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Do you miss it? - 7/27/2006 9:55:02 PM   
greysunnydays


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Status: offline 		My question is simple. If you're not owned (Or if your Master is out of town for some strange reason.) do you ever miss the control?

I'm currently an unowned slave, and sometimes I have such a strong desire to belong to someone it drives me bonkers. It's like a craving of chocolate that just won't go away. I get into sulky moods because of it. I miss the control very much, and while I'm not looking to jump head first without knowing the person, into a relationship, I still want to find that person and sometimes it's so hard to be patient.

Am I crazy or do others feel like this?
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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/27/2006 10:00:57 PM   
SexyRed


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Status: offline 		You are not crazy and many others feel like that. I am not with anyone at the moment and feel the same, but will not rush into anything. I will wait as long as it takes for the special connection to take place. Just enjoy your life until then!!

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/27/2006 10:09:21 PM   
corsetgirl


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Status: offline 		No, you are not crazy....a couple of years ago, I had this thing called "collar envy" because it seemed to me that everytime I would go to a munch, every sub would be collared but not me.  However, that is only a small part of being owned and I hope to get to that point someday but I am not in a hurry either because I have met more frogs.  It is a part of a learning process, though

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/27/2006 11:38:05 PM   
foxglove716


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Status: offline 		We feel your pain, Grey. Its hard when that need (yes, need) is pushing you there but you dont want to fall for the first reasonably attractive jerk that you cut off in your car and he screams out his window "watch it, whore!". It can be a tightrope walk between instant gratification and self dignity. Tread carefully!

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/28/2006 10:02:16 AM   
nstyslave


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grey, no you aren't crazy, and you are most definitely not alone in those feelings. It is a completeness that nothing else can compare to, nor can anything else come close to sedating this need. Within many elements are missed, control, the freedom "He" gives, and on and on. But, keep the faith...when it's meant to be, it will be. Until then, yes patience is key, as hard as that can be sometimes, "we" simply have to be.

~nsty

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/28/2006 11:18:11 AM   
afeathr


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Joined: 6/1/2006
From: Southern California
Status: offline 		Though I am owned, there are still times when I miss Sir's companionship because his presence is very commanding to me.  We have such an easy D/s relationship, however, that there are times when He has to be forcefully controlling with me so that I can actually "feel" his control over me.  He knows how to do it very well, too... grab my hair and watch my face... I instantly break out into this wicked evil smile and just melt.  He doesn't do it very often, but always knows exactly when I am at my wits ends.

You are not crazy for feeling the way you do.  Control is one of the things that submissives crave in their life.  Missing it makes you totally and absolutely normal.

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/28/2006 11:19:20 AM   
hisforever


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Status: offline 		I am collared and owned by my husband, but he works out of town all week, and usually comes home on weekends, though not this week.  I am having trouble dealing.  I need to feel him, to be on my knees in front of him, the feel of my collar being placed on my neck.  The look in his eyes when he has me tied up and the flogger in his hand.  I deal with this by keeping myself busy with the kids, cleaning, shopping, bascially just running the household and trying not to think about it.  Its hard though, the need is in every cell of my body.  God I hope he comes home soon.

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/28/2006 12:35:01 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		I am owned, but Master and I don't live together, we only see each other about 3 or 4 times a month right now...but hopefull that will change in the future.  And no, you are not crazy!!!  I have a very hard time when we don't see each other and he has me to do things while he is gone that helps me to feel the control... and its working too. 

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/28/2006 12:37:46 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		i cannot miss what i've never had. yes i had a collar (still do, in my desk drawer) but that's just a symbol. the D/s was practically non-existant except for online.

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/28/2006 6:34:47 PM   
MasterRobsalayna


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Status: offline 		alayna misses Master when alayna cannot be with Him physically, but, slave alayna knows that Master always has complete control.  slave checks in with Him periodically on the phone or via email and asks permission for almost everything and when permission cannot be sought (cannot reach Him) then alayna makes decisions based on what Master would likely do or say.

alayna certainly understands the feelings, though, grey.  Whenever alayna "feels" like Master's control has "slipped" alayna invariaable does something stupid to check the tightness of the leash and usually gets a quick answer, though not always the one being sought.

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The only thing in life that i regret is living too many days regretting too many things. Life is for the living and i choose to live!

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RE: Do you miss it? - 7/29/2006 1:01:31 AM   
hispossession


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Status: offline 		nope... you are totally not alone.  My Master and I are separated by 1000 miles and an international border... we've seen each other twice since we entered into this relationship in December... and only have once more planned for sure this year.

I admit that I miss the 'direct' control... I miss the fact that he's not there for me to kneel at his feet and when we're talking and I can tell how tired he is I ache to be there to have been able to do something to lighten his load.  I miss hearing the sound of his breathing and I miss his scent...

I have a ritual that I perform daily.  Master commanded me to create it and it's a way of showing him my devotion every day... he knows that I perform it and trusts me to not simply not do it.  I also, when possible, go about daily duties in the apartment naked since Master has always wanted to have a slave go about her duties naked but since he has children and boarders in his home it's not possible at the moment.  Again, he knows and trusts me to do this without his constant supervision.  Even simple things like eating habits and exercise... I'm expected to do these things, whether I'm in his direct presence or not.  1000 miles and an international border do not make me less his.  It just means that I need to have that much more self discipline and behave in a way that is pleasing to him.  He knows this is my goal and that pleases him.

It must be harder without a Master but perhaps you could put some controls on yourself?  *hugs* I know it's not the same but if it helps I waited 6 1/2 years between meeting Master and being where I am today... the rewards are well worth the wait... hang in there!!


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