peppermint
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Joined: 10/18/2005 From: Montana Status: offline
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My sons' sister was going through and getting rid of the last of the paperwork after their grandparent's passing several years ago. She found paperwork about their father's adoption. We now know the names and ages of my first husband's biological parents, where they lived, and the hospital where he was born. Finding the biological family is a chance to get the medical history we are missing. However, there is the biological family to think about. So far from our online researching it appears that the father passed away a long time ago. We think the mother recently passed. Of course we don't know if they ever told their children that they had a child. You see those stories on TV where biological parents are introduced to the children they gave up years ago. The stories on TV are all happy endings. I know better. I'll bet a lot of times the families would prefer not knowing, and there are hurt feelings. I would not want to cause hurt to anyone. However, that medical history is so important. My first husband had some medical issues. We don't know they were caused by genes or whether being a premature baby caused his problems. When his children were little they often went to the doctors to make sure they were okay and not developing the issues their father had The family now has choices. Do we try to find the families of their biological parents, or do we just forget we ever saw the paperwork? Edited to add: My first husband passed away nearly 20 years ago. The condition that caused his death "might" have been genetic, or maybe not. The adoption took place 65 years ago.
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