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A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/25/2017 7:36:49 PM

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I enjoy reading the forums and I was hoping to get some opinions.

I'm looking for a Pro-Domme who lives near me and most of the ones I meet on this site don't seem to be legit.

In any case, I finally met someone. We have chatted, exchanged pictures, and even talked on the phone. We agreed on the price. I'm really excited because she lives close to me and will come to my house or I can go to her house. She is legit.

She now informs me that she requires a Skype session before we meet. She wants me to make a full deposit into her Paypal account. I told her I won't do that. She then says we can meet for lunch, but she requires me to make a deposit into her Paypal account first.

I told her that on this site there are bold red letters saying never send money. There are so many posts by men who claim to have been scammed by sending money before meeting. She said there are so many men who are scammers and Pro-Dommes require a deposit to make sure he is real. I told her I'm more than happy to make the full payment, but only when we meet for a session. She got upset at me and discontinued our conversation.

I understand her point of view. But why can't she understand my point of view?

I could deposit money into her Paypal account before meeting - this is the only way she will meet me. But then I might end up like all these other men who got scammed. All the posters will say, "DON'T YOU KNOW HOW TO READ? NEVER SEND MONEY LIKE THAT!!" Why can't she understand this?

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/25/2017 9:44:11 PM

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You both refuse to compromise. Offer an alternative ( make a donation to a favorite charity in her name..even 10 bux) or move on...she did.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/25/2017 10:07:49 PM

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She told me it had to be a deposit into her Paypal account. That is the only way she would meet me. I sincerely believe she was a legit person and wasn't here to scam people. She demanded payment first to weed out all the fakes and scammers.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/25/2017 10:32:41 PM

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Why can't she understand this?

Why she is unwilling to change her mind is irrelevant, it's clear that she's not going to. Move along and find someone else.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 8:04:44 AM

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Tell her you're going to your local munch and would be delighted to meet her there. That shows that you seriously are willing to meet.

If she's not willing, then you know this is just a scam.

You aren't in a rural area with no local community. Why haven't you gone to meet people yet?

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 9:32:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: WMDom26CA

I enjoy reading the forums and I was hoping to get some opinions.

I'm looking for a Pro-Domme who lives near me and most of the ones I meet on this site don't seem to be legit.

In any case, I finally met someone. We have chatted, exchanged pictures, and even talked on the phone. We agreed on the price. I'm really excited because she lives close to me and will come to my house or I can go to her house. She is legit.

She now informs me that she requires a Skype session before we meet. She wants me to make a full deposit into her Paypal account. I told her I won't do that. She then says we can meet for lunch, but she requires me to make a deposit into her Paypal account first.

I told her that on this site there are bold red letters saying never send money. There are so many posts by men who claim to have been scammed by sending money before meeting. She said there are so many men who are scammers and Pro-Dommes require a deposit to make sure he is real. I told her I'm more than happy to make the full payment, but only when we meet for a session. She got upset at me and discontinued our conversation.

I understand her point of view. But why can't she understand my point of view?

I could deposit money into her Paypal account before meeting - this is the only way she will meet me. But then I might end up like all these other men who got scammed. All the posters will say, "DON'T YOU KNOW HOW TO READ? NEVER SEND MONEY LIKE THAT!!" Why can't she understand this?

You and Ilovestarbucks should get together and write a book.

I'm going to pass on responding to this trolling attempt. Peace!

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 10:58:09 AM

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I can understand her frustration because yes there are a lot of fakes. Please note I didn't use the word scammer. As a pro I do require payment for services. My personal code is, that's all you pay for. Not time and not for conversation. In my opinion, she knew enough to get you excited and hooked but never really had any intention of meeting. Just my perspective

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 11:28:15 AM

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So you are on a life-style site but you look for a Pro-Domme, then you're in Riverside, part of Greater LA, and you can't find a professional Domme? WOW

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 2:15:55 PM

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 4:44:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: WMDom26CA

I enjoy reading the forums and I was hoping to get some opinions.

I'm looking for a Pro-Domme who lives near me and most of the ones I meet on this site don't seem to be legit.

In any case, I finally met someone. We have chatted, exchanged pictures, and even talked on the phone. We agreed on the price. I'm really excited because she lives close to me and will come to my house or I can go to her house. She is legit.

She now informs me that she requires a Skype session before we meet. She wants me to make a full deposit into her Paypal account. I told her I won't do that. She then says we can meet for lunch, but she requires me to make a deposit into her Paypal account first.

I told her that on this site there are bold red letters saying never send money. There are so many posts by men who claim to have been scammed by sending money before meeting. She said there are so many men who are scammers and Pro-Dommes require a deposit to make sure he is real. I told her I'm more than happy to make the full payment, but only when we meet for a session. She got upset at me and discontinued our conversation.

I understand her point of view. But why can't she understand my point of view?

I could deposit money into her Paypal account before meeting - this is the only way she will meet me. But then I might end up like all these other men who got scammed. All the posters will say, "DON'T YOU KNOW HOW TO READ? NEVER SEND MONEY LIKE THAT!!" Why can't she understand this?

Dude!! That is soooo odd!!

I TOO am looking for a Domme that lives near you!!!

