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/3/2017 7:16:26 PM

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Poor women think men owe them a life long devotion of a relationship when sexual fun comes into play. Talk about being self entitled lol. If we want sex, we have to put up with the nagging pain in the ass for the rest of our life.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but pretty sure the poster is male wanting a life long devotion relationship from a woman. So perhaps your comment is directed to the male of the species? In which case, the massive nagging pain-in-the-arse would be male.

Women whinge about men not wanting a relationship and they also bloody whinge when a man does want a relationship. Men just can't win. It's getting closer to the point that men aren't expected to have a sexuality at all.

My apologies, but I am having trouble following your logic. A couple years ago I met a Mistress, and we agreed it was play. 18 months ago the ugly involvement word entered the picture, then, 12 months ago i agreed to be Hers, on an engagement/trial basis. Currently, i find that when I work at:

* making an effort to listen to Her,

* spending time trying to understand what Her words mean

* thinking about what She is feeling, and why;

well then, things work fabulously!

Going forward, if someone asks me what it is like to be submissive to a Lady ... i will repeat the above and add .. W/we are very happy!

Oh and I think this goes beyond the lifestyle, and is applicable to every relationship. Regardless of your side of the kneel, men are successful when we cater to the Lady; no, gentlemen?

End of story.

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/4/2017 1:48:13 AM

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Umm ........... you are aware that there is a difference between a relationship and having sex - or do you consider them the same thing?
This might explain some of your difficulties in the woman department. For instance, I had an intense and loving relationship with a dom, who had ED, so we never actually had intercourse. It was, however, an intensely sexual relationship. He was one of the most sexual men I have ever met.

If you continue to have trouble with women, perhaps you need to look at the common denominator in all these interactions.

You are the one who seems unaware as you are misinterpreting my post. This isn't about me and women. My post is about the OP's sexuality and men's sexuality in general and you lot criticising it. What brings relationships into it is that women in here endlessly whinge about men only wanting a fetish delivery system. As it seems as I pointed out in my last post, even if he wants a relationship too, he is still bloody wrong in the mindset of you lot. For what? For having a sexuality that's not compatible to your own but it is to other women?

So each time women express that they want something different a man wants, such like a relationship, can them certain men who only want casual start ridiculing the said woman making that opinion because she is wanting something different compared to certain men which is a relationship?

Can men start ridiculing you on here for wanting scenarios that don't suit their own?

Just about every single fucking time a male makes a thread in here in regards of his sexuality, the same old mob come in and start hassling the poor bloke. You are a bunch of fucking men haters, seriously.

You lot are all about wanting female sexuality to be free, no slut shaming etc. Yet you obviously don't want male sexuality to be free. You lot only seem interested in criticising men about their sexuality as for nitpicking, being peevish about it, instead of wanting it to be free as for being accepting like you are towards female sexuality and have a no slut shaming policy.

What a bunch of sad pathetic misandrist hypocrites.

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* making an effort to listen to Her,

* spending time trying to understand what Her words mean

* thinking about what She is feeling, and why;

well then, things work fabulously!

The major problem with this alone is that it seems to be a one way street. Men a very heavily expected to be like this towards women while women have all the leeway in the world to scoff at men's needs whenever they feel like it. This thread and so many other examples in this forum is living proof.

I never see women in here making effort to listen to men, trying to understand what his words mean, thinking about what he is feeling and why. Plenty of women in here have no sensitivity towards men at all, absolutely zero. The said man is treated as he is only deserving of ridicule for not seeking something compatible to what they seek and him being undesirable one way or the other.

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/4/2017 4:06:14 AM

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respectmen - -- you do realise that online isn't real life. You only get a one dimensional view of ANYTHING on line, where people say anything they want and have strangers take it seriously. Yep, people get mocked, ridiculed and generally made fun of - when they assume too much, make blanket statements about how life and people are, or make such outrageous statements that defy belief. For instance "I never see women in here making effort to listen to men". That would be a textbook definition of a blanket statement.

You cannot possibly have been on these forums and not seen at least one (self identified) woman making thoughtful considered comments to a males (again, self-identified) post.

You might consider that it isn't that what the man is seeking is so scoffable - it may well be the way he is going about trying to get it. The whole "I am a worm, be in a relationship with me", or " I am a dom, submit this minute" is a whole lot less likely to get a positive reaction than saying "my name is Bruce, our wants seem to align , would you like to talk?"

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/5/2017 5:56:58 PM

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Thanks for the advice.

You're welcome. Learn from it.

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/6/2017 12:26:47 AM

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respectmen - -- you do realise that online isn't real life.

It is for him. It's the only life he has.

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RE: DOES SHE EVEN EXIST??! - 5/6/2017 6:46:29 AM

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I don't really think that is true, but he does come across as super one dimensional, with one idea leading his thinking - that men aren't as equal as women. And while there is a part of me that wants to agree with that whole heartedly with joy, the majority of me thinks it is a shame that anyone would have such a fixed idea, when I think he really wants a nice relationship with a nice woman and lead a nice life, as equals - or more or less equals. Him slightly more.

Its really kind of odd, because I think he lives in Oz, which when I was growing up in the 70's was one of the most male dominated, misogenistic societies out there - with drinking with the boys being more important than coming home to the wife and family. Women were second class citizens.
For all I know, the Australian society may have evened out since then, and he is yearning for the way things were.

There is nowt as queer as folk.

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