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daddy dom? - 7/4/2017 8:27:08 PM

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i am lookin for a daddy i thought i found him to make matters short ill try to shorten what has happened im in a situation that is beyond my control where im putting my baby up for adoption thatll happen in around 6 months. This guy i was talkin to was telling me to have a abortion i get that bec my life hasnt been exactly easy but my ex foster parents r helping me along and i dont really believe in abortion myself. he was saying things like he might not be available im like ok.... but then hed say things like hes waited so long to find me and that im perfect and that really 6 months means a year im just thinkin like if im so great is that horrible to wait and get to know me anyways? idk maybe im wrong...maybe that is long idk i felt pressured to have a abortion and hed say can i see why he is annoyed with the suitation im like ya..,but i am to bec its happening to me....

he also said he wanted the daddy little girl dynamic BUTTTTTT!!!!!! i just asked him "hey can i go to you with any question and not be judged if i live with u JW " and he said yes and why... i said JW bec i want to be able to count on someon and depend on them and he said " yes but if it happens to much i may grow weary." so like um im confused? thats like a huge part of bieng a daddy it means i can RUN TO U with any quetsion and u wont get tired of that...i wont worry if i ask to many questions or if he will get annoyed.....

idk i really like him like a lot and we get along great but idk is it weird to worry about these things or r they small things?

RE: daddy dom? - 7/4/2017 10:32:24 PM

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This guy can't wait 6 months? He's trying to talk you into an abortion you don't want? He's already told you he might get tired of you if you depend on him too much? So far you have told us nothing that makes him a keeper and 3 good reasons to forget him. You're young. You will find the right person but it may not be this year. Until you do get yourself together. Make yourself strong. Yes, even little girls who want a daddy can be strong women.

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/4/2017 10:43:17 PM

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To the OP
If you dont want an abortion, please dont get one to satisfy "daddy" because he is "impatient"
Your Decision is NOT up to him, it is up to YOU. If you have people around you that are helping you, please do not put your trust in a man that wants you to go thru an abortion.
Even if you were to be alone, I wouldnt wish that on any woman.
Please dont fool yourself that he will be around for long.
There will be people in your life what will care for your physical and mental health, he isnt one of them.
Good Luck

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/5/2017 5:22:16 AM

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Ty guys

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/5/2017 5:56:28 AM

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he was saying things like he might not be available im like ok....

Interpretation is if you don't get rid of the baby now, he ain't gonna wait for you to pop it out.

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but then hed say things like hes waited so long to find me and that im perfect and that really 6 months means a year im just thinkin like if im so great is that horrible to wait and get to know me anyways?

You are 100% right. If he genuinely likes you that much and cares about you, 6 months is nothing. He will be patient and want best for you.

Right what he wants is what's best for him. Which is you available to his needs immediately. Look there is nothing wrong with this, some dominants chooses to use emotional blackmail like this to make people do what they want them to do. But you need to ask yourself, is this the type of dominant style you want to be with? It's all 100% him and nothing about you.

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idk maybe im wrong...maybe that is long idk i felt pressured to have a abortion and hed say can i see why he is annoyed with the suitation im like ya..,but i am to bec its happening to me....

Actually, did he meet you before you got pregnant? And somehow you got pregnant with someone else, but not him? A bit confuse about the pregnancy.

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but if it happens to much i may grow weary." so like um im confused?

In another words, he is saying, no you can't always go to him and ask him whatever question you want. He is open to you to a certain limit only. So you are only permitted to do so at the limits he set.

Anyway, I feel the nature of D/S relationship is very subjective and very kink dependent. If what rocks your world is just obeying and pleasing someone. Then all his demands wouldn't be any problems at all.

But personally, I feel this man is a red flag, just because he wants you to abort now so he can have physical access to you or something?

That's not a good character and I would red flag that attitude.

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/5/2017 7:13:18 PM

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"In another words, he is saying, no you can't always go to him and ask him whatever question you want. He is open to you to a certain limit only. So you are only permitted to do so at the limits he set. "

holy shit ur smart

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/9/2017 11:23:58 AM

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He doesnt sound like his views match yours. Move on. On another note, your expectations are unrealistic to a significant degree. Mature a bit before you decide to become a mother.

