It all, quite honestly, comes down to obedience.
I agree with Sea, that I find the term "forced" to be highly debatable. If one finds it exciting to be obedient in this manner, then it really isn't taking you outside of any comfort zone. Rather, it is fulfilling a fantasy and giving you a high. Therefore, it isn't truly forced.
In a D/s or M/s relationship, it is wonderful if the slave is willing, but often, that willingness only translates into what the slave wanted anyway. I, personally do not mind a bit of a mental struggle. It is satisfying to see that and then see the slave bend to your will. However, often, if the slave is not in the mood, or didn't realize that even simple things would be hard, and the struggle escalates, that is when I draw back.
S/m, such as you describe is harder and more related to particular scenes. I would not "force" someone who might be psychologically or emotionally damaged by it. But if all I want is a simple haircut, or a certain style of clothing, and I find that is not to be My domain either, then I have to give things a second think.
They that give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety
Don't blame Me ~ I didn't vote for either of them
The Hidden Kingdom