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difference of opinion - 6/16/2017 2:12:31 AM   
maringloria69


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I have a question or comment. I have been serving a couple for almost 3 years. within the last 3 months mistress has allowed my family members to see me nude. It was never one of my limits but we had talked about it. I am not comfortable with it. The damage has been done. I have been in a bad mood. not sure if i should continue with them. i have mix feelings.
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RE: difference of opinion - 6/16/2017 9:54:28 AM   
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You need to talk to them about your feelings, not complete strangers who know nothing about you or your dynamic.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/16/2017 11:29:47 AM   
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Hello marongloria69.

I appreciate your situation and I empathise.

A person that has it in them to behave inconsiderately and or to be dismissive towards another's concerns may likely do so if allowed to as many do not have absolute integrity when dealing with others. . A submissive has choice. You should have stood your ground in a calm and respectful way and informed the people you serve that you do not want to be naked in front of other family members and that is the choice you are comfortable with.

Now that it has happened, if you feel upset, exposed, not well treated, disregarded etc you need to reflect on how you feel with them. If you feel resentful or untrusting, unsafe etc, you need an opportunity to inform them (ideally in a planned discussion manner so that they are actually listening to you) . You can give them a chance to consider all the issues involved, to consider you're perspective and to reflect and to try to remedy what has happened, make improvements and address errors, alleviate your hurt feelings and discomfort etc.

Don't forget you have choice and power and much needed assets also and they need you or you would not be there with them. Mutual respect and trust is crucial for any bonded connection to be successful.

Good luck and all the best and stay safe ☺.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/17/2017 12:45:22 AM   
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Thank you

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/17/2017 5:57:29 AM   
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You do realize that "Mistress" is an imaginary title with no actual meaning or authority, right? You are not obliged to do anything you don't want to do. You are free to tell her to go fuck herself any time you want, and if she punishes you without your consent, that is a crime.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/17/2017 6:16:59 AM   
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unreasonable types like this-just stop going to her house.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/17/2017 10:34:09 PM   
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You are welcome Maringloria.

Good luck and all the best and stay safe ☺.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/18/2017 1:25:14 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: maringloria69

I have a question or comment. I have been serving a couple for almost 3 years. within the last 3 months mistress has allowed my family members to see me nude. It was never one of my limits but we had talked about it. I am not comfortable with it. The damage has been done. I have been in a bad mood. not sure if i should continue with them. i have mix feelings.


I would never think specifically to mention not being naked in front of family members as a limit, but I would refuse to do anything which involved my family.

Whether you continue with them is a matter for you, but it is reasonable to refuse and you should speak to them about it.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/18/2017 11:14:10 AM   
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FR

So you are saying that your own family members consented to seeing you naked? Sounds like your family has some issues.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/18/2017 12:27:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka

FR

So you are saying that your own family members consented to seeing you naked? Sounds like your family has some issues.


How the exact fuck did you take that from what I posted?

The OP said that allowing "my family members to see me nude" had not been something they had agreed as a limit, well neither have I. It is after all a bit specific. Why would someone even think to quote that as a limit? Nevertheless I would never consent to any activity which involved my family which for me is a no-go area for any BDSM dynamic of any sort.

You just see whatever meaning you fantasize exists in what other people write.

You exist in a wibbly-wobbly world all of your own.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/18/2017 12:57:55 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: longwayhome

quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka

FR

So you are saying that your own family members consented to seeing you naked? Sounds like your family has some issues.


How the exact fuck did you take that from what I posted?

The OP said that allowing "my family members to see me nude" had not been something they had agreed as a limit, well neither have I. It is after all a bit specific. Why would someone even think to quote that as a limit? Nevertheless I would never consent to any activity which involved my family which for me is a no-go area for any BDSM dynamic of any sort.

You just see whatever meaning you fantasize exists in what other people write.

You exist in a wibbly-wobbly world all of your own.


Did you see the FR in the top left corner of my post?

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/18/2017 1:02:05 PM   
longwayhome


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You've been here for years - you know how to respond to a specific poster.

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RE: difference of opinion - 6/18/2017 1:43:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: longwayhome

You've been here for years - you know how to respond to a specific poster.


FR means 'Fast Reply' and means it is addressed to the OP.

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