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RE: Vacation without my dom - 6/21/2017 1:29:02 AM

longwayhome

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LP- the rest of us don't base our lives on yours.

Might do some folks good.

You folks on the other side of the slash? You're honestly not children. You honestly don't NEED a Dominant to stand over your shoulder and teach you how to ADULT.

Amen to that.

I'm not a sub because I need another human being to stand guard over me. I can plan my life, look after myself in every way and let the people I care about know that I am thinking about them when I am not there.

I'm sure the OP can just enjoy a vacation and find a way to let her Dom know that she is thinking about him?

This isn't a special D/s skill, it's a life skill.

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RE: Vacation without my dom - 6/21/2017 7:40:33 AM

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Thanks for the ideas!

And just for the record- there's nothing about my request that indicates that I am not behaving as a self-sufficient adult. Just looking for some sweet ideas to stay connected while I'm away. I'm pretty confident in my ability to take care of myself without my dom for a few weeks. :)

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RE: Vacation without my dom - 6/21/2017 7:46:26 AM

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Obviously we all should know hot to adult. But we aren't all creative. I just got the feeling she wanted to do stuff to make him feel better when he's already at work and she's sleeping in.

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RE: Vacation without my dom - 6/22/2017 12:32:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: Hotcuppajo

Thanks for the ideas!

And just for the record- there's nothing about my request that indicates that I am not behaving as a self-sufficient adult. Just looking for some sweet ideas to stay connected while I'm away. I'm pretty confident in my ability to take care of myself without my dom for a few weeks. :)

Point taken. It's easy to get the wrong emphasis in a thread sometimes.

I do think however that all the normal sweet things you can do to let him know you are thinking about him are the best, from leaving notes, arranging for the delivery of things he likes, sending postcards (old-fashioned I know but still more special than a messenger or social media post) and occasionally calling.

Same rules as no D/s though. Too much and it's over-bearing and smothering. Too little and it looks like you don't care. You know him best though so can best judge what would come across as caring and/or role appropriate.

For my part (and I'm not a Dom) I don't like the fuss of presents and too much contact would make me feel "checked-up on", so a message left for me saying goodbye, a postcard and a calls at some point to let me know that you were having a great time but also thinking about me would be more than enough.

Just be motivated by what you think he would appreciate not by what you feel driven to do. Once again however I am aware that this goes for vanilla as well as D/s situations.

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RE: Vacation without my dom - 7/12/2017 1:01:53 PM

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I had to go away for 2 weeks on a family thig ( before Master an i were married) and Hcould not get off work even though He was invited. Surei missed him, but i acted in a way that would make him proud. I had tons of fun with my sibs and cousins. I also called him every eveinig just to check in and asay hi. It is really not that hard.

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RE: Vacation without my dom - 7/27/2017 1:07:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

LP- the rest of us don't base our lives on yours.

Might do some folks good.

You folks on the other side of the slash? You're honestly not children. You honestly don't NEED a Dominant to stand over your shoulder and teach you how to ADULT.

Yeah, I've always found the idea that s types can't function without a D type to be rather insulting....and for many very sadly true.

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