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I'm searching - 5/30/2017 3:27:03 PM

NewSubBiBottomTP

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Looking for a true Dominant to introduce me to BDSM and MM play.
Apparently this seems to be an impossible task as all I run across is all talk no action types.
Any help would be appreciated.

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RE: I'm searching - 5/30/2017 10:16:57 PM

ResidentSadist

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Tampa, Brandon and Lakeland are all 20 to 30 minutes away from you. They all have munches and play parties. They have Dominants that are seeking partners. Go make yourself available by attending their events. Orlando is an hour and 20 minutes from you and they not only have large munches and play parties, they have a public dungeon that is open every weekend called The Woodshed. Look them up on Fet. Great group and a great dungeon.

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RE: I'm searching - 6/2/2017 7:26:11 AM

StrongSpirit

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Your first problem is your search for a 'true' dominant. Different people mean different things by the word dominant. Some people mean a sadist that will hurt you as they desire. Some mean a sensation provider that will give the submissive exactly the sensation they expressly request.. Some mean a rope master. Some mean a role playing maestro. When you say true, you are refusing to state what you actually want and expecting all other people to read your mind. When they don't have the exact same kink as you, you think they are 'fake', when the whole problem was lack of communication.

So figure out what specifically you want and start expressly stating it. Control, Sensation (pain), Humiliation, etc. Be clear enough so that a person that just learned english last week can understand what you want.

Your second problem is you think BDSM dating is somehow easier than regular dating. Sorry, if it were that easy, our scene would be much bigger. It is just as hard to get a BDSM date as it is to get a real date (and yes, pretty girls have it easier than older, out of shape men, just like regular dating).

Just as being submissive doesn't mean you have to submit to anyone, being dominant doesn't mean you have to play with anyone. They have to WANT to play with you, and you have to earn their respect.

You may have meet and talk with a lot of people before you find one that wants to play with you.

Here is some general advice.

1) Go to BDSM clubs/festivals/events. You are more likely to find someone for a one night stand(or one day, or even one hour) there than anywhere else. Orlando has the Woodshed, Tampa Bay has the Phoenix Club.

2) Examine your own standards and drop anything you don't need. I.E. If you want originally wanted a woman, 45 year old, millionaire with 30 years experience, you might decide that you can accept a 40 year old man with 2 years of experience and a job.

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RE: I'm searching - 6/3/2017 9:30:35 PM

NoirMetal

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Places like this are over run with self serving male bottoms.

My advice to to read carefully what non pro Dominants want-and see if you have it in you to be it.

Or you can just become a bitter fetishist that has to pay to get it.

We have one on here,no one loves him,lol.

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