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/26/2017 6:25:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WMDom26CA

I enjoy reading the forums and I was hoping to get some opinions.

I'm looking for a Pro-Domme who lives near me and most of the ones I meet on this site don't seem to be legit.

In any case, I finally met someone. We have chatted, exchanged pictures, and even talked on the phone. We agreed on the price. I'm really excited because she lives close to me and will come to my house or I can go to her house. She is legit.

She now informs me that she requires a Skype session before we meet. She wants me to make a full deposit into her Paypal account. I told her I won't do that. She then says we can meet for lunch, but she requires me to make a deposit into her Paypal account first.

I told her that on this site there are bold red letters saying never send money. There are so many posts by men who claim to have been scammed by sending money before meeting. She said there are so many men who are scammers and Pro-Dommes require a deposit to make sure he is real. I told her I'm more than happy to make the full payment, but only when we meet for a session. She got upset at me and discontinued our conversation.

I understand her point of view. But why can't she understand my point of view?

I could deposit money into her Paypal account before meeting - this is the only way she will meet me. But then I might end up like all these other men who got scammed. All the posters will say, "DON'T YOU KNOW HOW TO READ? NEVER SEND MONEY LIKE THAT!!" Why can't she understand this?

What do you mean by full deposit? Pay for the full session? Don't do it, you will never see her or your money again.

If she is local as you say then offer a lunch or dinner met and you pay for the meal only. If she won't do that move on.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/27/2017 8:44:53 AM

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I'm looking for a Pro-Domme who lives near me

If that's your objective, you live in Califonia, and you're willing to spend a bit of money, then your problem has a straightforward solution. Either attend a munch, or find a dungeon near you and offer to take the dungeon owner out to lunch plus $50 consulting fee, just to talk. Explain you're looking for something on a regular basis, and could she let people know that you aren't just looking to session once. Ask her for her advice. She knows people, and knows where the bodies are buried, so to speak.

If looking online, look places like OK Cupid and SeekingArrangement for women who have things like "dominant optional" in their profiles.

The same advice holds if you're looking for a switch or a sub. There are lots of kinky women in the world, and even more who are kink-curious, especially after 50 Shades.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/28/2017 1:54:25 AM

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She is legit.

She now informs me that she requires a Skype session before we meet.

is, is now was.

you dont need to tell her shit, she knows exactly what she is doing which is playing your ass for a fool.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 6/28/2017 2:00:51 AM

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So you are on a life-style site but you look for a Pro-Domme, then you're in Riverside, part of Greater LA, and you can't find a professional Domme? WOW

'lifestyle' site geebus warn me next time I laughed so hard my gut hurts.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 7/5/2017 10:33:54 AM

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Hey there, So I'm a Pro-Domme and for first time clients I always require a deposit. The deposit covers space rental in the event the client cancels or has no intention of showing up. This happens all the time. Requesting a deposit also protects me from people who may wish me harm. While a civilian can't gain access to information about a PayPal member, the justice department can so if I'm assaulted, the assailant won't get away with it.

When men are hesitant to have a phone call, skype chat or make a deposit it is enough of a red flag for me not to session with him. There's just too much at risk on my end. I don't recommend paying for a session in full prior to a session unless it's a very extended session, but being expected to cover at least $50 or $60 for the space is customary.

True, you may loose $60 but protective measures that Pro-Dommes take keep you and them safe.
Good luck.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 7/5/2017 10:41:46 AM

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As a Pro-Domme, I can't accept a free meal from every person who swears he's serious about booking a session. I require deposits, certainly not full payments, but I pay to book the dungeon I work out of even if my client flakes or not, so I need that covered off the bat by anyone looking to book a session with me. If they cancel within 24 hours prior to the session they get it back, otherwise I have to keep it because I have to pay it.

Aside from that, it's a safety precaution. In the event an assault takes place, a payment can be traced back to an actual person with the help of law enforcement.

I get hundreds of messages a day, out of them there are clients, haters, time wasters, and abusers. Good men don't realize how many shitty men there are out there.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 7/5/2017 6:48:39 PM

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@OP

ProDommes get tons of no-shows. That being said, some of us do require a deposit on a session to weed out time wasters. If she were a well-known and long-time ProDomme then I could understand her wanting a partial deposit of the session fee. However, some things you said raise red flags for me. So I have these questions for you:

1) Does she have a website? Does it look legit?
2) Does she come up in the Max Fisch reviews or directory?
3) Does she actually have a professional dungeon or work in one?
4) What happens when you Google her?
5) Does she sell video clips, phone sessions, etc online?
6) If you look up Dominatrix Directories, how many is she listed in?

Feel free to message me privately if you would like to discuss this further with me.

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RE: A Question About Pro-Dommes - 7/6/2017 5:29:01 AM

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When I first joined this site about 4 years ago I had quite a few males offer me a lot of money to be used as my foot rest while I do mundane things like watch TV or use my laptop etc. I did meet about 10 of them, they would just be on their hands and knees (fully clothed) and I would put my feet on their backs and ignore them, it's not a fetish of mine but it was easy money :) But also a lot stood me up after talking about it for days or weeks, and now I don't bother anymore - it's more trouble than it's worth. The money was nice but I don't need it.

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