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Which one is deeper for you? - 7/8/2017 11:40:19 AM   
tamaka


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A severe beating when you are tied up and/or secured in some way so you are helpless because of physical restraints so you are at His/Her mercy. Or... A severe beating where you are not restrained and you are not allowed to move but there are no physical restraints.

Hmmmm...
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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 7/9/2017 12:45:09 PM   
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I know my boy finds it deeper when he's restrained, preferably heavily. He feels like he can "let go" a bit better.

I'm actually the opposite, as a dominant I find it deeper when they aren't restrained, but aren't allowed to move. This is going to come out wrong, please know that I'm not denigrating anyone who prefers restraints, but it feels "more submissive" when they have a choice, and choose to obey, rather than not having the choice to disobey at all.

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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 7/9/2017 2:47:02 PM   
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Neither, each feeds a different need. Sorry, can't be more precise right now because I don't want to have to write a fucking essay on my fucked-upedness.

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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 7/10/2017 3:16:55 AM   
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Not sure if there about "deeper". I don't really feel any 'deepness" to beatings.

But being beaten and trying not to move is alot harder than being beaten bound up for sure. I don't think I can stay still when being beaten. Especially if the pain gets too crazy, I would move. Bondage you are stuck.

So the question is, without bondage to help you stay still, what are the consequences to being unable to stay still? Whatever those consequences can make being bound up and beaten alot more attractive. If there were no consequences, then hell, definitely choosing not bound up.



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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 7/11/2017 4:17:35 AM   
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for me the feeling of being restrained yet unrestrained is a more intense form of restraint

so for me the deeper would be the punishment while unrestrained but not allowed to move

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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 7/14/2017 3:04:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: WindAndSky

I know my boy finds it deeper when he's restrained, preferably heavily. He feels like he can "let go" a bit better.

I'm actually the opposite, as a dominant I find it deeper when they aren't restrained, but aren't allowed to move. This is going to come out wrong, please know that I'm not denigrating anyone who prefers restraints, but it feels "more submissive" when they have a choice, and choose to obey, rather than not having the choice to disobey at all.


As a sub I get that completely.

If you are restrained and you get off on the pain that's great, but if you have to take it unrestrained that is really being submissive to me because you have to overcome your self-preservation instinct (which of course can be a problem in itself).

I have to confess though that it's not the pain that does it for me anyway - its the other person's enjoyment in doing what they want to do, hurting me in the process and it happening whether I "want" it to or not, which is probably the reason for my answer.

For that reason I prefer someone really knowing me and agreeing limits that are to do with outcomes (like damage or the lack of it) rather than using safewords.

Before I start a storm, yes I do understand the risks involved and all of the problems with consent etc. that leads to. It certainly also requires a level of trust, proper negotiation and with faith in someone's abilities which is not always easy to find. The pay off to all the effort only really comes if someone gets off on being Dominant rather than toppy, and you are genuinely responding to something they want to do rather than something you have made up in your head.

That is sometimes not as straightforward as it sounds.

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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 7/19/2017 6:46:10 AM   
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Of course, there's a whole segment who want restraints by itself, who find sadism ruins the bondage.

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RE: Which one is deeper for you? - 8/16/2017 11:15:30 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka

A severe beating when you are tied up and/or secured in some way so you are helpless because of physical restraints so you are at His/Her mercy. Or... A severe beating where you are not restrained and you are not allowed to move but there are no physical restraints.

Hmmmm...


I love both, but the latter is more intense. I could escape if i wanted to, but i won't do it out of love and devotion for my Dom/Master. That's hot!

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