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MistrssSinclaire -> RE: Have fem dommes gone completely over the top insane? (9/17/2017 12:32:12 AM)
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To all those in this discussion who ridiculed me, attacked me, and made verbal attacks towards my view/learning of BDSM:
No one is WRONG here. Or INCORRECT. Or MISUNDERSTANDING anything. My way I was taught and how I learned and how I define or do things isnt wrong just because YOU dont agree to the same or define it the same as I do. Its good you have your own method, definition, ideas, and visions for what BDSM is to you and to those you play with, but its no reason to attack me verbally like a pack of wild hounds and tear me to pieces for having a different and unique voice or way of seeing things.
I don't think its right for ANYONE in the BDSM/Fetish lifestyle to tell another person or group of persons that THEIR brand/idea/vision/description of BDSM is "not BDSM/kink, gross, stupid, or incorrect."
I feel thats up to the kinksters and their personal relationships or interests to decide. Now if its doing something ILLEGAL and or HARMFUL/DANGEROUS that can kill or maim a person then yeah I dont personally agree to it. I go by SSC.
But just because thats how I do things doesnt mean I deserve any rudeness, contempt, judgemental, or hateful comment from those who have differeing opinions of what BDSM is to THEM. Just because I dont match with your opinion or sentiment or how you label what you and others do, is no reason to go off on me and show yourself to be an a** about it.
If my tastes, methods, labels, what I know and have learned, does not match yours, then stick to what you know and let me have mine. There are as many flavors and types of BDSM as there are kinksters out there in the world, and we all see BDSM the way we can understand it best and apply it to our own lives.
It can be painful, joyful, healing, or sobering.
It can be rough, can be gentle, can be full of love, or only passion/carnal desires, or both even.
It can be fast, slow, strong, or light and even in between or interchangeable.
That's the beauty of BDSM and the kink lifestyle: to each their own. Freedom. Art. Passion. Goals. Dreams. Fulfillment.
As long as a person is not breaking their local laws or getting people maimed or killed, I dont see it as any ONE thing right or wrong. SSC is key but not all follow it. I however DO and choose to give even slaves their opinion and voice. I have to because I am morally inclined to on a personal level.
You can agree or disagree with that as you see fit, but I wont back down from my methods or how I choose to do things, or the types of partners that can relate and accept and agree to play with me the same way I do.
Knocking me down with discouraging rude comments wont change my mind or prove me to be anything other than a person who spoke her mind openly, and got shot down by a bunch of close minded judgemental immature people.
Now that's just how it is and how I feel about that, so if your opinion or discourse with me is going to be rude immature and judgemental, I will just cut you to the quick, block, and move on. I don't have time to sit here and write my soul, feelings, opinions, two cents, and insight, only to be treated like a moronic leper from people who have certain preferences that are differing from mine who feel the need to take a sh** on me for my own.
That's just crass, detracts from the conversation at hand that could be civil and intelligent on both sides, and is pointless and counter productive to conversing in a forum with people from all walks of life and backgrounds or lifestyles and ideas/opinions.
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