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BuxomGoddess714 -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:04:34 PM)
I was going to say "LIES".... but I have forgiven many a Lie lately. So I very much love the way you put it, kyraofMists "a break of trust that cannot be mended". I guess that would go along with once someone becomes acutally untrustworthy. At that point, I'd say it's unmendable, you cannot even believe their "I'm Sorry" any more when they repeatedly lie, manipulate you or think their dishonesty is justifiable. Everyone makes mistakes, but to have no remorse I can't forgive that. Poly is easy with an honest person. Impossible with someone dishonest. Relationships are impossible with a dishonest person and they will find themselves alone and miserable eventually. Thats what betrayal earns you. The person with many friends is a Loyal person. What goes around comes around.

subexec -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:16:41 PM)
Abandonment If you abandon me and/or the family while in any token or collar, this is a deal breaker. Abandonment means leaving without notice or discussion. In other words, you disappear. The longer you are gone without deliberate contact, the harder it will be for you to regain my trust should you try. In order for me to be an effective Master, I must trust that you will not abandon me or the relationship. oooooohhhhhh hold me back...hold me back.......lol

impishlilhellcat -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:23:00 PM)
Lies, cheating, stealing, arrogance, ignorance, abandonment etc.... things of that nature

DelRey -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:30:35 PM)
when you lift her skirt and "she" isn't, but is sporting wood,,,,,,, that would be a deal breaker.... (Crying Game surprise)

popeye1250 -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:31:20 PM)
Drug use, lying. I'm very flexable as far as most things go.

raiken -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:49:50 PM)
[quote]ORIGINAL: kyraofMists What are your deal breakers for a relationship? We all have them, so what are the things that will end a relationship even if the person is highly compatible in other ways with you? Knight’s kyra [/quote] Dishonesty and deception, and a lack of respect for self and for life. Most other things can be worked out and negotiated.

raiken -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:51:19 PM)
[quote]ORIGINAL: DelRey when you lift her skirt and "she" isn't, but is sporting wood,,,,,,, that would be a deal breaker.... (Crying Game surprise) [/quote] Than ya have to do like Crocodile Dundee! "Just checkin" *grinz

Mercnbeth -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:55:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists ...What are your deal breakers for a relationship? We all have them, so what are the things that will end a relationship even if the person is highly compatible in other ways with you?... it has varied throughout this slave's life, but currently, 4 words, strung together exactly thus: "slave, I release you."

MsIncognito -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 2:58:12 PM)
Would it be fair to say, then, that your dealbreaker is someone who isn't willing ot put in the effort? quote: ORIGINAL: SirKenin I like to think that I do not have any. Anything can be worked through if you only put the effort into it.

SirKenin -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 3:06:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsIncognito Would it be fair to say, then, that your dealbreaker is someone who isn't willing ot put in the effort? quote: ORIGINAL: SirKenin I like to think that I do not have any. Anything can be worked through if you only put the effort into it. No, actually, but I had to think about that for a minute. Please allow Me to explain why. When My wife and I first separated, I wanted to try again, but she did not. Finally, as time went by, she agreed to give Me another chance, but I had to put in all the effort because I am the one that wanted the chance. She did not. So, not willing to admit failure and give up I agreed. I starting putting in the effort. Now it seems that effort is paying off as she is starting to put in effort of her own and things seem more like they will heal. If they do in fact heal, I will be forever thankful that I never gave up.

raiken -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 3:25:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirKenin No, actually, but I had to think about that for a minute. Please allow Me to explain why. When My wife and I first separated, I wanted to try again, but she did not. Finally, as time went by, she agreed to give Me another chance, but I had to put in all the effort because I am the one that wanted the chance. She did not. So, not willing to admit failure and give up I agreed. I starting putting in the effort. Now it seems that effort is paying off as she is starting to put in effort of her own and things seem more like they will heal. If they do in fact heal, I will be forever thankful that I never gave up. That is a VERY good way to view it. i did the same with my ex, in a way, sort of, i can still say that i never gave up, and so when i look back i am FREE of regret. However, when he asked me for TWO second chances LOL, he STILL didn't put the effort and so i had nothing left in me after everything. i put the effort twice over for his chances! But that is okay, for i listened to my instincts and did what i felt was right, and i learned valuable life lessons from the whole experience and it actually served to make me a better person after all was said and done. Now we are close friends, the closest we have ever been, and that is some consolation, for i want the father of my children to be a man they can feel proud of, if at all possible...*grinz Hope it works for you.

marieToo -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 4:47:07 PM)
Fear would be (has been) an immediate deal breaker; fear for my safety and/or well-being.

mnottertail -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 5:05:25 PM)
THAT is why; we are going to have talks about the eggs you serve me when I have breakfast........because I fear you.......... Ron

DesertRat -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 5:15:44 PM)
Infidelity. Jealousy play. Lack of a balanced humility. Insensitivity and unkindness. Thoughtless, ill-considered utterances are a turnoff, too, but if a girl becomes willing to work on things like that, then it's not necessarily a dealbreaker. Other things like racism, being unkind to animals and the like just go without saying, right? Bob

Homestead -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 5:54:24 PM)
Insanity.

KnightofMists -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 6:14:15 PM)
Reckless regard for self and/or others

WyrdRich -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 6:15:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MmakeMme An inherent lack of respect. Whew! Good thing I'm off the market.

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 6:33:42 PM)
SirKenin's answer made me give pause. In a long-term committed relationship, few things would make me walk out. It would be a terrible wound if someone was adulterous or lied in a big way, but with mutual commitment, these things could be overcome. Sexual abuse of a minor would be an exception. I couldn't deal with that. Someone like that needs treatment and compassion, but it hits too close to home for me to stick around for. In a developing relationship: egregious lying, infidelity, drug or alcohol abuse (shades of childhood), a lack of ethics, cruelty, an explosive temper, a lack of desire to have children, racism/homophobia.

bigdaninwi -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 6:39:57 PM)
Excellent responses, many gave me reason to pause and think about my response. I have found a person who I really giving myself to. I have given this person my committment that I will not leave, under any circumstances. We will try to work out anything that comes along. There are things that would profoundly hurt me, seeing another dom without my permission, and straight out lying to me are some. Yet, my submissive is an extension of me, she is that other half of me. She completes me. While it would be painful, I believe I could over-come..everything including have wood under her shirt :p (already checked a few times..not an issue). Thanks for the great question. Bigdan

TheOriginalBitch -> RE: Deal Breakers (8/8/2006 6:52:18 PM)
People who do not shower and wash their hair at least once a day. People who do not brush their teeth at least 3 times a day. People who smoke, drink or use drugs. People who lie, cheat or steal. But My number one deal breaker is People who do not, will not or refuse to COMMUNICATE. Mistress "The Original Bitch"

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