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/9/2017 12:52:42 PM

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When people show you who they are, believe them. He has told you in oh so many ways he won't be dependable.

Ones inner child can so easily be bruised and suppressed when placed in the care of the wrong person.

Best of wishes in your difficult times and choices. Be kind and gentle to yourself, and forgiving. It takes inner strength to make a hard choice for the betterment of another and oneself.

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/18/2017 11:03:00 AM

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ty every1

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RE: daddy dom? - 7/21/2017 9:39:52 PM

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He doesnt sound like his views match yours. Move on. On another note, your expectations are unrealistic to a significant degree. Mature a bit before you decide to become a mother.

i didnt "decide" this it was forced upon me but ok ty for ur judgment

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RE: daddy dom? - 9/16/2017 7:47:06 AM

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I can sum this up in one word - "run"

Leave this guy alone. You already see what you'd be getting into.

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RE: daddy dom? - 9/16/2017 8:28:32 AM

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If his behavior is this bad now, it will only get worse. I hope you can steer clear to brighter horizons soon.

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RE: daddy dom? - 9/16/2017 9:19:44 AM

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On the other hand, there is such a thing as being too needy. You still need to be able to support yourself, to manage your daily life. Expecting someone else to do everything for you is unfair to them.

You don't appear to be very compatible, and you aren't able right now to view things analytically. I would suggest not searching for a partner now. Instead concern yourself with your future. Look for certificate programs at community colleges that would give you a better job and more ability to be a fully functioning adult.

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RE: daddy dom? - 9/16/2017 10:57:46 AM

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Tell the fucker to go fuck himself.

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RE: daddy dom? - 9/21/2017 1:38:47 PM

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i am lookin for a daddy i thought i found him to make matters short ill try to shorten what has happened im in a situation that is beyond my control where im putting my baby up for adoption thatll happen in around 6 months. This guy i was talkin to was telling me to have a abortion i get that bec my life hasnt been exactly easy but my ex foster parents r helping me along and i dont really believe in abortion myself. he was saying things like he might not be available im like ok.... but then hed say things like hes waited so long to find me and that im perfect and that really 6 months means a year im just thinkin like if im so great is that horrible to wait and get to know me anyways? idk maybe im wrong...maybe that is long idk i felt pressured to have a abortion and hed say can i see why he is annoyed with the suitation im like ya..,but i am to bec its happening to me....

he also said he wanted the daddy little girl dynamic BUTTTTTT!!!!!! i just asked him "hey can i go to you with any question and not be judged if i live with u JW " and he said yes and why... i said JW bec i want to be able to count on someon and depend on them and he said " yes but if it happens to much i may grow weary." so like um im confused? thats like a huge part of bieng a daddy it means i can RUN TO U with any quetsion and u wont get tired of that...i wont worry if i ask to many questions or if he will get annoyed.....

idk i really like him like a lot and we get along great but idk is it weird to worry about these things or r they small things?

How old is he?

Its impossible to tell from your account if he is recommending abortion because he doesn't want to wait 6 months, or if it is because he thinks that is the best thing for a 20 year old former foster kid who doesn't have the resources to be a parent... so I'll reserve judgement on that. Also... you don't mention if it is his child?

As to your other question, again it depends on how old he is. A daddy/little girl relationship can be appealing, but that doesn't mean he necessarily wants an actual child as a partner. He may be looking at your life choices and wondering if you are a little too "little girl" for him.

They don't seem like small things tho. You describe him as "This guy I was talking to", which is a far cry from "I have found my Daddy". I suspect the relationship is probably a non starter and he has just allowed himself to get carried away based on how young you actually are.

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RE: daddy dom? - 9/21/2017 1:41:45 PM

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He doesnt sound like his views match yours. Move on. On another note, your expectations are unrealistic to a significant degree. Mature a bit before you decide to become a mother.

i didnt "decide" this it was forced upon me but ok ty for ur judgment

Do you mean you were raped and became pregnant? That's terrible, and I would focus on working through that before you think about relationships.

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